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Persuading your parents to buy you a horse when the answer is "NO" is definetly a difficult task, but the strategy you must keep in mind is: PERSISTANCE. Persistance is the key to obtaining. By now you might have realised that your parents can be stubborn. But you must also keep in mind, that your parents may have genuine reasons for not being able to keep a horse. For example, you must understand that if your parents are not particularly wealthy, you may not be able to afford a horse. Hence the expression "Poverty is owning a horse!" But then you have the parents that can afford a horse but won't get you one. WHAT CAN YOU DO?! As
mentioned before, you must persist! At no costs must you become quiet!
You must constantly hint and hint and hint.
OK,
you've been hinting and everything for a long time now, it's time to show
your parents that you ARE dedicated and passionate!
"See this here, mum, this is the frog. The frog is probably the most delicate part of the hoof (other than the nerves ofcourse). When you pick out the hoof, you have to be really carefully not to bump it, because if it gets bruised then there can be trouble. As the saying goes 'For the sake of the nail, the shoe was lost, for the sake of the shoe the hoof was lost, for the sake of the hoof, the horse was lost'" and in other words ramble on and on and on. Get
your parents involved with your riding. Get them interested and wanting
to know more. Share interesting facts with them etc.
Now's
where you get ready for the main 'battle'. Die off the pleading and hinting
for a little while (a couple of weeks) and then you come down hard. Well,
I'll tell you what I did just to give you an idea. I wrote a ten page letter,
consisting of things about how much I'd want a horse, how much it would
cost (try and make it sound as cheap as possible- all you need is the go
ahead and then you can break the news that it might cost more!), that you
don't need much gear, how much time it would take (try and make it
sound appealing ie. not that much time) how much you want a horse, and
if you go to UNI, that you won't be able to get a horse for a long time,
and that the childhood years are meant to be the best years of your life
and how much more enjoyable it would be with a horse. OK, now comes the
pleading. I wrote two pages of "PLEASE". Then after writing this, I left
it in an evelope on the coffee table with two cups of coffee (for my parents)
and left all my books open on 'first horse' sections. Your parents are
bound to come and talk to you (probably saying sorry but no) that's when
you turn on the waterworks (crying). Just say you've wanted it all your
life and you probably wouldn't have a horse all your life and how much
you want it, how everyone is getting a horse except you, that you have
all this gear and you believe you're ready to upgrade from the school horses.
Mention that you'll most probably have to get rid of your horse for the
tough years of high school (though, you will have to tackle this hurdle
when the time comes) Anyway, they'll soon get the picture (you have better
arguments than them too!) then leave them...and hopefully they'll discuss.
All
you have to do is persist. What I mentioned above may not always work in
different situations. There mayl be legitimate reasons as to why you can't
have a horse and there is no use getting angry at your parents for this.
If that is the case try and find out ways that you can get a horse. (These
will vary from situation to situation) If you would like further advice
on convincing your parents, why don't you:
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