SESSION #4
WHAT ARE WE ALL
ABOUT? AN OVERVIEW!!
·
WE ARE IN
PROCESS! IN A RETRAINING PERIOD!
·
BEING
LIBERATED FROM SELF DEFEATING BELIEFS!
·
LIFE IS A
LEARNING EXPERIENCE!
·
REMEMBER: THE UNIVERSE IS THIS MAGNIFICENT ADVENTURE AND WE EACH
HAVE A STANDING INVITATION TO PARTICIPATE!
GO ON FROM HERE!
Mind still open and learning
\ /
\ /
\ / IN PROCESS!!
In
process, becoming.
Fully
Functioning
\ /
\ /
\O/
Where we started is the collective result of
our parenting & DNA.
Present beliefs are temporary, subject to
clarification & refining.
·
WE ARE
BECOMING, FALLIBLE, Can make mistakes.
NOT ALL KNOWING!
·
WORKING
THROUGH OUR BAGGAGE AND OUR LEGACIES TO BECOME FULLY FUNCTIONING.
·
WE ONLY
STOP GROWING AND LEARNING IF WE CHOOSE TO!!
·
SOME BROAD
PRE-WIRING: HUMAN DRIVES: SURVIVAL, PROCREATE, AUTONOMY, SELF-ACTUALIZATION.
·
SOME PRECISE
PRE-WIRING OUR INHERITANCE:
¨
WE HAVE
PRE-WIRED PRIMITIVE DRIVES - WE ARE NOT PRE-WIRED EVIL
à
SURVIVAL IS
OUR STRONGEST DRIVE AND THE STRONGEST IN ALL LLIVING THINGS: the alligator,
the flea, the rose, the dandelion (weeds), the ameba and plankton.
(Have you not seen
the single little flower growing out of shear granite?)
à
THE 2ND
STRONGEST DRIVE IN ALL LIVING THINGS INCLUDING US IS THE DRIVE TO PROCEATE, The
survival of the species.
à
OTHER OF
HUMAN’S PRE-WIRINGS (Not
inclusive)
§
TO WALK;
§
SPEAK A
LANGUAGE i.e. TO TALK,
§
TO TALK
MOTHERESE, ( Because Babies respond to it);
§
TO LIKE SALT,
SUGAR;
§
TO READ FACIAL
EXPRESSIONS; And babies respond to it, why?
*
Humans have
precise facial signs for emotions like anger, contempt, fear, disgust, startle
reflex, etc. (Paul Ekman’s
research)
§
HAVE INCEST AVOIDANCE;
§
HAVE A
LANDSCAPE PREFERENCE, LIVE NEAR LAKES AND RIVERS.
§
TO USE AND
ENJOY HUMOR;
§
HAVE A SENSE
OF SELF (just since 3200BC??), others etc.
·
THEN OF MOST
IMPORTANCE:
¨
TO HAVE FREE
WILL }
¨
TO HAVE FREE
CHOICE }
v
HUMANS Long
maturation period 18-20-23 yrs.
| INSTINCT | CREATIVITY,
ADAPTABILITY |
----------------------------------------------------------------
| IMAGINATION |
¨
TO HAVE
PREFRONTAL CORTEX DEVELOPMENT
(From
“Wild Dreams”, April 2001 Discovery Magazine)
The
prefrontal cortex brain region plays a central role in self-discipline, in
gratification postponement, in putting a rein on ones impulses….It keeps the angry
thought from being allowed to become the hurtful word, the violent fantasy from
becoming the unspeakable act. [BDL: I say this is a higher level of
consciousness than the amygdala’s automatic survival instinct, which we use to
master the amygdala.]
Not
surprisingly, other species don’t have a whole lot of prefrontal function. Nor
do young kids; the prefrontal cortex is basically the last part of the brain to
fully mature, not coming completely on line for decades. [Our early
20’s.]
v OTHER
ANIMALS_- SOME CHOICE BUT LIMITED
| INSTINCT | CREATIVITY
¨
LIKE THE: DEER
- RABBIT
¨
ALL LOWER
ANIMALS, ESPECIALLY INSECTS AND PLANTS.
-Instincts very specific
-Not fallible = NOT HELD
ACCOUNTABLE BECAUSE HAVE LITTLE CHOICE
·
Humans have
little instinct and great creativity and imagination. We have greater
adaptability. The other living things have huge instincts and little
creativity and imagination.
·
We make
mistakes but have a great capability to recognize and correct, to change
directions and outcomes.
WHERE YOU ARE RIGHT NOW IS TEMPORARY!!
·
WHERE DO I
START? HOW CAN I KNOW WHAT MY GIVENS ARE? WHAT I GOT WITH MY DNA, MY NATURAL
TALENTS AND TENDENCIES I WAS BORN WITH.
ð
[1] HAND OUT
1 - (19A) “DETERMINE YOUR PERSONALITY TYPE", (THE
TALENTS & TENDENCIES YOU WERE BORN WITH.)
HISTORY: 1921 - Swiss
Psychologist Carl Jung - Psychological types.
1940's
MBI (R) Test Instrument (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator Instrument, Interpreted by
trained Professional). Katherine Briggs and daughter Isabel Briggs
Myers.
- See the book: "DO WHAT YOU
ARE" by PAUL D. TIEGER & BARBARA BARRON-TIEGER,
@ LITTLE, BROWN COMPANY, PUBLISHER
- DIFFERENT PERSONALITIES ARE BETTER SUITED
FOR CERTAIN LIFE STYLES AND CERTAIN CAREERS OR JOBS.
(Note other books on this:
“Who Am I? Personality Types for Self Discovery” & “Please Understand Me”
{per Clarice Pace}.)
- i.e. SALES: OUTGOING, GOOD VERBAL SKILLS,
MORE ON LEFT BRAIN; people person.
