"Whatever road you take, when you get there, be good to the men in your life and let them take care of you. Know that what you have is precious and holy. Remember, regardless of sexual orientation, men and women will always need each other."

CONCLUSION

"So if you've nothing nice to say, go sit next to the cutest, most elegantly dressed and well-mannered guy at the party. He will appreciate it, I promise."

Since the premiere of Will and Grace on NBC, the idea of fag hags has become more accepted. The show's premise is that Grace Adler, an interior designer, moved in with her gay best friend Will Truman, a lawyer. The show has a more "tradtionally" (as in stereotypically effeminite) gay character, Jack. Though each of the characters can be critiqued for their simplistic characteristics and being representative of common stereotypes, it is also a gutsy show that brings to light the reality that often women feel a special connection with their gay, male friends. The show brings the situation of fag hags into the light of mainstream lifestyles. It has paved the way for a subject that needs to be talked about and understood.

It would be easy to critique fag hags as psychologically looking for things they can't have; mascochistic in a sense that they look for rejection. It would be easy to simplify the facts as a response to gay men being "woman-like" and therefore associating with women. It would be easy to criticize the choice. But I find that being a Fag Hag is nothing to be ashamed of. It is a way of life. It is finding one's self through whoever you feel connected to, and if they happen to be gay men, so be it.  I am proud to be a Fag Hag!!! :-)

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