Want to know my opinion?
Well... First of all. I respect people who decide it by themselves and accept the consequences with full responsibility. I also respect those remaining virgins till their wedding night. Personaly, I disagree abortion. So my words to those who try to promote this "good" concept of " Virginity is My Life" is: GET LOST! SHUT YOUR MOUTH, AND MIND YOUR OWN VIRGINITY! I would rather put my concern and pay more effort on reducing hair-dyeing! (Which causes cancer)
Do you know how many innocent girls commit suicide just because they cant face the fact that they are not virgin anymore and considered as "dirty" in the society?
Well, UK, and Singapore, I would suggest you to provide more sexual education in schools instead of publishing articles in newspaper that might offend those "UNVIRGIN" teenager!
EVERYBODY HAVE THEIR OWN HUMAN RIGHTS TO CHOOSE AND DECIDE WHAT THEY WANT TO DO WITH THEIR BODY.
SO WHAT IF THEY ARE NOT VIRGINS??? DO YOU WANT TO KILL THEM ONE BY ONE? YOU EXPECT THEM TO COMMIT SUICIDE OR FAIL THEIR LIFE? DO U EXPECT THEM TO PROHIBIT THEIR CHILDREN IN FUTURE FROM DOING TABOOS? DO YOU THINK YOUR LAW WOULD REDUCE THEIR CURIOUSITY AND DESIRE? Well, you are wrong.
DON'T JUDGE ONE'S SELF PRIDE OR VALUE BY THEIR VIRGINITY!
And moreover, as what a teen posted in the Streats edition a few days ago, IT TAKES TWO TO MAKE A BABY! DON'T JUST BLAME ON GIRLS! GIRLS DONT HAVE BIRDS AND GIRLS ARE THE VICTIM! MEN SHOULD USE THEIR BRAIN TO THROW AWAY THE SEDUCTION OUT OF THEIR MIND!
If you are very concern about teen/premarital abortion, then reduce the legal marriage age limit! (As what Japan has done for juvenile crime, they reduced till 14 of age). Dont pressurise more teens with your own concept! You might think what you are doing (by prohibiting them with relationship, steady relationship, or young marriage) could reduce the risk of death or abortion. But it is NOT ALWAYS SO!
I live in Singapore long enough to know how their restless teen behave. I know some of them try to attract attention. I know some of them want to be seen cool enough by wearing sexy clothes, even the virgin girls! Some of them do SEX just for fun. BUT U KNOW WHAT?????? SOME OF THEM DO HAVE BRAIN! SOME OTHERS ARE PRESSURISED! FEELING "DIRTY" AFTER LOVEMAKING! FEELING DIRTY AFTER BEING RAPED! SUICIDE AFTERWARDS! FAILS EXAM AND ARE DOWN!
PEOPLE, WHERE IS YOUR BRAIN??? WHERE IS YOUR HEART??? WHERE IS THE LOVE??? WHERE IS YOUR OWN PRIDE? WHAT DO YOU CARE ABOUT TEENS? DID YOU GIVE THEM SEXUAL EDUCATION? DID YOU ASSIST THEM IN THEIR QUESTIONS? DID YOU CONFIDENTIALLY CONSULT THEM? DID YOU SAY "IF I WERE YOU, I WOULD KEEP MY VIRGINITY, THAT'S MY CHOICE. IT IS UP TO YOU TO DECIDE, AS LONG AS YOU WOULD NOT REGRET IT. DON'T DISAPOINT YOUR PARENTS. DON'T FEEL TOO DOWN AFTERWARDS. " ? DID YOU?? If you did, then that is all you can do! Did YOU respect their decision? Did you still open the house door for them? Did you blackmark them? Your competition and Newspaper articles about virgins would only worsen the day of teens! There will be more pressure on their chest! Maybe not to all of them, but there are alot of teenagers out there who are very pressurised with parents' obligation to keep them virgins till they are married!
Parents, let them develop by themselves. I understand that as parents you lose faith in your children, you're afraid they go to the wrong track, but why can't you just give them a chance?? Let them have their way to develop. Let them trust you, and turn to you for every advice. If they are smart, they won't die. Tell them which is the best, without dictating them.
As long as people know what they are doing, decide it with their full confidence, and bear responsibility of the consequences, without doing harm to other people, does not play around with pure love, they are on their way. Regardless of age, language, religion, believes, and tradition. Your LIFE is more important than VIRGINITY. Are you sure your new partner does not have lice? Are you sure your new partner is not an HIV patient? How can you guarantee they are clean and safe? There is no way for you to know.
I have a friend who does partner exchanging. He says "I know how to protect myself." I am telling you now. Are you as small as bacteria/virus inside their blood? Can the virus be seen? Once you F**K them, quarantine yourself forever, and also quarantine them! Thats the only way to be sure that you wouldnot harm other people.
Teenager: Young and Restless. But it doesnot mean they are more stupid than you are.
If you like yourself to be virgin, it is good. But don't brood over others, otherwise I would shout at you, " Go ahead! Operate yourself! Create 5 or 6 maidenhead layers!"
The second story is, imagine that you are a 17 year old girl. You are innocent, thrilled to try the taboos. And so you go, bed more than 5 boys in a month, confident that it is safe. But after 3 years, you are stated as a Syphillis patient, with pain all over your body. Are you ready to feel the pain for the rest of your (short) life? Are you ready to feel the guilt of killing your previous partners? Are you ready to bear the sin of infecting innnocent partners in future?
Think about it. Think before you do. Think before you speak. Think before you publish your article that offends those unvirgins out there or set a competition of "The Best Virgin"! Let teens judge the value of their own virginity!
Some teens play sex just for fun, while I can assure you that there are NOT only this kind of teen around you, but there are also some who does it for LOVE, and you might be surprised to find out that some of their love are deeper than yours!
Taboos are not sacred, Marriage is. And so are feeling! So teens, choose your lifetime partner properly before you decide to jump on the bed! If you decided it just to make yourself feeling cool and updated, you will be lost in this game!
I am sorry to say that most teen in Singapore (not include the foreigners) were raised in an isolated country of Singapore without so much thing happened around them and strictly controlled by rules made by parents, society, and government (plus their pride) plus being pampered by their government. That makes them to grow keeping the same concepts like their parents teach them. Most of them grow to be hypocrites, some others grow to be a smartie, sensitive, kindhearted, or even too bored that they turn out to be evil. They dont know the real hardship of life.They are not ready to accept what a real world is. I am not trying to offend any Singaporean, but it is a fact that some Singaporean does turn out to be very rude or unfriendly to foreigners. Don't blow up first, because there ARE some of my Singaporean friends who are very friendly and unselfish. They are not hypocrites, and very very kindhearted. Tis the truth. Foreigners, I welcome you to the real world of Singapore. And Singaporeans, do read my column and think, which kind of Singaporean you are. You can make a better country if you treat foreigners better than before.
I know it is very difficult for parents to forget their ego and go down there to speak to their children. Some find it embarrassing. Especially in Asia where parents were meant to be a "Barking Dog" to dictate and beat/punish children. Well, I can only tell you this, believe it or not, you MUST try it, BE THEIR FRIEND, FOR YOUR CHILDREN'S SAKE! If you dont, if you still worry about your ego, then DONT BE PARENTS!!!!! AT ALL!!!
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