RESEARCH: INTROVERT, GOOD WRITING
SKILLS, MORE ON RIGHT BRAIN.
·
THE BOOK
DISCUSSES FOUR DIMENSIONS OF PERSONALITY TYPES - How wired!
I - HOW
DO WE INTERACT WITH THE WORLD AND WHERE WE GET & DIRECT OUR ENERGIES: Pg. 17
SCALE PREFERENCES (Use both sides but have an innate preference
for one side)
Outer (E)
EXTROVERSION ------------------------- INTROVERSION (I) Inner world
world (Are
energized by being with other people
Are energized by spending time alone)
(Act then think
Think then act)
(Talk more than listen Listen
more than talk)
II - THE
KIND OF INFORMATION WE NATURALLY NOTICE: INFO NOTICE
READ EXAMPLE PG. 21 SENSORS VS
INITIATIVES
5- (S) SENSING
------------------------- INTUITI0N)
(N) 6th Sense look for
Senses (Value
realism and common sense Value
imagination and innovation) meaning
in all things
(Trust what is certain and
concrete Trust inspiration and
inference)
III
HOW WE MAKE DECISIONS: (SEE PG. 25) HOW MAKE DECISIONS
Logical (T) THINKING ----------------------------- FEELING (F)
Caring, feeling
Analytical (Value
logic, justice, and fairness;
Value empathy and harmony; see the
one standard for
all.)
exception to the rule.)
(Naturally see flaws and
tend to be critical Naturally like
to please others; show
appreciation easily.
IV - WHETHER
WE PREFER TO LIVE IN A MORE STRUCTURED WAY OR IN A MORE SPONTANEOUS WAY: I
tried to change completely to spontaneous and got disoriented
READ EXAMPLE PG. 29 JUDGERS VS
PERCEIVERS}
Orderly (J) JUDGING ------------------------------ PERCEIVING
(P) Spontaneous
Structured (Are happiest after
decisions are made. Are
happiest leaving options open. Flexible
In control (Have a "work ethic"; work first,
play Have a "play
ethic": enjoy now, finish job
later
[if there's time] later [if
there's time]
END UP WITH 16 PERSONALITY TYPES
(BDL)
ISTJ ISFJ
INFJ INTJ |-------------------
Attitudes --------------------------|
| |------Functions ----------| |
ISTP
ISFP INFP INTP ----------- ----------- ----------- ----------
E or I S or
N T or F J or P
ESTP
ESFP ENFP ENTP Fill in the blanks then verify by
reading that profile.
If not very much like you, try again, parents could
have
Encouraged.
ESTJ
ESFJ ENFJ ENTJ certain types of behavior.
FOUR DIFFERENT TEMPERAMENTS ( Noticed
for a long time - 450BC Hippocrates)
(Psychologist David Keirsey)
SJ
(SENSING, JUDGING) BDL
(& 38% of Americans)
SP
(SENSING, PERCEIVING)
NF
( INTUITION, FEELING)
NT
(INTUITION, THINKING)
- EACH OF THE TEMPERAMENTS ARE
DESCRIBED
v
DETERMINE
YOUR DOMINANT FUNCTION (
Your strongest)
HIERARCHY
OF FUNCTIONS: Strongest to Weakest Stays the same through life.
- SENSOR, INTUITIVE, THINKER,
FEELER
AUXILIARY FUNCTION (Your
second strongest)
- THEN ONE OF THE OTHERS S, I, T, F
i.e. IF DOMINANT SENSING
OR INTUITIVE; THE AUXILIARY IS THINKING OR FEELING
IF DOMINANT THINKING OR FEELING; THE
AUXILIARY IS SENSING OR INTUITION.
AFTER YOU HAVE
DETERMINED WHO YOU ARE, THERE IS A SECTION THAT GIVES MORE INSIGHT AND UNDERSTANDING
OF EACH TYPE, DOMINANT/AUXILIARY.
BDL = ISTJ (6% of Americans) BUT HAVE MOVED
TOWARD ESF J (Read pg. 231 ISTJ; pg247, ESFJ)
DOMINANT = SENSING; AUXILIARY -
THINKING
& DOMINANT = FEELING; AUXILIARY-
SENSING
ISTJ (
Introversion/sensing/thinking/judging----------->ESFJ(extroversion/sensing/feeling/judging)
ALTHOUGH YOUR PERSONALITY TYPE, AND
DOMINANT & AUXILIARY FUNCTIONS STAY WITH YOU, YOU CAN
DEVELOP THE OTHER ASPECTS AND BECOME WHAT WE CALL A "WELL ROUNDED PERSON".
WE USE ALL OF THEM!!
Ø
FOR A PRINT OUT
OF HANDOUT 1 CLICK ON “PERSONALITY TYPE” BELOW.
v
HERE IS
ANOTHER SOURCE:
·
WHAT ARE MY
TALENTS AND SKILLS?
§
WHEN I EXPLORED LOOKING FOR A DIFFERENT
EMPLOYMENT BEING VERY DISSATISFIED WHERE I WAS, TOOK A COURSE FROM THE JOHN
CRYSTAL GROUP ON CHANGING CAREERS.
§
I WAS INTRODUCED
TO ANOTHER "WHAT COLOR IS YOUR PARACHUTE?" BY RICHARD
NELSON BOLLES, PUBLISHED BY TEN SPEED PRESS. (New 1996 edition now out)
+ A Practical Manual for Job Hunters and
Career-Changers.
§
CHAPTER 5
"ONLY YOU CAN DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT TO DO"
CAREER CHOOSING IS AN IMPORTANT STEP IN
YOUR LIFE AND DESERVES SPENDING SOME TIME ON. IS IT WORTH TWO WEEKS OF YOUR
TIME?
SKILL LISTING: STRONGEST -----------> WEAKEST
{ YOUR AIM IS
TO FILL IN THIS CHART.
