Hi! Welcome to the World where FAT is Queen!!! Sexy, Desirable, Fun, Liberating, and Sane!

You know I spent all my life believing the brainwashing this society force feeds us about fat being ugly, unhealthy, undesirable, and a total turnoff. Then one day I went to a BBW (Big Beautiful Women) dance and I saw "normal-sized" ATTRACTIVE men crowding into this room just to get a chance to meet fat women. Now I'm smart but I will admit it took me about three dances before I realized that, DUH!, these guys are HERE because they like US the way we ARE!!!!

About six months later I realized that I had hated my body all my life. ALL MY LIFE I had wished my weight was a different number than it presently was. EVEN WHEN I WEIGHED 177 lbs. and wore a size 10 I thought (because of those Metropolitan Life Insurance charts - and think about it...don't you think that an insurance company would skew the numbers so that the majority of people would be considered outside of the normal range, therefore higher risk, therefore could be charged higher insurance premiums!!!) I was fat and ugly. What a CROCK!

Well those dances were a new beginning for me. My first dance I was wearing a sleeveless dress with a jacket over it. It was hot and I had to take off my jacket. I was SOOO self-conscious and embarrassed to show my naked fat arms. Well after a while, "the girls" and I got up to go to the bathroom and this totally attractive guy ran after me thinking I was leaving for the evening. When on our date later that week he said, "Oh my God, when you took off that jacket and I saw your beautiful fat arms, I knew I had to meet you!"

It was after that third fateful dance that I started dressing more sexy and daring. I started to wear mini-dresses, bikinis (yes at 430 lbs), leggings and halter tops, lace hose, heels. Honestly, I have never received any hateful comments. Now guys never react negatively to a sexy woman. In fact men tell me they love it that a fat woman has the chutzpah to dress that way...but it is the women who will give the nasty looks, like...
YOU ARE BREAKING THE RULES...DON'T YOU KNOW YOU ARE FAT...DON'T YOU KNOW YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO H-I-D-E YOUR BODY!!!!
I laugh at those women because they are still prisoners of the negative brainwashing of this society. They remain in the shackles that have been placed upon them. They cannot free themselves from the diet insanity. Like hamsters in one of those circular running wheels...they are insanely pursuing an ideal, a goal that is unnatural, insanely pursuing what has been told to them that they should be! ARGH! The futility of it all!

Well, I've been going to the BBW socials for almost two years now. I have dated over 100 men who know they like fat and wouldn't be caught dead with a skinny woman. I have had my picture in Plumpers magazine, ran my own adult oriented website for fat lovers, and been a guest on the Jenny Jones show, and what I can tell you is:

1. Women do not need to lose weight to get a man. You do not need to lose ONE pound to get a man. There are men who like all kinds of body shapes. The men who date me at 430 lbs would not date a 200 lb woman, and likewise a man who will date a 200 lb woman will not date a 115 lb woman. You can free yourself from the negative brain drain of dieting. Love yourself as you are. Be happy and stop dieting. If we act individually we can change society collectively. WE CAN DEMOLISH THE DIET INDUSTRY!

2. Giving up dieting is liberating and sane. No more counting calories, fat grams, etc. Eat what you want, when you want. Are you afraid people will bash you because you are fat. Don't worry because everywhere you go there is at least ONE person who finds fat acceptable, sexy, desirable.

3. Life begins at 300 lbs!!! Honestly I will tell you I wore my first bikini at 300+. I have dated many, many more men at 300+ than I ever did at 200-. Its all attitude, not body shape. (and another thing about those guys...people sometimes like to think that fat girls only get losers. The men I date are professionally employed, college educated, intelligent, independent people. I find it ironic that they are usually employed as engineers or computer professionals...in fact when I ask a guy what he does for a living I have come to expect him to answer either of those two.Let the skinny girls fight over their air-head guys....us fat girls have the cream of the crop!)

4. You can be fat and healthy! You know at 340 lbs I jogged 1.5 miles every day! I had energy, vitality, I had the world by the tail! I was more fit than most thin women but the negative brainwashing in our society would have you to believe that I was the unhealthy one! (a note: while I am fat positive, and content with my appearance, many of you know I am actively working on reducing my weight to around 340 lbs. It is where I feel comfortable. I love to jog and that is my goal to be get back to 1.5 miles a day. While I am working to lose weight, I refrain from calling it dieting. It is a lifestyle change...a way of eating for life.)

At 430 my cholesterol is well below 200. I exercise every day. I eat what I want within my chosen food plan...with occaisional "vacations". I love my body, I love myself, I love who I am. Life is worth living. Life is grand. This is my life. I am in control.

And a final word...FAT. It's just a word. not negative or positive. FREE YOUR MIND OF PREDJUDICE AND BE FREE INDEED!

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