Sooner
or later, we are all touched by a death of someone we love dearly. When
this happens, it is hard for us to accept the fact that they have gone
from our lives forever. It is hard to let go. Usually we seek counselling
of one form or another, either from a religious professional, or from family
and friends. This helps us to accept and become used to their absence,
but time is the greatest healer of all. It takes time for us to realise
and accept that they are no longer there, by our side. We feel deeply the
gaping hole left inside of our hearts and minds, by their ab-
sence.
A little understanding of the spirit that inhabits this physical body and its position within the multiuniverse sometimes helps us to accept a little more easily. Apart from this, there are strong reasons, for the departing spirit's sake, that we try to let go as soon as we can. I will explain about this in a moment.
The spirit is here to learn. We come into our bodies at birth to travel around in this physical third dimension, a little like you getting into your car to travel around from place to place. Eventually, like our car, the body wears out and we need a replacement, for the spirit is from the higher dimensions and cannot easily travel in this dense third dimension without a vehicle of denser stuff. At the time when the spirit is once again free to return to the higher dimensions, guides, or angels, those who have chosen to help returning spirits, come to guide the departing spirit over 'to the other side', for the spirit has usually been on this plane for quite a while and is disoriented at first upon death of the physical body, just as we are when our car, upon which we rely heavily, breaks down and we are forced to walk everywhere or find alternative transport.
Sometimes, when the bonds to the earth, or to relatives and loved ones upon the earth are strong, the spirit 'chooses' to stay, not to immediately pass over to the 'other side'. It is their choice. They might be worried about someone's future, or they might simply be bonded to someone so closely that they cannot bear to go without them, so they choose to wait, to stay here a little longer, in spirit form. This is o.k. This is their CHOICE.
When the loved ones are unaccepting of the death, refusing to acknowledge that they are gone, clinging to the past with strong emotions, then there is a grave problem. The departing spirit cannot go on. It is held here by the emotional bonds of loved ones and relatives who are selfishly clinging to its memory. This selfish refusal to accept the death and let go is like a lead weight upon the departing spirit, holding it here in this physical third dimension. Stunting its growth, blocking its progress. Is this what you really want for the one you love? I don't think so.
Although it is hard for you, for the sake of the departing spirit, you must let go. Give them the freedom to choose if they will go or stay. It should be THEIR choice, not yours. They need to continue onwards, on their own path, to progress, to find another vehicle to return in if they have more lessons. Once you accept that they are not really gone forever, just for a while, it will be easier for you to accept. The old saying.....life goes on.....is very appropriate. Your life goes on, and so does theirs, in a different way.
Remember....DEATH IS BUT A WALK
THROUGH A DOOR
TO A ROOMFUL OF PEOPLE YOU'VE MET
BEFORE.
Think about it!!!! You will
meet again, and again, and again, over many lifetimes in different vehicles
(bodies). Let go and free yourself!