STARTING OUT GOOD.

One of the things that put marriage in trouble is finance. When money stop role it is heads that role. Many financial problem could have been put down before the people get marriage. You saw a intended spouse with fifteen different credit cards, that suppose to tell you something. Young people think it look cool. But do you know who is going to pay back all that credit card money? "You". You have just married off yourself into problem.

ALL MARRIAGE HAVE PROBLEMS.

There is no trouble free marriage, trouble free job, nor trouble free church. All have their share of ups and down. Especially if they are effective against Satan kingdom.

DEALING WITH CONTENTION AND SUSPICIONS.

Contention sometime spring from suspicions. Suspicions comes from thoughts that is put in our mind by Satan's demons, and by people. You must ask your spouse, concerning these suspicions that you are having. If you sit back and keep it in, it will continue to boil up into ill-feelings, that base upon nothing.

NEVER WALK AWAY FROM SOMETHING THAT YOU HAVE TO RETURN TO.

It is good to walk away from a stranger who want to have a verbal fight, because you are not going to see them again. But it is best to stay and listen to your spouse, and give them a chance to vent. You have to strategies. If you do not understand this part it is best to walk away. If you keep a cool head, and watch your tone of voices, you can help the person to bring up what they are griping on, and get the problem over with right there and then. Never walk away from a griping wife, keep a cool head and give her the time to bring up what is bothering her. Once again, not walking away can be dangerous if you do not understand what I am trying to say. Only one thing, the griping wife you leave at home, is the same griping wife you are going to return to and she will be more angry, because you refuses to listen.

RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD.

If our relationship with God, and God words is out of order, our relationship with others will never be good either.

PUTTING THE WORD OF GOD INTO PRACTICE.

Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger] Gentleness will disarm the most furious, but angry words will produce wrath. soft answer turneth away wrath] Five examples of turning away wrath: 1. Aaron (Leviticus 10:16-20) 2. Reubenites (Joshua 22:15-34) 3. Gideon (Judges 8:1-3; Proverbs 15:18) 4. Hannah (1 Samuel 1:15-17) 5. Abigail (1 Samuel 25:23) [but grievous words stir up anger] Five examples of grievous words: 1. The Ephraimites (Judges 12:1-4) 2. Men of Israel and Judah (2 Samuel 19:41) 3. Saul and Jonathan (1 Samuel 20:30-34) 4.Rehoboam (2 Chron. 10:13-16) 5Eliphaz (Job 22:5

COMMITMENT.

Our commitment is before our partner, before society and before God. Marriage is God tools to help us become all that he wants us to be.

LOVE ALONE IS NOT ENOUGH.

Love is an action, constructive behaviour, regardless of how you feel at the moment. Love that changes with mood is not love, but infatuation. When I feel good about you I speak good of you, and when I feel bad, I quickly forget all your goodness and pick on the one bad spot in your lives, and talk about it is not love.

COMMUNICATION.

Intelligence can sometime have a negative as well as a positive effect upon communication. The levels of education between two people can have a negative effect upon communication. For example, one person ask the other. "Jane! did you see my wallet?"Jane reply: Why you asking me for your B#@@ FCCR#@? I did not trouble your wallet!. Jane answer this way because she do not know the difference between a question and an accusation. She think he was accusing her. Some people do not know the difference between an applaud, and a sarcasm, a suggestion, and a complain, a complement and a insult. When we choose a spouse base on physical appearances alone, we easily run into shipwreck of faith. When one person doing the talking, that is not communication. That is a prison camp, even in collage when the instructors are teaching, others allow to give feedback. Your spouse must be your best friend. If your spouse is not your best friend, you have got a problem.

LISTENING.

Listening increase knowledge, and give new ideas.

LEVEL OF COMMUNICATION.

Casual.

Reporting facts.

Sharing ideas.

Sharing facts, emotions, and complete personal disclosure.

HOW MUCH OF WHAT WE SAY GET THROUGH!

What you mean to say, what you actually say, what they think you say. Our Tone of voice bring across 38% of what people think we say. So be careful of your tone of voice, it could be giving the wrong messages. None verbal languages, like silence, gestures and body language bring across 58% of what people think we are saying. Our actual words only bring across 7% of what we are actually saying.

THINGS THAT KILL MARRIAGE.

Marriage have many thing that put it off course, and finally kills it.

NO SENSE OF HUMOR.

A marriage that have no humor and laughter is a dead marriage.

NO MUTUALITY LOVE.

Sirach 25:1 With three things I am delight, for they are pleasing to the Lord and man: Harmony among brethren, friendship among neighbors, and the mutual love of husband and wife. A marriage will not get far without mutuality. If you husband invite you out for dinner, this week. The next time around, you must invite him out. If the wife approaches for intercourse this week, the next time the husband must do the approaching. One spouse must not be doing all the work.

