Let me start by saying that, conventionally, I would be described as a "heterosexual man". That is, I am a male human being, who prefers having intimate sexual relations with female human beings. But, that is not entirely accurate. For instance, if I were to meet a female that bore a striking resemblance to Paul Newman, I would not find myself attracted to this person, even though she was female. At the same time, I have seen several men (especially at various drag shows) that I found to be very attractive.

Lately I've been thinking about sexuality. I've heard a lot of discussions about sexuality, and one of the things that I have determined is, we are severely limited by the language that we use.

By this I mean, we try to use such simple words to explain and/or describe very complex ideas. For instance we use the word "love" to describe that which most of us acknowledge to be indescribable. We also use such terms as "heterosexual", "homosexual", and "bisexual" in an attempt to describe a person's sexual preference. I for one find such labels to be far too restricting.

"Heterosexual" and "homosexual" are adverbs. That is they are words used to modify verbs. A person can engage in homosexual activity or a person can engage in heterosexual activity. But I don't see how they can define a person. For instance, how would you define two people in a loving, caring, nurturing, _plutonic_ relationship? Or which would be the definition for a person who was celibate?

There is very little known about why something interests a person sexually. Why this person is attracted to tall people why that person is attracted to older people. Why one person prefers blondes while another prefers brunettes. Why one person is stimulated by leather, and another is stimulated by lace. There are so many variables, it seems ludicrous to claim that any one preference is "right" or "wrong".

I guess what I am trying to say is that I just don't buy into the idea that I should or should not be attracted to a person based solely on their gender. There are many other factors involved in determining whether or not I desire a relationship with a person. And many more factors in determining what kind of relationship that would be.