My strongest |
|
skill is: |
----------------------------
| My second
| My third: |
| strongest
| |
| skill is | |
----------------------------
| My 4th: |
My 5th: | My 6th: |
-------------------------------
(SEE PAGE 77)
TYPE OF JOB
DATA or PEOPLE or THINGS
HIGHEST SKILL -
SYNTHESIZING MENTORING PRECISION WORKING
-----------------------
|
Tending
\/
LOWEST SKILL - COMPARING SERVING
UTILIZE:
MEMORIES OF THE PAST.
YOUR FEELINGS ABOUT THE PRESENT
YOUR VISIONS OF THE FUTURE
9 EXERCISES -GIVE SOME EXAMPLES
- 1st 4 on the past
GIVE CONSIDERATION TO:
PG. 84 WHAT I WANT TO HAVE OR USE
WHAT I WANT TO AVOID
PG. 86 WHAT ARE YOUR HOBBIES
(INSTRUMENTS AVAILABLE TO ME)
PG87 WHAT
PLEASES ME
CHOOSE
2 ACHIEVEMENTS THAT PLEASED YOU FOR EACH 5 YR PERIOD OF YOUR LIFE
PG. 91 THINGS UNDER MY CONTROL
- THINGS I CAN CHANGE WITHIN ME
- THINGS I CAN CHANGE IN MY
ENVIRONMENT
- THINGS UNDER THE CONTROL OF OTHERS
OR CIRCUMSTANCE
PG. 101 PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER
102 DICTIONARY OF OCCUPATIONAL TITLES, VOLS
I, II, III BY FED GOVMT
35M JOB TITLES
23M OCCUPATIONS
BASIC BELIEFS
·
WE MUST VALUE
(LOVE) OURSELVES AND LEARN TO MAKE CHOICES IN OUR BEST INTEREST!
·
IT’S IN MY
BEST INTEREST TO BE IN CHARGE OF MY LIFE !
To decide what is best for me.
·
IT’S IN
YOUR BEST INTEREST TO BE IN CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE ! To decide what is best for
you.
·
IF I
BELIEVE IN THE FIRST STATEMENT, I MUST BELIEVE IN THE SECOND STATEMENT.
NOTE: IF THE PRINCIPLE
OF “THE INDIVIDUAL CHOICE IS IN MY BEST INTEREST” IT’S IN OTHERS BEST INTEREST ALSO! I.E.: GIVE OTHERS RIGHT OF CHOICE ALSO.
·
SOME SAY THAT
LOVING ONESELF, DEVELOPING OUR SELF-ESTEEM AND CORRECTING OUR SELF-IMAGE IS NOT
BEING HUMBLE!
§
And to some that
means humble = demeaning oneself continually and putting ones self down. Repeatedly saying “I was born evil, I ‘m
a sinner. “ This is a strong
teaching in our culture and religions. What we are calling evil is our
“Primitive Drives” which we could not have survived without. That is why
we were given them.
§
THAT IS, FOCUS
ON THE FALLIBILITY AND NOT ON THE BECOMING, NOT BEING WITH IT IN THE PRESENT MOMENT AND DEALING WITH
LIFE.
·
Are any of you under the illusion you are not fallible? Were
you not reminded of that several times today? Do you need others to remind you?
Then what are they about that they reputably put you down?
_____________
Fear of failure immobilizes and keeps you from venturing
| BECOMING | ß---FOCUS
out.
----------------- Important,
however, to recognize pitfalls & dangers you
| FALLIBLE |ß--ACCEPT
must avoid VS those that are barriers you must deal with
-------------- True humility. and work through.
·
WHERE ARE YOU
COMING FROM??
§
If you really
see you are BECOMING, not there yet, you REALLY know your limitations
and have no need for this false
humility and being pious.
§
In “Becoming”
we are developing to become master of our Primitive drives when we develop our
higher levels of consciousness. This was
the best advice given many years ago “Resist not evil but overcome evil with
good.”
§
SEE YOURSELF
AS REAL AND YOUR PRETENSES AND DEFENSES AS SOMETHING MADE UP FOR SURVIVAL WHEN YOU WERE AN INFANT!
Imagined fears, differentiated
from real, or no longer applicable as an adult !!
§
Remember: Egotistical
behavior is a pretense.
¨
TAKE THIS OPPORTUNITY TO BE A HUMAN "BEING", ENGAGE IN BECOMING
- Practice the tools to develop inner
strength.
- Practice being a HUMAN
"BEING".
¨ LEARNED
THIS IN est:
·
DO YOU SEE THIS
IS IT? THIS IS YOUR LIFE? YOUR DREAM
SHIP THAT YOU HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR HAS DOCKED?
·
I KEEP MY WORD! OTHERWISE I LOSE MY POWER TO BE AT CAUSE AND
MAKE WHAT I SAY HAPPEN. IT’S
UP TO ME! WHO IS THE AUTHORITY IN MY LIFE?
ME! I AM!
v I am the one who makes the ultimate decision in my
life, every time.
R
DO YOU SEE WHERE OTHERS ARE COMING FROM??
-
DO YOU SEE
THAT ACTS OF VIOLENCE AND AGGRESSION COMES FROM?
ð
[2]
HANDOUT 2 13G. GROWTH STAGES/SOURCE OF
VIOLENCE.
GROWTH STAGES
I've (BDL) noticed that we
as humans move through these major stages:
BABY, INFANT, CHILD
-----> TEEN -------------> ADULT --------------------> MATURITY
We move from:
SURVIVAL
------------------> AUTONOMY ----> IINDEPENDENCE -----> INTERDEPENDENCE
I BELIEVE: THE
SOURCE OF VIOLENCE IS EARLY CHILDHOOD
TRAUMA AND ABUSE! i.e. Rage at
being violated. (Daniel Goleman: Bully’s are not born they are
made.)
