The Fantasy and Reality of Searching and Reuniting These are the results of an expectation survey to see how people who search feel when they start, what their expectations of the result of the search are, and the end result of the search. As you will soon see, there were as many responses or more than there were people who took the survey, but I just had to include all of them since all of the responses are enlightening. If you would like, you can still take the survey and your answers will be added to those already given. We have found that the reunion process goes through phases. It begins with the honeymoon stage and moves on to a more normal relationship. To read an article concerning this, I would suggest that you go to Emotional Effects of Adoption. Another article that I would suggest you read is Why Adoptees Are Afraid to Search. If you are looking for letters and forms which you can use in different areas of adoption, I would suggest: Forms and Sample Letter Sample Letter Index This is a collection of sample letters which might be aid you in either genealogical or adoption search. For those of you interested in learning about making contact, I would suggest the following sites: Adoptees Making First Contact. For Birth Mothers Contacting an Adoptee Making Contact After the Search Making Contact Via the Telephone Survey Results Take a look at the adoptee results of our survey. Take a look at the birth family results of our survey. Take a look at the adoptive family results of our survey. Back to SOAR Handbook