How
You Can Help
Index
What not to say and do
What to say and do
Awarenss is needed
Understanding CFS
CFS and the Difficulties
Emotions with CFS
My Letter to People Without CFS
I guess the simpliest
way you can help is to learn about this disease. If you understand it and
how it affects the CFS sufferer, you'll be better able to help. I'm hoping
all this information and links will provide you with the knowledge on CFS.
You can make a difference!!
What
Not to Say and Do
"You sure look good"
or,
"You don't look sick."
Saying such things makes the sufferer feel as if you don't believe in the
severity of his symptoms.
"I feel tired too."
This comment minimizes
the suffering. CFS
involves much more than
merely being tired. It is a
painful, debilitating disease.
"I m tired. I think
I might
have CFS too." This may
be said in jest, but there is
nothing funny about CFS.
"I wish I could take
a few
days off to catch up on my
rest." CFS patients are not
on vacation.
"You were working too hard. That's why you got sick."
This may imply to the sufferer that he is to blame for what has happened.
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"How are you?"
Don't ask unless ou really want to know.
Frankly,the sufferer generally feels terrible
but may not want to complain.
"So-and-so had CFS,
and she
was only sick for a year." Each
case of CFS is different in duration
and severity, and pointing to another's
early recovery can be discouraging to
one suffering longer.
Don't offer medical advice
unless
you are asked for it and are qualified
to give it.
Don't imply to CFS patients
that if they
have a setback, it must be because of
something they did.
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What
to Say and Do
Show that you believe
they are really sick.
Make a phone call,
or go to visit.
Calling first is usually a good idea.
Respect any restrictions
as to visitors
or phone calls.
If a person cannot
have visitors,
send a card or a letter. Patients
often look forward to opening
the mail each day.
Be compassionate.
Sometimes this just means
acknowledging what the ill
person is experiencing.
Offer to run errands,
do their grocery shopping,
take them to the doctor, and so forth.
You can simply say:
"It's so nice to see you. "
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What
is Needed?
Awareness
is Needed
The following
message published by the M.E. Association of South Africa may help you
to explain CFS/ME to others(taken from the MEssenger dated May 1997):
Far from being the "Yuppie Flu" or chronic "tiredness",
depression or "burn-out", CFS/ME is revealing itself as
a complex disorder of multiple body systems. The syndrome is characterised
by unexplained, persistent and relapsing chronic fatigue, muscle weakness
and abnormal muscle fatigue after minimal exertion, exteme malaise, brain
dysfunction and many other distressing symptoms such as muscle and joint
pain and migraine type headaches.
CFS/ME strikes with impunity with no preference for any particular ethnicity,
social class or gender. Although this illness affects more women than men,
as in other immune dysfunction disorders, CFS/ME strikes males and females
of all ages. The illness is registered by the World Health Organization,
Departments of Health around the world and is recognised by the Centers
for Disease Control in Atlanta as one of the prevalent chronic diseases
of our time.
The syndrome is not fully understood and its exact cause is unknown. Reseach
suggests that a person succumbs to CFS/ME after exposure to a trigger factor
such as a virus, an immunisation, a toxin or some other precipitator. An
abnormal immune response to a trigger is believed to occur in genetically
predisposed individuals.
The course of the illness falls into roughly three categories: Som
people will gradually recover over two to three years and eventually return
to near normal health with few complications. The majority will improve
to a plateau at which they continue for many years, with a pattern of remission
and relapses, never regaining full pre-illness activity. They are able
to live some sort of life, though with greatly reduced energy levels at
somewhere between 50 and 70% of their former selves. Most cannot sustain
fulltime work; some can work part-time with careful pacing of activity.
Up to 20% do not improve, becoming quite disabled and housebound
for the rest of their lives. They need help with daily living and usually
cannot manage alone. Of these a small number steadily deteriorate and often
develop auto immune diseases and complications. These latter may be totally
bed bound and unable to stand or walk.
There is, as yet, no definitive blood test to indicate CFS/ME. Diagnosis
is done on a careful examination and history taking, guided by the diagnostic
criteria published by the CDC (Fakuda et al.December 1994). With increasing
attention and worldwide research, many international studies are showing
exciting developments.
CFS/ME is a serious debilitating illness that disrupts families, destroys
lives and has immeasurable cost to the economy. Those whose lives are affected
by CFS/ME need your support and understanding.
Understanding of CFS is another important way
you can help, so if you want to understand CFS, read
Understanding CFS
Another way to help is to read CFS
and the Difficulties. This will show you what CFS people go through
all the time and what they have to say
Reading the Emotions with CFS
is a definite step in understanding what CFS people go through. If you
understand more, you can help more.
Understanding CFS is the most important issue in helping. I
guess that's why we have so many Home Pages - all of them trying to help
others. Please read "My letter to People Without
CFS"

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