Honor the Memory

It is devistating to lose a child. For Jon and I it was especially painful because we would never hold our baby, never know if it was a boy or a girl, never see it... never know our first child.

In the first days after we were told, we struggled to find ways to honor the memory of our baby. I finished a quilted wall hanging I had started for the baby. I hung the pregnant snowwoman ornament my mother bought me when she found out I was pregnant on the christmas tree. Jon and I wear loss pins that I made, with tiny birthstone angels for the month the baby was due. Jon drew pictures of unborn babies and faces filled with pain. I searched the web for memorial sites, and I built this section into my website.

Months later we gave the child a name, because it was too painful refering to our baby as "it", Aubrey Taylor. I started a journal and started writing letters to Aubrey. Jon regestered a star in Aubrey's name.

We continue to find ways to honor the memory of our baby. If you know this pain I hope that you have found ways to honor your child.