This can be anything from Skiing to Accounting. (This must be a talent for something other than being a mack.) You must stick with it until you master it. Read the book, "Mastery" for more info on how to do this. Mastering this talent means it can make you a living!!
Manuals I - XII will give you guidelines on how do develop not only a "good" personality, but a personality that women will find irresistible -- i.e., the personality of a true WHORE. That's right, follow these principles along with your talent and the third skill (listed below) and all women who get to know you will eventually want to pay you for sex. I guarantee it.
This takes some work that is independent of simply understanding the manuals or of just being a master of a talent. This requires you to actually attempt to pick up hotties when you see them. But understand that the secret here is to keep from being the hunter. Mastery can only come with large amounts of practice and, yes, some huge, embarrassing failures. Get over it! If you fail to develop this skill, you will be a slave to beautiful women for your whole life. Even worse, you'll probably have to settle either for unattractive women, prostitutes, or your hand to get off. The trick to this skill is in making yourself as physically presentable as possible to the broadest range of women, and then -- most importantly -- learning a concise way to demonstrate your personality to a woman that has never seen you before. Beautiful women don't really need this skill to attract men since most men are willing to explore an intimate relationship with a woman solely based on the woman's physical attractiveness. While some women are like men in this respect, our research suggests that the majority of hot women need more than mere physical beauty to be present in a man if she is to consider exploring an intimate relationship with him; she must also somehow get to know the man's personality and then deem it "good." In fact, most -- the more intelligent/more attractive ones -- will actually prefer a cool dude who's not that physically attractive to a less cool dude who's much better looking.
Manual XIII deals quite extensively with developing this second crucial skill so check it out.
Also, keep reading the other manuals until they transform you into the ULTIMATE WHORE. After all, there would be no advantage in learning a concise way to convey your personality to a woman you've never seen before, if your basic personality falls short of what she deems "good" in the first place. Dig?
INITIAL CONSIDERATION: Study your interaction with your mother. Are you overbearing? Are you mean to her? Are you cutting her off? Are you telling her what to do? Are you listening to what she has to say? Are you talking "at" her and not "with" her? Are you being impatient, moody, letting it all hang out in a bad way? No big deal if you are -- but if you answered yes to any of these questions, you've found a critical reason for your inability to relate to women. You secretly want them to be quiet while you unload your bullshit. Damn son!MANUAL I
Never discuss the "we" or "us."
Be joyous and hold others (especially her) up--not down. Remember, she is never responsible for your sadness.
(4/10/04) She won't be able to see you because you lose yourself around her. She'll just think that is you and that you're a lame-o.
You do this because you've somehow become convinced that she can offer you more than you can offer her. Maybe you think her great beauty can fetch a far better price than you? But what is that better price? A better looking guy?
Given the fact that a pretty woman has most likely had more than her share of great looking guys -- a much greater number, by far, than you or even some super chiseled GQ model has had of great-looking women -- she's most likely grown tired (and if not, she will grow tired) of simply going for "lookers." What she wants is a fun guy. Why? Because she sees him as the rarity/catch. In fact, most pretty women are so sick of good-looking, boring guys, that they actually either avoid dating good looking guys or -- and this is an important observation -- they're assessment of looks becomes almost completely dictated by how the guy makes them feel. If a guy can make things fun for her, she'll think he's the hottest dude on the planet.
This is why you must be your normal fun self around a woman. Don't lose yourself over the thought that she's out of your league. If you're super cool and fun, as this manual will teach you to be, believe me, you're in all likelihood, out of her league. Don't let it go to your head.
Many have said: "Just be yourself." But what about this point? -- The idea of "just being yourself" in a relationship has become incoherent for men. You now choose your women in order to help form the very conception you have of yourself. Only if you attract a beautiful (and kind) woman do you believe yourself to be the sort of guy who gets women of that caliber. If she dumps you suddenly, the devastation comes in part from suddenly having to doubt the previous conception you had of yourself. Since the status of your relationships has this influencing effect on your self-conception, there is no coherent way to "just be yourself" around a prospective girlfriend. When you try to carry it out, you're reduced to an unreflective, non-unified set of impulses. It's not a pretty picture.
If the above paragraph doesn't apply to you, you may already be a whore, in which case you are advised to read on and sharpen your skills further.
The concern raised above illustrates the essence of the wrong thinking I've outlined in the entry before it. All you have to be is cool and fun to attract a hottie. And a hottie liking you doesn't necessarily tell you that you're cool and fun. She may be wrong, and -- believe me -- if and when she finds out she was, she'll dump you. Cool and fun guys attract hot women. Boring and lame dudes -- even good looking ones -- don't. End of story.
Interestingly: Insecure hot women are basically in the same trap as insecure cool dudes -- but in reverse. They only consider themselves pretty if they can attract fun and cool dudes. If they can't -- if all they seem to get are boring, good-looking guys -- they will begin to harbor grave doubts about their attractiveness. Hard to believe, but true.
If you harbor even the slightest insecurity about yourself, it and nothing else will eventually come out as a very un-pretty outburst the minute you get weak around her.
How do you eradicate insecurity about yourself? This is a complex question that has a simple answer: Learn how to be a whore. A whore knows he is cool. After all, he's not only a person, he's a valuable product!
