Update!
Update!
I received a letter from John's adoptive parents in April of 2002. Unfortunately, it was to inform me that John had suffered a paralyzing accident 16 months earlier. However, he seems to be doing well, graduated college on time and is now working full time in his chosen field. I sent his parents and him a letter back, but have not heard anything yet. I could be upset that they had waited for so long to tell me, but at this point I'm grateful to get any type of information at all, as it is obvious they do not want ongoing contact with me. I keep sending birthday and christmas cards, but that is all for now, as I don't want to be seen as 'pushy'.
I found my son on October 13, 1999, and mailed a contact letter on December 9, 1999! He and his family live only five miles away from me, and have always lived there. That means they have never been more than 15 miles away from me ever since his adoption placement. I am currently waiting on a response from him. I hope he willl want to have some type of relationship with me, or at least let me know how he is doing from time to time.
I sent a contact letter on December 9, 1999 after finding my son's full name, address, and phone number. I will wait and see if he responds. It is now up to him. At least I know where he is and that he is OK, after no response from his parents for over 2 years.
I sent a letter to John's adoptive parents, and a birthday card and letter to John for his 20th birthday. It has now been 18 months, without a response. I think they are mad that I actually sent something to John directly. But who knows, since they obviously don't want to communicate with me.
John's adoptive parents sent me a letter in August, 1997, with no prompting from me! I was pleasantly surprised. John actually reacted to my last letter, the first time he has shown any kind of interest. I have just sent them a letter on March 20, 1998. Hopefully, things will start moving forward.
I sent a letter and photos to John's parents on April 19th of this year. I called the adoption agency to make sure they received them, and that they were forwarded. By June, I still had not heard anything. I called back, and spoke with the post-adoption director. She suggested to wait until August 1st to see if they would respond. It's now August 27th, and still no word from the adoption agency. Sometimes it seems my life is one long, big waiting period. I will contact the agency AGAIN to see if they have at least called John's parents. My biggest fear is that now that John is 18 and going to college, his parents might feel that any need to communicate with me is now past.
Since I got no response from the April 19th letter, I sent a short "reminder" letter through the agency. I called and verified that it had arrived, and they had sent it to the parents. At this point, I don't know what to think. Has the agency changed its mind about sending my letters? Has John's parents changed their minds about corresponding with me?
If I don't get a response from this second letter in the next month or two, I will be very, very disappointed and hurt. I will continue to call the agency, and try to get them to phone John's parents. If they don't want to correspond anymore, I would hope they would be courteous enough to tell me so, instead of having me wait and wait and wait.
John's mother sent a hand-written, two page letter in February 1997. John is doing very well in college. I'm glad to know that he's:
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