·
(DEEP) HURT --> FEAR à FEELING THREATENED à DEFENSIVE à ANGER à FEELING HELPLESS à FEELING HOPELESS à NOT CARE OF CONSEQUENCES à VIOLENCE
·
WHAT DOES THE PERSON NEED = HOPEà EMPOWERMENT à NO NEED TO FEEL THREATENED OR DEFENSIVE à HEAL HURT à DEVELOP STRENGTH OF CENTER
·
THOSE
NEEDING LOVE THE MOST DESERVE IT THE LEAST! THE HARDEST ONES TO GIVE IT TO. (You feel uncomfortable to be around them.)
Ø
FOR A
PRINTOUT OF HANDOUT 2 CLICK ON “GROWTH
STAGES” BELOW.
GROWTH STAGES
¨ "GUILTY BY REASON OF INSANITY" (Vs We usually say: Not Guilty By Reason of
Insanity) @ When you show you are vulnerable others
will test their pretense of strength. ((O<------((O)) * Can't stand to see the image of their own
weakness!! @ Often the faults that you easily see and
criticize in others are the ones you are hiding from yourself. It’s a good clue and a place to look for
your own growth. ð
[3] SEE
HANDOUT 3 13F. IT IS IMPORTANT TO
UNDERSTAND WHO I’M NOT & WHO I AM: @ MY BODY - What I use to relate to the
physical world. @ MY LITTLE VOICE INSIDE - I'm the
listener. @ MY CONSCIENCE (MY LEARNED VALUES) @ MY BRAIN - a TOOL THAT I USE. Ø FOR A PRINTOUT OF HANDOUT 3 CLICK ON “WHO I’M NOT”
BELOW. WHO I'M NOT
Ÿ
I AM THAT
THAT STANDS BEHIND THOSE AND USES THOSE. "I AM" and I INTEGRATE ALL OF
THOSE WHEN I'M IN THE ZONE. + EACH OF US HAS EXPERIENCED BEING IN
THE ZONE. WHEN WE HAVE BEEN "WITH
IT". WE FUNCTIONED AT A VERY HIGH LEVEL. EVERYTHING SEEMED TO JUST COME TOGETHER AND THE OUTCOME
JUST CAME OUT GREAT. BUT WE WERE IN
THE MOMENT AND NOT SELF CONSCIOUS, JUST BEING. @ OUR EXPERIENCE IS THAT WE MOVE IN AND OUT
OF THE ZONE TO VARIOUS DEGREES. PRACTICE BEING IN THE MOMENT, IN
THE ZONE. (Love & Couples in 1993;
Tiger when has his "A" game. Or David Duval in ‘99) ·
SAYING: "YESTERDAY IS A CANCELED CHECK; TOMORROW IS A
PROMISSORY NOTE; TODAY IS THE ONLY CASH YOU HAVE. SO SPEND IT WISELY". KAY
LYONS | MORNING
| DAY |
EVENING | | | | | STAY IN THE MOMENT | PLAN |
IN THE ZONE | REFLECT
| >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> * WHO IS THE MOST
IMPORTANT PERSON IN my WORLD??? I AM, Without me there
is (I have) no Universe! <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< ð
[4] HANDOUT 4
13I-1 - LECTURE BY MICROBIOLOGIST DR. BRUCE LIPTON I attended an interesting
lecture by microbiologist Dr. Bruce Lipton.
He has found in his work that each cell is surrounded with receptors and
that each of us is in communication with each of our cells. In the outer membrane are our self receptors
and identity. Beliefs and perceptions impact the cell. With multiple
personalities the hair, and eye colors, allergies, eye sight, etc. changes with
each personality change. Fear shuts off the growth system. Stress
suppresses the immune system. He sees
humanity as a community of cells and each of us are connected to that community
through our environment and beliefs. We are creators of our lives and outcomes
through our beliefs and perceptions impacting the very cells in our bodies. In 1985 he made a
discovery that changed his life. In his
work on studying muscular dystrophy, cells of a person who had passed on were
entered into a living person. He found that
the donor cells were responding to the person that had passed on and not to the
living person. He feels that this
verifies that we are spiritual beings and immortal, living on after leaving
this planet. Ø
FOR A
PRINTOUT OF HANDOUT 4 CLICK ON “DR.
