When I was preparing to get married, I started getting all sorts of advice, especially at bridal showers and things like that from family and friends.
But one of the most interesting "lessons" came from a woman I met for the first time, just a few weeks before the big day.
She said: "Honey, whatever you do, don't ever let yourself become a 'make-do' woman."

I had no idea what she meant, but of course she was about to explain.
She continued, "men don't deny themselves anything. Whatever they want to buy, they buy. What ever they want to do, they do. Meanwhile, there is the wife, making do with her hair not being done, her clothes from yesteryear, her nails in need, never had a pedicure, scraping the bottom of her tube of lipstick!

Oh, I could go on and on with how 'we' make do. And why, because he car needs fixing, this bill is behind, we have to use our time to take care of this, or take care of that, we're saving for this, working, cooking, cleaning, raising, etc."

She warned me to never become a make-do woman, because she says if you  start, it is hard to stop and one could easily find themselves making-do for the rest of their lives. And it's not good to start something that you don't intend to finish.

I vowed, it would never happen to me. And didn't think much more of the conversation until one day I began to take notice she was right.
Men are a lot better at being good to themselves. Some call it being selfish, there has to be another word for it, tell me if you know.
Whatever you call it, it does have it's place. When they want to play ball or golf or fish, they go! When they want to buy clothes, or equipment, or video games or whatever, their "thing" is, they buy!
Have you ever tried to stop one?? Has anyone ever been able to stop one, let me know??

When I look around, I see a whole heap of make-do women, whether married or not, with or without children, they are all over the place!
I have decided that I am going to make my best effort to become a "make-time" woman and make the time to do what I need to do to be good to myself, whether that's a trip to the salon or the gym or the mall.
This time I'm gonna take a lesson from the guys!

ALL RIGHT LADIES SINGLE AND MARRIED....LET'S NOT BE 'MAKE DO' WOMEN,
LETS LOVE OURSELVES AND ENCOURAGE EACH OTHER....

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