Yaolee Chen

English 306

Essay One

Maureen Newline

April 2003

 

                                        The Passionate Romance

     Love: The Right Chemistry by Anastasia Toufexis defines the conception of the romance is a result of the chemical reactions.  It is the reactions by the chemical elements in our bodies: the amphetamines and the Oxytocin.  The amphetamines include dopamine, norepinephrine and phenylethylamine (PEA).  These amphetamines give the body a pleasant feeling.  The Oxylocin enhances orgasms and helps the muscle contraction.  The brain produces Oxylocin at the times of sexual climax.  The article gives a picture of the romance that is done by the bodies’ chemistries.  If the second child is born in the third year of a marriage, the marriage manipulated by these chemistries will continue for another four years.  And it explains how the seven-year-itch is for Marlin Monroe instead of the four-year-itch. The bodies’ chemistries are good in some ways because they keep the marriage to exist.  But the bodies’ chemistries can be bad to the adolescents because they invite the teenagers to sex before they are ready to get married.  A physical stimulation may increase the brains to produce these chemistries; and, because of these chemistries, the teenagers may have unwanted babies by accidents.

     Whatever one’s reactions to the sexual revolution we had in the 20th century, there is one aspect of the new sexuality about which it is easy to become scandalized.  Among teenagers, their first act of intercourse is most likely not to involve contraceptives; that is they do not think that they will have babies at their very acts.  According to the article Love: the Right Chemistry, the bodies’ chemistries raise to the heights of the passionate romance.  Any adolescent, while reading the article, can image that sex is fun and exciting.  The unique culture of the U.S. is that the American youth image the romance without thinking about the rest of the people in their societies.  The result is about 1,000,000 unwanted teenage pregnancies each year in the United States.

     So, where does the joy about sex come from?  It comes from the idea of the using condoms.  When Marguerite Sington introduced the using condom in the American society in the early 20th century, the American women the first time in their lives have found the joys of having sex with the others.  After Second War, the increasing national GNP and the economic opportunities for the women to get independence had convenient women to have sexual relationship outside of their wed locks.  Such a sexual revolution had changed the whole American society.  As children learned from their societies, in the summer of 1970, children of counter culture across the nationwide to the High Ashburg St. in San Francisco, using LSD (a kind of sex drug) and sharing the open sexes publicly.  As Marguerite and her followers believe, sex can be joyful.  The children of the 70s obtained the joyful excitements from the using drugs.  And now, since the 1990s, an increasing amount of the unfortunate teenagers have transformed from the drug addicts to the romance addicts.

Addicts themselves identify with this loss of choice or freedom. When they are "hooked," they are not free to choose to stop whatever addictive behavior they have. Alcoholics are not free to stop drinking. Gamblers feel they have no choice but to gamble. Sex and love addicts feel compelled to act out in sexual or romantic ways as if they had lost their freedom of choice.(Griffin 5)

The joy of having sex for the birth controllers is now a tragique for the teenagers who have failed to control their sexual behaviors.

     The contraception is that sex is to have the babies; and unfortunately, many teenagers have not this contraception.  The sexual intercourse often results in the creation of a new being may not come as a great shock to many of us, but such expectations seem to play a negligible role in our earliest sexual interactions.  The adolescents are often fallen in love with the passionate romance as they have learned from Love: The Right Chemistry and are often ignoring the problems of having the babies.  Phenylethylamine gives the brain the euro-senses, and it makes you smile to the strangers for two or three years.  But the Pheylethylamine has little to do with the achievements in education or in career for the youth.  While stressing on the bodies chemistries, the readers often have forgotten the purpose of sex is to have the babies.

     Sexual arousal plays an import process in teenage intercourse.  Arousal is instigated by external physical stimulation such as touching various sensitive bodily areas, internal physical stimulation such as pressure on the seminal vesicles of the male, external psychological stimulation such as erotica, and internal psychological stimulation such as an erotic daydream.  As sexual excitement increases, the probability of sexual behavior increases.  The major reason for referring to such matters here in a discussion of contraception is to emphasize the fact that arousal propels the individual toward engaging in a sexual act without regard for emotions, attitudes, information, expectancies, or fantasies.  In other words, the entire system has ignored the reality of having babies.  Sexual arousal blind the eyes of the young people their long-term-goal and their short-term goal in schools.  Sexual arousal may romanticize the passionate lovers, and the bodies’ chemistries may blind the mind of the adolescents.

     Whether such lack of control is genuine or simply the result of a widely shared belief, its effects are real.  That is, even the most contraceptive aware and responsible individual can find himself or herself engaging in sexual intercourse without benefit of contraceptive protection.  The association between sexual arousal and sexual pleasure on the one hand and the various contraceptive steps on the other is tenuous at best.  It is proposed that to the extent that any of the processes, chemically or physically, are not directing the individual toward contraception, sexual arousal will act to make such behavior even less likely.  The only solution would seem to be to attempt to establish strong links between excitement and contraception, or to attempt to decrease the amount of stimulation available for those who are not contraceptive prepared.

     Adolescents doing sex for fun has ignored the realities of having babies.   The simple biological reality of the blind union of sperm and ovum can lead to profound joy of deliberate parenthood, but it also can lead to the anguish of an unwanted pregnancy and the specter of a critically overpopulated earth.  The chemical elements may temporary make our bodies feel good.  Physical sexual repression will train the bodies to produce the sex chemistries.  And the sex chemistries might be good for the married ones but bad for the unmarried youth.  “Time is running out for our society” (Reiss 1).  The right chemistry is a passionate romance; and it does not always mean the word—love.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

                                            Works Cited

 

Griffin, Eric. Outpatient Treatment of Sex and Love Addicts. London:

    Praeger Publishers. 1991

 

Reiss, Ira L. et al.  An End to Shame: Shaping Our Next Sexual

    Revolution.   Buffalo, New York: Prometheus Books, 1990.