One woman's recount of her situation is this, "My husband provides me with money and sex, and Luis provieds me with entertainment-- it's as simple as that. I love my husband, but he's a workaholic. He doesn't have the time or inclination for frivolity. Luis and I go to the theatre, films, and night clubs, and have a marvelous time. We're even been disco dancing at Studio 54, and it was he who got us in. I pay for most of our excursions, of course, but Luis is constantly bringing me little presents."
The situation above is interesting because it would not seem strange at all if Luis instead was a female friend, yet would seem like an affair if he was a straight man. The rules in such a case are blurry. There is an idea that a woman spending all her free time with another man constitutes cheating, yet in this case there is no sex involved. The existance of such situations is also quite common. Many of the women I talked to discussed their desire to have a gay man around for the "Fun" aspects of life, just as Luis provides for the woman above. There seems to be an acceptance of men as an alternative when women need to get away from their husbands and just want to have a good time. |
