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Mary - What an absolutely beautiful letter. So carefully written and so much from the heart. How I long to hear words from my b-mom, but I think she died 5 years ago. Your son is so lucky to have you.
Dear Mary,
That is the most beautiful letter to your son. I have tears pouring down my face. I met my birthmother 2 years ago. The circumstances surrounding my birth are something she spent a lifetime trying to forget/deny. I talk to her via telephone, and met her for one weekend ( I live in OH and she is in MN). She has bad health problems, and has never allowed me to visit, as it must be something which would disrupt her life too much.
Mary I can tell you that at different ages I had different feelingd regarding being adopted. When I turned 18 I cried because I thought my real mom would come and take me away. When I had my first child five years later I wanted so much to know who I was and how anyone could ever give a baby away. I know my story now. I know why. I guess what I'm trying to say is even if he does not react the way you want him to it will probably change with time. Of course I hope he is excited NOW. I would have loved if MY birthmother had also been searching for me but that was not to be.
I am also trying to find my older full birth sister who was also adopted at birth. My birthmother Gail has no desire to find her right now it seems, but I do.
Your letter is GREAT!!!!! I hope he save it forever!!!
My name is Mary, a runited adoptee with birth family members. I read your beautiful letter to your bson, John, and think he will treasure it whatever the outcome. It must make you feel refreshed to have written it. It was very insightful for me to read how you felt going through your experience.
My bmom is not alive as she died in '79 in a car crash. I serarched for her last year and found this result. I have reunited with members of her family and my bfather. They will never be able to tell me the feelings and actual experience she went through. Your thoughts give me an idea. Her best friend and I are going to be getting together sometime in the future and I believe she will have a wealth of information for me. My bfather paid for her to go to the maternity home and did visit her a time or two. He mentioned she was'nt treated real well. ( that does'nt settle with me). Hopefully, your son will want to meet you someday, for his sake and for yours. To live with a question mark about ones own life is an emptiness that does'nt fill up until reunion. For the bparent, a beginning of healing can take place.
My bfather is overjoyed (which surprised me as he would'nt marry my mom and keep me) but 34 years have passed and people do change. Search & reunion has been the best thing I could have done for myself and my children. I've have everything now. As for my bmom, I will catch up with her in heaven. oo
Hi, I am an adoptee and just want to tell you that that was a BEAUTIFUL BEAUTIFUL letter. I really loved and enjoyed it.
If one day I can get half of that from my bmother I would be truely grateful. He is very lucky.
part of what you wrote:
> I want you to know, John, that if there had been any way I could have
> raised you, I would have. But I had no choice -- no education, no job,
> and no place to take you. I just want you to know that you were very
> much loved and wanted (and still are).
I just hope all birth mothers feel that way. I have tremendous anxiety about looking for my own mother. Thanks for lifting my spirits.
Dear Mary,
As an adoptee, that's the sweetest most precious story of your son's birthday.
It may take him a little while to overcome the shock of being so loved, but he will.
You are in my prayers.
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