Karma I have lost count of the number of times I have heard people whine about the situation they are in at present...they will scream blue murder at the fact that they are not happy with their life, but they will not actually do anything about it, and have a tendency to blame everyone but themselves for their current predicament. I have one thing to say to this: KARMA! It does not occur to most people that everything you do today, shapes your life tomorrow, and most people unfortunately these days act without thinking, and then complain when they are in difficult circumstances themselves. I am of the strong opinion that WE shape our own lives, and NOBODY is responsible for our situations but OURSELVES. Stop and think about that one a minute - think about what you do every day, how you see things...are you worried yet? Most of us tend to think about things in a negative way without realising it, and without making the connection that negative thoughts will attract negativity, and so the cycle continues. I have no sympathy for people who blame everyone for their difficulties but who will not take a good long hard look at themselves. I also believe that every human being must go through some difficulties in life, or we would never learn anything! That is why I believe we have "rough patches" in our lives, to teach us things that we would not otherwise learn...I also believe that that is why some of us go through the same problems over and over again but with different people and places, because we did not grasp the lesson the first time round, and sometimes the Universe has to take drastic measures to make us get the message. I know about this one first hand from my experience with my ex...I was with him for nine years, but he left me six times in those nine years, each time when I was either pregnant or with a new baby, and would keep coming back and making promises that he had changed. I would keep taking him back because I felt I NEEDED him and I believed that because we were married it was my duty to make sure I had given 110 percent to make things work before I would walk away from it. In that nine years I went through absolute hell, and it seemed that everyone but me could see what was going on...but after he left me with a three month old baby, in favour of a 17 year old girl who he got pregnant straight away, I finally got the message that the Universe was trying to get through to me! I also believe that I was drawn to keep taking him back by karma...I still do not fully understand exactly what the nature of that karma was, but it took nine years to work through, and obviously there were a lot of unresolved issues from past lifetimes for it to take that long to sort out to the point where I could let go of it and move on. It took me that whole nine years before I was at a point where I felt I could live without him, that I was strong enough to stand on my OWN two feet and didn't need him to survive...the lessons I learned from that experience were strength in the face of all difficulties, and that no matter how hard it looks, there is always a solution to be found, even if it is not the quick fix or easy solution I had hoped for...I have also learned to be very resourceful, after having to survive bringing up five children single handed on welfare payments. I got my reward in the end though, as only two months after my ex left me, I found the love of my life and now have everything I ever hoped for. So I figure that I paid my dues where my ex was concerned, and I feel that if I hadn't been through what I have, I would maybe not have met my soulmate because I would not have been ready for it and would not have been the same, wiser person that I am now. I believe life goes in ups and downs, and you have to go through a bad patch to get to the good stuff...in my case I think maybe because if I hadn't seen how bad life could get with my ex, I would maybe not appreciate my soulmate for the wonderful person he is, and would maybe have taken him for granted and not really understood how good he is to me. Who knows? :) I still have to fully let go of my ex, as the whole thing is fairly recent, but I know that I have the better end of the karmic deal here, as I am totally happy in my newfound relationship, and secure in the knowledge of my soulmate's love :) So, while I don't fully understand the mechanics of that particular karmic debt, I do understand now that it is paid in full, and lucky for me, my reward is in this lifetime. Now my future is looking bright...and what about my ex? He is stuck in the same old rut, with a girlfriend he rushed into a relationship with, a new baby and kids he makes no effort to take care of, and still no job prospects or future...my guess is that he will be stuck in the same unhappy situation until he learns to take responsibility for his own actions, stops blaming others, and gets off his butt and makes his own life! Poetic justice really ;) For those of you who are saying "oh but you are taking pleasure in the misfortune of another"...maybe I am gloating a little, but my take on it is that after nine years of hell, and coming up smelling of roses, I guess I am entitled to do so...especially since my ex STILL doesn't see anything wrong with what he did and insists that he has done nothing he shouldn't have. I could be very bitter about the whole thing, and indeed at first I was (my attitude was, "you bastard, how DARE you do this to me!"), but now that I have survived that and found happiness, I really feel nothing but pity for my ex, as I have an idea how much hardship and difficulty he is going to go through for the next umpteen years till he learns his lessons, and also how much he is going to inflict on those around him in the process. However, I digress...but you get the idea, that your actions are basically what shapes your karma, so it pays to think carefully about what you are doing and why, BEFORE you do it, and to listen to what your situation is telling you about yourself and things you may need to work on :) |