This is such a meaningful story
that I wanted to share it with you.
She was six years old when I
first met her on the beach near where I live. I drive to this beach, a
distance of three or four miles whenever the world begins to close in on
me. She was building a sandcastle or something and looked up, her eyes as
blue as the sea.
"Hello," she said. I
answered with a nod, not really in the mood to bother with a small child.
"I'm building," she said.
"I see that. What is it?" I asked, not caring.
"Oh, I don't know, I just like the feel of sand." That sounds
good, I thought, and slipped off my shoes.
A sandpiper glided by.
"That's a 'joy,'" the child said.
"It's a what?"
"It's a 'joy.' My mama says sandpipers come to bring us joy."
The bird went gliding down the beach.
"Good-bye joy," I muttered to myself, "hello pain,"
and turned to walk on. I was depressed; my life seemed completely out of
balance.
"What's your name?" She wouldn't give up.
"Robert," I answered. "I'm Robert Peterson."
"Mine's Wendy... I'm six."
"Hi, Wendy." She giggled.
"You're funny," she said. In spite of my gloom I laughed too and
walked on. Her musical giggle followed me. "Come again, Mr. P,"
she called. "We'll have another happy day."
The days and weeks that followed
belong to others: a group of unruly Boy Scouts, PTA meetings, an ailing
mother. The sun was shining one morning as I took my hands out of the
dishwater. "I need a sandpiper," I said to myself, gathering up
my coat. The ever-changing balm of the seashore awaited me. The breeze was
chilly, but I strode along, trying to recapture the serenity I needed. I
had forgotten the child and was startled when she appeared.

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"Hello, Mr. P," she
said. "Do you want to play?"
"What did you have in mind?" I asked, with a twinge of
annoyance. "I don't know, you say."
"How about charades?" I asked sarcastically. The tinkling
laughter burst forth again.
"I don't know what that is."
"Then let's just walk." Looking at her, I noticed the delicate
fairness of her face. "Where do you live?" I asked.
"Over there." She pointed toward a row of summer cottages.
Strange, I thought, in winter.
"Where do you go to school?"
"I don't go to school. Mommy says we're on vacation." She
chattered little girl talk as we strolled up the beach, but my mind was on
other things. When I left for home, Wendy said it had been a happy day .
Feeling surprisingly better, I smiled at her and agreed.
Three weeks later, I rushed to my
beach in a state of near panic. I was in no mood to even greet Wendy. I
thought I saw her mother on the porch and felt like demanding she keep her
child at home.
"Look, if you don't mind," I said crossly when Wendy
caught up with me, "I'd rather be alone today." She seemed
unusually pale and out of breath.
"Why?" she asked. I turned to her and shouted
"Because my mother died!" and thought, my God, why was I saying
this to a little child?
"Oh," she said quietly, "then this is a bad day."
"Yes," I said, "and yesterday and the day before and - oh,
go away!" "Did it hurt? " she inquired.
"Did what hurt?" I was exasperated with her, with myself.
"When she died?"
"Of course it hurt!!!!" I snapped, misunderstanding, wrapped up
in myself. I strode off.
A month or so after that, when I
next went to the beach, she wasn't there . Feeling guilty, ashamed and
admitting to myself I missed her, I went up to the cottage after my walk
and knocked at the door. A drawn looking young woman with honey- colored
hair opened the door.
"Hello," I said. "I'm Robert Peterson I missed your little
girl today and wondered where she was."
"Oh, yes, Mr. Peterson, please come in Wendy spoke of you so much.
I'm afraid I allowed her to bother you If she was a nuisance, please,
accept my apologies."
"Not at all-she's a delightful child," I said, suddenly
realizing that I meant it.
"Where is she?"
"Wendy died last week, Mr. Peterson. She had leukemia. Maybe she
didn't tell you." Struck dumb, I groped for a chair . My breath
caught. "She loved this beach; so when she asked to come, we couldn't
say no. She seemed so much better here and had a lot of what she called
happy days. But the last few weeks, she declined rapidly..." her
voice faltered. "She left something for you ... if only I can find
it. Could you wait a moment while I look?" I nodded stupidly, my mind
racing for something, anything, to say to this lovely young woman. She
handed me a smeared envelope, with MR. P printed in bold, childish
letters. Inside was a drawing in bright crayon hues- a yellow beach, a
blue sea, and a brown bird. Underneath was carefully printed: A SANDPIPER
TO BRING YOU JOY. Tears welled up in my eyes, and a heart that had almost
forgotten to love opened wide. I took Wendy's mother in my arms .
"I'm so sorry, I'm sorry, I'm so sorry," I muttered over and
over, and we wept together.
The precious little picture is
framed now and hangs in my study. Six words -- one for each year of her
life - that speak to me of harmony, courage, undemanding love. A gift from
a child with sea-blue eyes and hair the color of sand, who taught me the
gift of love.
NOTE:
The above is a true story sent
out by Robert Peterson. It serves as a reminder to all of us that we need
to take time to enjoy living and life and each other. "The price of
hating other human beings is loving oneself less." Life is so
complicated, the hustle and bustle of everyday traumas, can make us lose
focus about what is truly important or what is only a monetary setback or
crisis. This weekend, be sure to give your loved ones an extra hug, and by
all means, take a moment ... even if it is only ten seconds, and stop and
smell the roses.