Victorian Charm~Courtship Rules

A gentleman should never assume that because he has shared
a dance with a lady that he is welcome to call on her. If he is
interested in further contact he must make the proper inquiries
and receive an introduction from a mutual acquaintance.
Dates were almost always supervised by a chapherone. It
was considered improper for a lady to go anyplace alone
with a gentleman.
A lady was never to go out with a gentleman late at night.
It was also improper for a gentleman caller to remain in
a ladies home until a late hour.
Gentleman that wished to call on a lady must first seek
the ladies permission to call.
Ladies should always said goodbye at the parlor door to
gentleman callers, a servant would then see the caller out.
Gentleman that wished to see a lady home from a social
event had to formally ask permission by presenting her with a card.
Gifts of a personal nature were not to be given.

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