| Chapter 14 Sternberg's triangular theory of love Intimacy: feelings that promote closeness and connectedness => liking Passion: feelings that promote intense longing for union, including sex => infatuation Commitment => empty love All three is consummate love In Western society, relationships often start as romantic love (intimacy + passion) and move to companionate love (intimacy + commitment) In other societies, emphasis is on companionate love rather than romantic love Role of attachment: internal working model affects person's expectation about partner and relationship Secure attachment => trust, happiness, friendship Avoidant attachment => mistrust of partner, anxiety when people get close Resistant attachment => emotional highs and lows, jealousy Internal model can be altered but it may require extensive work/experience Myths about marriage It's a perpetual bliss Quality of sex life is the best predictor of satisfaction |
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