BRUCE LIPTON” BELOW. DR. BRUCE LIPTON
Þ [5] HANDOUT 5
13I EXPANDING OUR AWARENESS - (IMPORTANT FOR EACH OF US TO DO) ¨
LOU TICE SAYS: TO THE DEGREE THAT YOUR AWARENESS IS LIMITED, YOUR
THOUGHT PATTERNS, PICTURES, AND ACTIONS WILL BE LIMITED. "MOST PEOPLE
LEAVE OUT IMPORTANT PARTS OF REALITY AND AS A RESULT AUTOMATICALLY
"LOCK-OUT OPPORTUNITIES TO ACHIEVE THEIR POTENTIAL." WE
HEAR IT SAID THAT "IGNORANCE IS BLISS" (IN REALITY THEN BEING
UNCONSCIOUS IS BLISS) OR IS IT BETTER TO KNOW, UNDERSTAND AND BE FULLY
FUNCTIONING. Ø FOR A PRINTOUT OF HANDOUT 5 CLICK ON “LOU TICE SAYS”
BELOW. LOU TICE SAYS
ð [6] HANDOUT 6 13H STATES OF KNOWING | I KNOW | I DON'T KNOW | I THINK I KNOW | |-------------------------------------------------------------------| | I KNOW | I DON'T KNOW | I THINK I | * IGNORANCE - I DON'T KNOW ) | I KNOW | I DON'T KNOW* | DON'T KNOW |
VS I THINK I KNOW) |--------------|-------------------- |---------------------- | INNOCENCE - NEVER EXPERIENCED
IT. | I KNOW I | I DON'T KNOW | | DON'T KNOW | I
KNOW | ¨ IT’S IMPORTANT TO DISTINGUISH WHAT WE KNOW FROM WHAT
WE DON'T KNOW. R
The I DON'T
KNOW - I DON'T KNOW box is the most dangerous. R
Teens are
usually in the boxes: “I think I know” & “I don’t know I don’t know”. Ø
FOR A
PRINTOUT OF HANDOUT 6 CLICK ON “STATES OF KNOWING” BELOW. STATES OF KNOWING
¨
OUR FEAR
CAN LOCK OUT OUR GROWING TO MORE NEARLY EXPRESS OUR POTENTIAL. §
Some say
fear is the opposite of love. ·
NEED TO CHANGE
FROM "HAVE TO" TO "WANT TO". Clean up room example. ·
In order to
grow we need to be motivated to change as was pointed out a "WANT TO"
condition. ·
DENNIS
WAITLEY: TO CHANGE, our level of
"EXPECTANCY" must CHANGE. WHAT DO YOU EXPECT
FROM LIFE? ONE NEEDS TO EXPECT SOMETHING DIFFERENT!! CAN YOU HANDLE LIFE?? Your expectations impact what you get. Serendipity is rare! (“If you think you can or if you think you can’t -
You’re right!”- Henry Ford) ·
We need to
move out before we have an assurance we will succeed. "WE NEED TO GET OFF
THE PAD BEFORE OUR GUIDANCE SYSTEM CAN WORK". (SEE AFFIRMATION ON
"MOVING OUT"). Risk taking need not be life threatening. ·
RECOGNIZE:
We all have natural limitations. We all have misperceptions. ·
NATURAL
LIMITATIONS: Limits on the 5 senses: i.e. seeing, hearing,
smelling. Just because we can't sense it doesn't mean it isn't there. We use
telescopes, microscopes, listening devices to improve our senses. Do you know that there is a night
scope used in the military that can detect a person in absolute darkness? The
body put off about 3 watts of energy and the scope can pick that up. Even
though it is too dark for the eye to see, the scope picks up that a person is
there. ************************************************** ARE YOU AWARE OF YOUR SHOES, RINGS, CLOTHES? (Were you before I mentioned it?) ************************************************** WHAT I LEARNED FROM LOU
TICE: WE HAVE A NATURAL FILTERING SYSTEM!! ·
There are
millions of impulses going to your brain asking for attention! i.e. Every hair! ·
You are
filtering out how your clothes feel, do your feet hurt, notice your rings!!! If
we are constantly aware of all of these things then we could not function.} ·
We have what is
called the RETICULAR ACTIVATING SYSTEM. A group of cells
in the brain which monitors sensory messages to the brain. (Lou Tice") + It allows only "personally
profitable information" and threats to get through to us. + Only PAY VALUE AND THREATS GET
THROUGH. (What I see as personally of value to me.) LOU
TICE EXAMPLE: -- Example The Football
Quarter back: Ø
He’s aware of the
wide end target in the end zone.(The pay value.) Ø
He doesn’t hear the
crowd (they are irrelevant) until after the touchdown. --
Why did you hear your name clear across the room? Your reticular activating system asks
the question: Are they a threat? Or
are they paying me a compliment? + There is another factor ACCOUNTABILITY. --
The mother with young child. When the
baby cries in the middle of the night who gets up to tend the baby? Mom. Why didn’t Dad get up? The one who feel accountable gets up. + Who watches the traffic in an
automobile, the driver or the passenger? Who looks for the parking place? {Does this explain why you
can't get your children to shut the front door until they have to pay the
heating bill? Daughter’s 1st apartment.} ************************************************************************************** ¨ WHEN YOU GIVE UP ACCOUNTABILITY, YOUR RETICULAR
ACTIVATING SYSTEM SHUTS OFF! AND VISA VERSA TO ACTIVATE, BE ACCOUNTABLE. *************************************
************************************************* + THAT'S WHY TEACHERS LEARN MORE THAN THE
STUDENTS. Lou Tice: -- Perhaps you didn't see the
value in math when you were in school. + A teacher says Johnny just can't learn
math. + We know that if Johnny sees value
in Math we can't keep it away from him. He will devour it! -- Who told you what was
important, THE PAY VALUES, when you were 5? 10? 21? (AGAIN YOUR ENVIRONMENT IMPACTED YOU. A
lot of valuable knowledge passed you
by.) ¨
The RETICULAR
ACTIVATING SYSTEM is a valuable tool that I can use to open my awareness
of the whole world around me. Understanding this concept is essential to
attaining goals. + BUT FIRST I must know what I
want! ESTABLISH THE PAY VALUE!! = Something you really want! (That’s what a goal is! The very thought of it gets
you excited!!) + Then I can become aware of "how to
get it". + I then allow my reticular activating
system to automatically let in information and data that is valuable to my
goal. I then increase my awareness of valuable opportunities and information by
making certain I know first Exactly what I want. ¨
IT IS
IMPORTANT TO KEEP MY EYE ON THE PRIZE, THE PAY VALUE. That keeps you
motivated. Keep your eye on the donut
not the hole!! NOTE: IF THREATS ALWAYS
GET OUR ATTENTION, DO YOU UNDERSTAND WHY NEWSPAPERS ALWAYS EMPHASIZE "BAD
NEWS”? PULITZER IN THE 1920'S STARTED PUTTING A "CRISIS ISSUE" ON THE
FRONT PAGE INSTEAD OF NEWS AND HE TOOK OVER THE NEWSPAPER SALES. ANY
WONDER EVERY NEWSPAPER FOLLOWED?? +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ v THE LOCK ON - LOCK OUT CONCEPT +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ v EXAMPLE OF SCATOMA –OR BLIND SPOTS ·
"Once we
LOCK-ON to and opinion, belief, attitude or "TRUTH" we find it very
difficult to see or understand a new "TRUTH". When we LOCK-ON to the
"TRUTH" we build a blind spot or SCATOMA to new information. It’s
important that we periodically re-examine our beliefs. ·
We say: “Seeing
is believing.” What is more true is:
“Believing is seeing”. Darwin on his travels to remote islands in his
studies found that the islanders could not see the large ship he and his
fellows came to the island only the small boat that brought them ashore. <============================== SHAPE MOTION ^ \ (
) ( )--------> ( |
) ORGANIZER : It takes all impulses and analyzes \ (
)\ ( ) ( ) them. Have I
seen it before ?, What EYE ()=====>/ \============( )
is most logical for it to be ? Then / \( )
/ ( |
) puts together a picture and
projects / ( ) |
that picture out & that
is what you see.
