Dominant Female Seeking Submissive Male

I'm a dominant, full figured, white woman in my early to mid 50's. I'm fun loving, sexually uninhibited, have a good sense of humor, and love to laugh at jokes, life, and even, at times, at myself. Sexually, I am dominant and am seeking the right man to be in my life; which means that when the mood is right, he must be willing to submit to me completely. Don't misunderstand, I'm not looking for a total 24/7 slave. What I am looking for is a man who has a high sex drive, is well hung, enjoys uninhibited sex, on an equal basis, and yet, can enjoy BDSM activities (as a sub) with me-alone, at clubs, and in groups. He must also enjoy group activities with me that are sexual, but not always BDSM. He must also be intelligent, employed, enjoy travel, dining out, art, movies, music, museums, etc. He should also be a non or light drinker, non smoker preferred (but not necessarily), and be either separated or single (not cheating on his wife). I want his home phone # and his work phone #, so that I can contact him when I want to talk to him (is that too much to ask?).He should also drive, have a car, live in New Jersey (Bergen County preferred, but at least within 40 miles of GW Bridge. Age should be no younger than 35 and not older than 55. I enjoy the shore and the mountains ( I love nude beaches and resorts). I do enjoy some TV, but I'm not a couch potato and have only a minimal interest in sports.