Believe me, you will never eradicate insecurity through direct attempts to get a particular hottie to like you (i.e., through visits, calls, flowers, compliments, and so on). In fact, if you go to her with this in mind you will not only make her like you less, your insecurity about yourself -- being dependent on her liking you -- will grow larger.
So what do you do?
What you can do is continue to practice your non-whore related talent. Now's your chance! Women really do take up a lot of valuable time that could be used making yourself an even grander master in the craft of your choosing. Take advantage of being alone -- PRACTICE -- because once you start to absorb this manual, you'll have to beat the hotties off with a stick!
What you can do is try your luck with any and every hot woman you see. Remember: there are tons more hot women then cool guys (about 100 to 1)-- so you, being a cool guy, owe it to each and every one them to give them a chance with you. If they fail to see your coolness, wish them luck (cuz they're gonna need it with those odds) and move on to the next one.
Easier said than done, right? On paper it all makes sense. But when you see a woman on the street or in the subway, something keeps you from doing what the above tells you to do. What is it? I mean, why can't you just go up to her and say something and start a conversation? The problem is you don't think of this part of the game as fun. You see it as a kind of chore that you must do so that you can maybe (and this is a big maybe) get to the part you think of as "fun." Have fun with just talking to an attractive woman. Don't be concerned with results or what she's thinking. Have a good time and stop when it is no longer fun. It IS fun to meet someone new. It stimulates your mind. At the same time, your brain evolves; you learn much more about yourself and the world from talking to people directly than you do from reading books or watching the news. Do it for this reason, not because you think you need to get laid.
One way to have fun in this area is to imagine that the encounter is unfolding on a stage or in a movie. There's an audience watching you and you want to entertain them. What will you say to get THE AUDIENCE interested in watching? If the encounter never becomes interesting, that'll be the girl's fault not yours and it'll also be your cue to "exit stage left" or "end scene."
Heavy emotion, if not given in small sips--like cognac--is repulsive.
Praise is like currency. It gets devalued the more it is produced. If you constantly praise her, you will quickly need truckloads of such praise to cause even the slightest effect.
One must always keep in mind that the woman is a genius with the sense of humor of an eight-year-old. The man is, on the other hand, more often an idiot with the attention span of a toothless dirty old fool.
When your mind draws a blank, imagine you are an eight year old. Place yourself in that wide-eyed mind state. Think about what would catch a child's attention. Become a child.
When you're around a woman that you'd like more from than idle chit chat, something happens to you. Your mind goes blank. You can't think of anything to say to her. After all, you probably don't know her that well and you don't want to freak her out, but you really do wish to impress her. This makes you scramble to "keep her talking" asking her dumb questions -- like where she's from and other bullshit like that. In your attempt to be non-threateningly normal, you become some sort of boring interviewer in a daytime talk-show. Here you run the risk of coming off as boring -- which spells death for the conversation and ultimately the relationship. If this happens what you should do is simply read off your current thoughts. What are you thinking about in that moment? Just say it to her. It will most likely be a lot more interesting to her than anything you're going to "think up" on the spot. For example you can tell her: "Y'know I can't think of one damn thing to talk to you about. Has that ever happened to you?" Mix it with some relaxed good humor, voice-tone, and body language (don't fidget -- do breathe). You'll come off as much more real. Why? Well, because that's what being real is: saying what's on your mind (instead of hiding it by asking questions just to keep her talking).
One must keep one's distance at all times. Do not phone (or e-mail) a woman unless she phones you or unless enough time has elapsed to make the call a pleasant surprise. She will find you new forever.
THE ABOVE RULE IS REALLY PROBABLY THE MOST IMPORTANT IN THIS MANUAL SO DON'T UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES VIOLATE IT!!!!
I'm telling you, ANY situation can be fixed by this rule. There are no hopeless situations when you remain disciplined in this manner, believe me. This is just how women are and there is nothing you can fucking do about it, cry as you may.
How long should you wait? I've devised a mathematical equation to answer that question. Take the number of days since the last time she e-mailed, called, or visited double it, then double it again. But that's not all. You must then meet -- just meet -- 10 new hot women for every time you called (or e-mailed or visited) and didn't get a response from her. If, of course, you've lost count of the last number (because you were being an impatient wuss), 30 will do just fine. While it would be good to "get with" one or all of these new women, it is not at all necessary to do that. All you are required to do is introduce yourself. However, if it seems like one them likes you (learn to read body language -- read the BOOK, "BODY LANGUAGE" to know more about it -- but if she's talking to you she likes you), then ask for a phone number.
MANUAL XIII will treat the "art of the pick up" more extensively, so look out for it soon.
Brief impressions are the most binding on the female heart. Lengthy contact with the man only breeds boredom and dissatisfaction. Once these two beasts have settled within her, they are hard-pressed to leave. Don't worry though, a good chunk of time apart will heal any problem of this nature.
Every woman needs to recognize in the man a fault, a small flaw she thinks she can fix. Unless she is grossly naive, she will never deem a man flawless. Rightly, she knows there is no such man.
But remember: She takes an interest in the man and his flaw--because she thinks she can fix it. But if the man continues to assert that flaw without any improvement via contact to her, she quickly deems the man hopeless and is very seldom persuaded otherwise.
This flaw will be extremely difficult for you to see--and she will never tell you what it is. Hint: every time you assert it, she will disappear for a while.