COLOR
V <============================== ¨
WHAT WE SEE
IS A PROJECTION, SOME TIMES CALLED AN “ILLUSION”. DEMONSTRATE, ·
HERE ARE EXAMPLES
OF HOW WE LOCK ON TO AND LOCK OUT INFORMATION AND DEVELOP A BLIND SPOT. ð
[7] HAND OUT 7
13D. * SEE THE PICTURE OF
"LADY". Which lady do you see?
The old one or the young one. Look
carefully, both are there. M.
Scott Peck the author of “The Road Less traveled” did a dirty trick, he put a
large picture of the “Old Lady” on the front wall where he was giving a
lecture. Guess which “Lady” most would see?
But they could not find the young one. Ø TO SEE THE PICTURE OF THE LADY/LADIES, HANDOUT 7,
CLICK ON “LADY” BELOW. Please be patient it takes a few moments for the finalized image to click in for the "LADY", "f's", "VASE", and 'NINE DOTS". But it will be worth the wait. LADY
ð
[8] SEE THE
HAND OUTS 8-1, 8-2, & 8-3 13
EXAMPLES OF LOCKON-LOCK OUT VASE, BLOCKS. NOTE YOU ONLY SEE ONE IMAGE AT A TIME!! Ø FOR HANDOUT 8-1 CLICK ON “f’s” BELOW. f's
*
How many “f’s” do you see? Count first then see the answer at the “o” below
before you read on. Ø FOR HANDOUT 8-2 CLICK ON “VASE” BELOW. VASE
Ø FOR HANDOUT 8-3 CLICK ON “NINE DOTS” BELOW. NINE DOTS
“o” There are 11
“f’s”. How could I miss any “f’s”? Most people miss the “f’” in “of” because it
is pronounced “ov”. v LIST SOME THINGS YOU ARE ATTACHED TO: (OUR ATTACHMENTS
CAN HOLD US BACK BY REPEATING THE SAME THINGS OVER & OVER.) + life style + work habits + vacation spots + prejudices + some friends ·
LOCK - ONTO
THE POSITIVE CONSTRUCTIVE MANNER. "Once we LOCK-ON to and opinion,
belief, attitude or "TRUTH" we find it very difficult to see or understand a new "TRUTH". When we
LOCK-ON to the "TRUTH" we build a blind spot or SCATOMA to new information. It’s important that
we periodically re-examine our beliefs. v
Have you
heard this statement? "He's set in his ways, no sense talking to
him". "He knows all the answers, you can't tell him anything". +
This makes change difficult. We have locked on to "TRUTHS" from our
early lives that aren't really TRUE!!! v Have you heard the expression: "40 thousand
Frenchmen can't be wrong”? Now if most people believe
something there is probably some likelihood it is true. BUT NOT ALWAYS!! For instance Nicholas
Copernicus wrote a book in 1543 called "Concerning the Revolution
of the Celestial Spheres". What he said went against all
learning of the times. So much so that the book was on the index of banned
reading for 200 years. Copernicus had the audacity of saying and
demonstrating that the sun did not rotate about the earth but that the earth
rotated about the sun. Some 90 years later in 1632
Galileo published a book, Dialogue On The Principal Systems Of The
World, which supported Copernicus.
Well everyone knew this was not true. Man was the center of all
things and this was important to his self image. Galileo under threat of
being excommunicated had to publicly recant (but under his breath said
"It's true"). Leaders of European thought were suspicious
of anyone who dared speak against popular beliefs based on the teachings of
ancient wise men. It would undermine their authority and the people would
believe nothing they said. JUST BECAUSE IT IS A
POPULAR BELIEF DOESN'T MEAN IT IS TRUE. ð
[9] HAND OUT
9 13A.
SHOW NEWSPAPER ARTICLE ON GALILEO BEING CLEARED IN 1992, JUST 350 YRS
AFTER THE EVENT !!!!! Ø
FOR HANDOUT
9 CLICK ON “GALILEO” BELOW. GALILEO
v
Have you
ever found that one of the principles you base your life on is completely wrong
? I have. It gives you a new perspective. I used to think this
"positive stuff was just a denial of reality." §
The
positive stuff is the place we are going for, not what is. YOU HAVE BELIEFS, A
FOUNDATION ON WHICH YOU BUILD YOUR
LIFE. WHEN THESE BELIEFS ARE THREATENED YOU FEEL THREATENED. YOU CAN EXAMINE THESE
BELIEFS ONE AT A TIME AND YOU FOUNDATION WILL NOT CRUMBLE. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | | | | | | | | ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | | | | X | | | | | ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | | | | | | | | ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ ð [10] HAND OUT 10 13B. RELAXATION RESPONSE I believe that the
integration of the left and right brain and the practice of the Relaxation Response
lead to a higher level of consciousness. Some believe it will change the world. ¨ THE RELAXATION RESPONSE REFERENCE BOOK BY HERBERT BENSON, MD, AVON, (Huge
Bibliography) 12/96 Dr. Herbert
Benson, Harvard Med., on CH3 Today show: relaxation, beliefs impact health. Per
AMA: Spirituality impacts health; mind/body techniques also. They work &
very cost effective. - Learning the relaxation response can be
very helpful to those who wish to change. ·
POSITION OF
OPENNESS -
Very helpful in
overcoming stress. -
THE RELAXATION RESPONSE ¨
Works like
this: §
Find a quiet
place where you will not be interrupted. §
Sit in a relaxed
way. In a chair, feet on the floor, legs and arms uncrossed. Some like the
Lotus Position. Whatever is relaxing but don't lie down, you'll probably fall
asleep. §
Close your eyes
and picture yourself on the beach or in a beautiful meadow, which ever is the
most restful and peaceful to you. Just find a peaceful place. §
Breath in slowly
through the nose, hold it for a few seconds, then let it release slowly through
the mouth. §
Let all the
tension in your body flow out, through your toes and your fingertips, with each
breath. §
Then say: “At
the core of my being there is an essence that is magnificent. At the core of my
being I am at peace. It is the quiet place.
