To this end, K9 and I agree: "If a woman wants to be treated like a man in all aspects then let her open my door, let her pull out my chair, let her do all the little things I've been trained by my parents to do since I was a child. Again, I'm not saying that they have no point in some of their points... but make sure that you realize all the things we do for you. We have to be gentlemen. We have to spoil you. We have to make sure you feel loved and are the most important thing in our lives or we are doing wrong. Our society dictates that we as men should provide on all levels for our women. We should work, help around the house, entertain, spoil, and cherish our women. But please take all this into consideration before you say that men have it easier and women are always short- changed."
I think he has a point. But I also think that the majority of men DON'T "work, help around the house, entertain, spoil, and cherish women." If my own experiences count for anything, most men are manipulative, selfish, and complete believers of the double standards imposed on women, whether they admit it or not. Women can be real bitches, I know this, but I still think that the number of men who disrespect and mistreat women by far outweighs the number of women who do the same to men.
Most men may have to deal with women whining about romance and chivalry, and be wary of gold-digging, heartless bitches, but most women, sadly enough, have to worry that the men they are involved with may be leading double lives, lying from the simplest things, like how they spent their day, to the gravest, such as who else they're sleeping with.
For women, the consequences of double standards are still greater. Beyond the realm of romance and relationships, women are hindered by double standards in the workplace, at home, and in society in general. I would give anything to have dated men who drove me nuts by demanding that I be romantic and pull out his chair, than the ones I actually dated, who drove me nuts with behavior that sickened me, from calling me a slut for not being a virgin to telling me I belonged at home cooking to sleeping around and shrugging it off as "normal" male behavior.
I think my friend makes some good points, and I can understand his desire to have women admit that they can be guilty of doing the same bad thing they accuse guys of doing to them. It's not unreasonable to ask us to be aware of this and not act like we don't impose our own double standards. So ladies, we need to see that we do impose a double standard on men. And guys, you need to see that what we impose on you is nothing compared to what you impose on us.