BAD INFLUENCE.

Bad influence is the people we hang around and talk to. Did you know that a person can side with you and broke up your life? One of the job I quit, all the people that was complaining about the job, and saying that they are going to quit. Are still working there. One woman is telling my wife to throw me out, then the same woman came and offer to rent me a room at here house.

BEWARE OF MIND POISONERS.

Sirach 42:13. For just as moths comes from garments, so harm to women comes from women. Sirach 37:7. Every counselor points out a way, but some counsel ways of their own; be on the alert when one proffers advice, find out first of all what he wants. For he may be thinking of himself alone; why should the profit fall to him? Even pastors sometimes take part in the actions of braking up would be couple. I could do fifty pages on pastors and sisters alone. Once you get a proposal from a man keep it to yourself. You might have heard the song "So what? Big deal" Women do not like when the other woman get lucky. This cause the other woman to feel left out, and feel inferior, epically women who are in the Church for a long time and never get a husband This causes those left out women to make suggestions that are intended to disrupt the new relationship, and have you trapped in the same predicament.

BAGGAGE.

Many people came into the marriage with baggage. These baggage are previous let down experience. A Smart person will never start a new relationship until they have gotten over the old one that was no Good.

Amos 3:3-AV Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

Matthew 19:4-AV And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made [them] at the beginning made them male and female, Matthew 19:5-AV And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Matthew 19:6-AV Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Ephesians 5:24-AV Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing. Ephesians 5:25-AV Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Colossians 3:18-AV Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Colossians 3:19-AV Husbands, love [your] wives, and be not bitter against them.

1Timothy 5:14-AV I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.

Ephesians 5:23-AV For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

1Timothy 2:13-AV For Adam was first formed, then Eve. 1Timothy 2:14-AV And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.

1Timothy 3:11-AV Even so [must their] wives [be] grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things.

Titus 2:3-AV The aged women likewise, that [they be] in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; Titus 2:4-AV That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, Titus 2:5-AV [To be] discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Titus 2:6-AV Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded.

Unjust suspicions often engender hatred between husband and wife and may prompt a wife to commit those faults of which heretofore she hath been innocent.

REASONS FOR DIVORCE

1 Corinthians 7:8-AV I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. 1 Corinthians 7:9-AV But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

A man and a woman can do every thing biblical legal without marriage, except sex. They can open a business together. Buy cars, houses, and go to the beaches. We can conclude that the main reason for matrimony is sex. 1 cor 7:8-9. Teaches that there are some people who cannot do without sex.

IF A SPOUSE IS DELIBERATELY DEFRAUDING THE OTHER, THE GROUND FOR A DIVORCE IS ESTABLISH.

1 Corinthians 7:5-AV Defraud ye not one the other, except [it be] with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

The thing that Christians women practice against their husbands, has set up the marriage for an affair. An affair expose the marriage to dangerous diseases. Bear in mind that there are some people who cannot do without. One man get gonerriah, he was standing beside a tree and urinating. The pain that he was feeling causes him to bite the tree like a mule. The pain drive some men mad. Any behaviour that set the stage for an affair, has came from a spirit of rebellions and is not of God, since God say he hate divorce.

GOD SAY HE HATE DIVORCE.

Malachi 2:14-AV Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet [is] she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. He did not say he hate the people. He say he " hates divorce" Malachi 2:15-AV And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. Malachi 2:16-AV For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for [one] covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

DIVORCE WAS PERMITTED BECAUSE OF THE REASON MENTION BELOW.

Matthew 5:32-AV But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. )( Any actions that set the stage for adultery.

1 Corinthians 7:2-AV Nevertheless, [to avoid] fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 1 Corinthians 7:3-AV Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 1 Corinthians 7:4-AV The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

1 Corinthians 7:5-AV Defraud ye not one the other, except [it be] with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

BEFORE GETTING MARRIED.

Money and sex has proven to be a great problem in marriage. some Christian women scare of having sex with their husband because the man want oral and anal sex from them. This cause the women to become fridge, since she have never known these things before. The couple should talk about these delicate problems and decide which way they want to go, before getting married. Also sign a pre-marital agreement, to protect yourselves. When the men came in pretending to be drunk, and trying to go into the wrong office.

Most Christian women arrive at the conclusion that because the man say he is a Christian, that mean he is straight. A Clean man, and straight man is almost non existence now. I am the only man ( I know ) who is afraid to put my stuff in people's mouth, because I do not want to get it bite of. Standing there with my eyes pulp, and my tongue hanging out.

The End