I am in the quiet place.” Then repeat over and over: "I
am, I am still"......."I am, I am still"........”I am, I am
still”........ §
If a thought
comes to mind, look at it and let it go. §
Do for twenty
minutes first thing in the morning and again in the afternoon or evening. §
At the end of the
twenty minutes (no alarm clock), count to five and open your eyes slowly saying
"coming to the here and now" and look around. Take another 5 minutes
before going on with your day. If you do not take this time you will feel
rough, like you didn't get enough sleep. ·
GAIN ENERGY: + The experience will be very restful, a
way to gain energy. ·
NORMALIZE YOUR
SYSTEM: (Improves health - Dr. Art Ulene; Reduces headaches - Today.) + It also lets your whole system normalize
and relieve tension. You will end up more alert and more open to new ideas. ·
INSIGHTS: + Will get great insights. A link to the knowledge in
your sub conscious.(Keep a pad and pencil near by, write the insights down, they'll be gone shortly. If things come up that you can’t handle, then stop
doing. Talk to your counselor or
therapist about it. - REMEMBER EVERY EXPERIENCE IN YOUR LIFE
AT ONE TIME WAS RECORDED IN YOUR SUB-CONSCIOUS. (ALL OF THE 5 SENSES AT THE
TIME PLUS YOUR FEELINGS, THE IMPRESSION OF THE OTHERS' FEELINGS, AND YOUR
INTERPRETATION OF WHAT WAS HAPPENING.
THOSE OF LASTING IMPRESSION ARE STILL THERE ! @ THEN THERE IS WHAT IS REALLY HAPPENING OF WHICH YOU
HAVE AN APPROXIMATION A
PERCEPTION. @ YOU CAN INTEGRATE ALL OF THAT EXPERIENCE IN THE
LIGHT OF MORE RECENT
KNOWLEDGE YOU HAVE GAINED AND RE INTERPRET ITS MEANING. R
FROM
YOUR RELAXATION RESPONSE SESSIONS YOU WILL LEARN WHAT IS YOUR NEXT STEP IN YOUR DEVELOPMENT !!! R
KNOWING: (ANOTHER LEVEL OF CONSCIOUSNESS) + There is the experience of knowing. - I
AM. I EXIST. - OF THE UNIVERSE: @ I'M PART OF THE UNIVERSE. I
REPRESENT CONSCIOUSNESS. @ I BELONG. I HAVE A PLACE. @ I'M SIGNIFICANT. - I HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH THE
UNIVERSE. + At the core of my
being I am connected to the Universe ! - THEREFORE, I HAVE A ROLE IN ITS
OUTCOME. + At the core of
my being I am connected to eternity ! -
THERE IS MORE
TO LIFE THAN I PRESENTLY UNDERSTAND. Ø
FOR A PRINTOUT
OF HANDOUT 10 CLICK ON “RELAXATION RESPONSE” BELOW. RELAXATION RESPONSE
·
I HAVE THE
POWER : TO TAKE CHARGE OF MY LIFE AND
BECOME WHATEVER I CHOOSE AND COMMIT TO. + HOW ? THERE IS A PROCESS FOR ME TO
USE: - I CAN LEARN ANYTHING I COMMIT TO
LEARN. - I CAN IMPROVE MY FUNCTIONING IN ANY
AREA OF MY LIFE. + Merely want it strong
enough to do what is necessary ! @ FOR INSTANCE: + MEMORY + AWARENESS + SENSITIVITY + COMMUNICATIONS + WORK AROUND MY LIMITATIONS + YOU NAME IT @ HOW ? : Using Affirmations & Visualizations
to imprint my subconscious and practice the Relaxation
Response to gain peace of mind and a higher level of consciousness. ·
PERFECT ? (As usually
defined.) AM I PERFECT IN ALL ASPECTS OF MY LIFE
? NO, BUT I CAN LEARN TO DEAL WITH ANYTHING IF I COMMIT TO DO SO, DO WHAT EVER
IT TAKES. ð
[11] HANDOUT
11 13C. TENSE ? TRY MASSAGING YOUR MIND. Another method to release tension and
stress. Ø FOR HANDOUT 11 CLICK ON “TENSE” BELOW. TENSE
v
WHERE ARE
WE REALLY COMING FROM ? HOW DOES OUR
HUMAN PAST IMPACT US ? If we are to come from
our authentic self it is important to understand how our human past has
imprinted us and our genetic make up. ð
[12] HAND OUT,
12: “SYNOPSIS”: WHAT IS THE SOURCE OF
OUR HERITAGE For over 90% of our experience
up to about 10,000 years ago we humans were a part of a collective, a nomadic
tribe, hunting and gathering without a perception of ourselves as individuals. We were into survival,
scratching for food and water, enduring extreme heat and cold, fighting off
disease and all the other creatures that would have us for breakfast, lunch or
dinner. We had our offspring right
after puberty (12 to 16 years of age) so that we could nurture them into
maturity before we died at the age of 25 to 30 years of age. All of that is still a part
of our nature and what comes naturally. Today we live in cities,
still fighting off disease, but mostly those that com with old age, not having
to fight off other creatures except our fellow human beings. We have our offspring
at an average age of 27 and live into our 90’s. We are being pounded with new
thoughts and ideas at such faster and faster rate that no one person can keep
up. In our present environment
none of this is natural, we are out of our element, and will be until we mature
enough to change our subconscious mind set. We have the power to change
this mind set but only if we find the inclination to do so and make the
commitment of our free choice. We have more free time than
ever before in our history. How we use that free time will determine our
future. Billy Deane Lilly Instructor “Building
Self-Esteem” Ø FOR A COPY OF HANDOUT 12 CLICK ON “SYNOPSIS” BELOW. SYNOPSIS
From: “GREAT
AWAKENINGS” OF HISTORY Reference: George Will
article in §
Fogel says:
Today time available for leisure exceeds time spent working. This raises “new and urgent set of general population
issues” involving “fair access to spiritual resources”.
