Vestiges

Just to explain a little before you read this. These were random thoughts one day. I just sat at the computer and started typing. Alot of these are generalizations. Keep an open mind, no offense to anyone. And the last part are quotes that I heard from talking to different people.

The black woman has been forced to be strong and independent. She is use to controlling her own realm. This is because the black man has been stripped from her by the white man and society in general. The black woman has been taught to be submissive only to those who abuse her and misuse her. This is stemmed from the white slave owner. He has ran a series of tests on her to extract the last piece of “bitch” out of her. The slave owner had to humiliate and shame the black man in front of his woman, so that way she couldn’t trust and rely on him. Because of the leftover psychological distress (endured by slavery and passed on through generations) this sense of humiliation is the root of most black men’s insecurities. The white man repeatedly “tested” the black woman and made her believe that he is the sole provider. He feeds her, clothes her, and allows her to live, so she owes everything to him. This complete power, control and domination over the black woman instilled complete submissiveness to the white man through fear of her life. She loves the black man but can not depend on him because he is no longer the provider. Because the white man beat her into submissiveness she feels that emotional manipulation and abuse is the only way to get the world to bend to her. (Its similar to the idea that a child whose is physically abused is more likely to grow up and be abusive to his or her own children.) She demands her black husband to submit to her in their relationship. His sole vocabulary being “yes dear, no dear.” However, she ironically rejects the submissive relationship preferring the abusive one. (How girls say they want the nice guy, but it never seems to happen. The woman gets bored with this monotomus relationship). She was punished for resistance to the white man’s will, so in turn she “punishes” her husband when he is resistant to her will. This conflicts with the black man’s need to be a man. Being oppressed by the white man and emotionally abused at home only serves to increase his insecurity. His mother also had a hand in raising him that way. In slavery times this was partially due to the drive to survive. She does not teach him to be emotionally strong because he will be resistant to the master, which equates a death sentence. So in order to save his life she raises him not to be secure enough to stand up to the white man. However, this results in his inability to appropriately express himself. However ironically the black woman wants a strong black man but raises him to be emotionally weak. This same weakness results in the black woman’s rejection of the black man because it reminds her of the humiliation and shame she once witnessed. It reminds her that she can not depend on him or trust him. Now the black man has to overcompensate for these feelings of shame by creating a “tough guy” image. He sets up walls so women do not discover his weaknesses. However, this makes him emotionally distant from the black woman, and as a result he doesn’t trust her. So now here comes “the game.” This is a way for men to still have relationships with women, without becoming emotionally attached. Manhood is therefore retained “supposedly.” Now the black woman is impressed with the “tough guy” image, because confidence is now emulated within the black man instead of humiliation. However, because he is emotionally distant from the black woman she is frustrated. However, she is the reason why he has become emotionally distant. Am I, black woman, a hypocrite?

Black people are like slaves w/ benefits. How many black people you know own businesses? How many black people you know are employees?

TV like a computer, spits back what we put in.

You keep talking about the white man. But black women try to be like the white woman. Trying to put in perms, relaxers, wearing masacara, you don’t need all that, you’re black.

Guys and Girls have a strange duality between their ideal partner and who they actually try to get.

Girls will pass over the brother in a volkswagon, and go for the one in the escalade. However, the brother in the volksawagon could just be saving up for school, or home or something of that nature. While the brother with an escalade would have bad credit, not a nice place to live, and what not. Priorites mixed up. Same with gurls in some respect.

Rather watch tv instead of read a book