A Word on Candor
				A preemptive weaseling out of an apology by Julian Hernandez
		Something that you should know at the onset of this enterprise is that I won't be dancing around subjects.  I may get verbose from time to time, (especially when I drink), or use ornate language to get the rusty wheels in the knoggin' turning a bit, but I will be giving it to you straight by the time I'm done.  Many people, particularly women, do not communicate ths way.  I don't mean to offend.  It's a simple matter of fact that men and women communicate dissimilarly and one of those fundemental differences is that men often employ simpler, more direct language.  Ladies, be careful when men don't, something may be amiss.  (Check part 1 of my series on gender differences for elaboration on some of these points).      If I don't utilize the most tactful,  around-the-point-in-80-sentences way of imparting an idea, try and work with me.  If I make a joke within an article about something serious to lighten the mood a bit and you don't laugh, forgive me.  And if I use language that you might consider coarse, abrasive, or offensive, pretty please, with sugar on top, get the fuck over it.       Women are said to be the stronger sex.  I have seen many strong women, (and many weak men), prove this true.  Women are very proud of their ability to handle the rigors of gestation and labor.  Kudos.  So I think that we shouldn't have any problems with a few words that may not perfectly accomodate your particular sense of humor or belief system.  If you encounter a problem like this, remember your lamaze: Breathe.      I feel that it is more important to be honest than overly careful.  Of course, this is not always true, but I have seen the truth get lost in a sea of comforting support sentences too many times.  I am a sensitive guy.  I am not saying that I will frequently pen caustic columns, but others can be decidedly more sensitive about certain issues than I am so I wanted to give a fair warning.  This is all meant to be positive and insightful, an exercise in educating each other and bridging the gap between the sexes.  Let's keep that larger goal in mind when a potentially controversial issue arises and I put my foot in my mouth. I think we'll be okay :)
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