These include “a sense of purpose, a sense of opportunity, a sense of
community, a strong family
ethics, a strong work ethic and high self-esteem”. §
If the
conquest of economic necessity means more time for reflection and
introspection, education may be a spiritual as well as economic good. §
Fogel says
everyone having access to education “may have been the largest socialist
enterprise in history: the transfer from the rich to the poor and middle
classes of a form of capital that exceeds the value of all privately held land and industrial capital,
human capital”. §
Fogel: If
Americans increasingly have time - inclination for “self-realization” through
reflection, this is grand news, but does not entail new government duties. [It is my (BDL) observation that actually we as
a culture have moved more to entertainment to take up our time than
“self-realization”.] (BDL) My comments. [BDL:
1946 End of W.W.II - Move to 2 parent family, loss of extended family. City
job, industries. Less and less tradition. More marriage break ups.] [BDL: 1997 Hampton, VA
Community again comes to aid of family. Gives support, takes more
responsibility. Teaching parents, gives help in raising child. Gives child what
s/he needs. 1998 Proposition 10 passed to provide Children & Family
Commission in each County of California to do the same [BDL: What all of this means, when we look at all of the
past human history and how we developed,
from this time forth the changes in human development will be the result
of the use of our minds to make changes in our collective subconscious. It is time for us to move from being ruled by
the “amygdala” survival instincts, the fight or flight response, to being
governed by our higher mind. And this can only be done by the development of
each individual mind which impacts the collective mind of humanity.] [(BDL) indicates my inserted comments.] Ø FOR MORE ON OUR HERITAGE CLICK ON “MORE HERITAGE”
BELOW FOR HANDOUT 13 MORE HERITAGE
Ø AND FOR A QUICK SUMMARY TO DATE CLICK ON “TO DATE”
BELOW. TO DATE
********************* [14]* CONSIDERATION 4 * Revised
6/26/02 after the 6/25/02 meeting. See
part in italics. ********************* ·
Recognize we
are (I am) in process of becoming. Focus
on becoming. ·
We are (I am)
prewired to have great creativity, imagination and adaptability. ·
Learn what
your (my) natural talents and tendencies are. Read the four dimensions of
personality types and place you on the
scale. If you want more detail get the book “Do What Your Are” (See the
Recommended Book List ). ·
Understand
how your filtering system (Reticular Activating System) to your awareness
works. “Pay Value”, “Accountability”, and “Threats” automatically get through
the filter. PUT IT TO WORK FOR YOU by
focusing on the “Pay Value” and choose “Accountability” for what you want. ·
Scatoma (Blind
spots) be aware we have them and watch for them. ·
Be aware of
the LOCK ON-LOCK OUT concept. Locking On to an idea or concept Locks Out all
other ideas and concepts on that subject. Remain open to revising your beliefs. ·
Practice the
RELAXATION RESPONSE and watch yourself grow and become empowered. FOR A PRINTOUT OF HANDOUT
14 CLICK ON “CONSIDERATION 4” BELOW. CONSIDERATION 4
SEE BELOW FOR THE LIST
OF HANDOUTS & To continue to the next session click on SESSION 5 below. SESSION #4 HANDOUTS 7#4-8.wpsSESSION #4 6/26/02 revised 7/22/03 esteem44\hndout44\hndouts2.wps & 6WKWKSHP [1] 19A DETERMINE YOUR PERSONALITY TYPE [2] 13G. GROWTH STAGES/SOURCE OF VIOLENCE (sorcviol.wps) [3] 13F. WHO I'M NOT/WHO I AM (whoimnot.wps) [4[ 13I-1 LECTURE BY MICROBIOLOGIST DR. BRUCE
LIPTON [5] 13I
EXPANDING OUR AWARENESS [6] 13H STATES OF KNOWING (knowing.wps) [7] 13D. LADIES' PICTURE (see master) [8] 13.
EXAMPLES OF LOCK ON - LOCK OUT (4 PAGES) (SESSION 5) (see master) [9] A. CLEAR GALILEO'S NAME (see master) [10] B. RELAXATION RESPONSE (relxresp.wps) [11] C. TENSE ? Try massaging your mind. (Article see master) [12] 13E-1 SYNOPSIS (inherit3.wps) [13] 13E.
WHAT IS THE SOURCE OF OUR INHERITANCE
(inherit2.wps) [14] #4 CONSIDERATION (consid4.wps) v
NEXT MONTH
SESSION #5: ·
I will share helpful
audio tapes I’ve used and recommend. ·
True
Self-Esteem & relationships §
What is
codependency §
The three
aspects of Love: Agape, Filio,
Eros §
Intimacy in
relationships §
Introduction
to human sexuality
He’s aware of the
300# tackle about to crush him.(The threat).
