What I wrote for Heathers Funeral & Memorial - Written May 28th, 2002

To All:

The following is lyrics from what is/was Heather & my song. I used to sing along to it for her many a time, though to my regret not too recently. Maybe you will be surprised at how something so powerful could come from a Metallica song, but I hope you were never surprised at how wonderful, how loving, how giving & how special a person Heather was.

I have never heard a song that so completely evoked what Heather & I felt for each other, and I have no doubt that I will always have a tear in my eye whenever this song is played in the future.

SO CLOSE NO MATTER HOW FAR
COULDN'T BE MUCH MORE FROM THE HEART
FOREVER TRUSTING WHO WE ARE
AND NOTHING ELSE MATTERS

NEVER OPENED MYSELF THIS WAY
LIFE IS OURS, WE LIVE IT OUR WAY
ALL THESE WORDS I DON'T JUST SAY
AND NOTHING ELSE MATTERS

TRUST I SEEK AND I FIND IN YOU
EVERY DAY OFFERS US SOMETHING NEW
OPEN MIND FOR A DIFFERENT VIEW
AND NOTHING ELSE MATTERS

(except from Nothing Else Matters by Metallica)

The closest I can come to explaining how I feel at the loss of Heather is:

Run away with my heart
Run away with my hope
Run away with my love
I know now, just quite how
My life and love my still go on
In your heart, in your mind, I'll stay with you for all of time

(except from Wherever You Will Go by The Calling)

Obviously there have been, and will be, many more emotions for not just me, but all of you to cope with. As I have said to several of my friends, the one person I knew I could fully open up to and share all that I am feeling is the one person that had to die.

Every experience in life teachs us something. Besides being the first time I have experienced the loss of someone so dear & close to me, hopefully I can take away the lesson that one should never miss an opportunity to tell those that you love, that you love them, as I will always regret not telling Heather more often.

If I had not been so 'busy' living from day to day, and thinking that Heather & I would be there in the future, perhaps I would have been there more for her, to tell her that.

I can only be grateful that not only was Heather such an extremely special & loving person, but that she had faith in her love for me, our love & my love for her.

I used to think, wow I've known Heather for 3+ years. Now I think, I only got to know Heather for 3+ years. She was the best thing that ever happened to me.

Because it occured to me the love of my life was she
And then & only then I started to cry

(except from Love of my Life by Blues Traveller)


To Heather:

Dearest Heather,

I guess I should have called you that more often, as you were my dearest Heather. As I have always told you, I have always felt that I could never express myself clearly in words. If something could have been said in a sentence, I would end up saying it in a essay. Or I would use a well worn cliche or saying. To help me out, I am 'borrowing' phrases or paragraphs from songs that remind me of you or us together, including 'our' song.

You have always been so open and free with your love. Even when you knew I felt 'uncomfortable' because I did not believe I could reciprocate as much as you had given me, and thus chose to 'dampen' your feelings for me, I always knew they were there.

What I did not want to admit until now was that there were there inside of me as well. Maybe I knew all along but was too scared to share. Maybe I feared that I could not give you all that you gave me.

But I know now that:

If I could, then I would,
I'll go wherever you will go
Way up high, or down low, I'll go wherever you will go

(except from Wherever You Will Go by The Calling)

Heather, I have never been one for making many promises, as I never liked making a promise that I could not keep. But I can promise you the following:

I promise that I will never forget you.
I promise that I will never stop loving you.
I promise that I will never see Titanic without you.

and I promise that when I come to visit you at your resting place, that I will sing you our song, as well as a couple others that will always express how I feel about you.

SO CLOSE NO MATTER HOW FAR
COULDN'T BE MUCH MORE FROM THE HEART
FOREVER TRUSTING WHO WE ARE
AND NOTHING ELSE MATTERS

NEVER OPENED MYSELF THIS WAY
LIFE IS OURS, WE LIVE IT OUR WAY
ALL THESE WORDS I DON'T JUST SAY
AND NOTHING ELSE MATTERS

TRUST I SEEK AND I FIND IN YOU
EVERY DAY OFFERS US SOMETHING NEW
OPEN MIND FOR A DIFFERENT VIEW
AND NOTHING ELSE MATTERS

(except from Nothing Else Matters by Metallica)

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