Boys 3, will it be as good as the first two?
For many of you, my rants are the best part of the website.  Soooo, since I enjoy writing them, I think you shall be enjoying another rant now.  And I did promise one on boys so here you go...

Boys are dumb.  We all say it, and I know that I am no exception.  Why do we think boys are dumb?  Because we want them to ask us out and they don't.  But not just any boy, certain boys.  That cute guy in your Spanish class or a friend who lives downstairs.  You aren't really picky, but you won't settle for anyone in reality.  Admit it.  You wouldn't go out with a guy if he was really, really creepy.  We all have our limits.  So, as far as I can tell on the guys point of view, we're confusing.  We meaning girls.  I don't see us as being confusing, but I do see that guys are confused.  We do think differently though.  Guys and girls.  So anywho, guys have it kinda hard because they have to ask the girls out right?  Tough I know, but honestly I think they have it easier than we do.  Girls,like me, prefer and usually expect guys to be the ones to ask us out, have to convince the guys we like that we are worth asking out.  We can't just say, hey wanna go out to dinner or whatever, and get an answer.  It's hard for guys I know, but at least then you can tell pretty easily if she likes you or not.  Get rejected or get accepted.  And thus it goes.  But girls have to flirt, tease, test, prod, and much, much more to figure out if he's interested.  Not only that, but also we can't just ask.  That would be forward.  We don't want that.  But we also don't want to be too shy or hard to get.  It's so hard to figure out what to be!  I know they say just be yourself, but it doesn't work.  Why not?  Because if you like someone and you just be yourself then the poor guy doesn't know you're interested so it makes it hard for him to ask you out.  And you do want to stand out a little if you like him.  So what do you do?  Flirt.  It's still being yourself, it's just a fliratious self.  ^_~  It's hard on girls. We are told to be ourselves, be more confident, don't be too forward, don't be too shy, don't be...blah, blah, blah.  You get the picture.  We're a living contradiction.  So why not call this a girls rant?  I should actually.  But I won't because I want to call it a Boys Rant.  Cuz then the guys wanna read it.  I want to take the rest of my space to try to help boys understand what girls are thinking.  Intrigued?  You should be.  So did you read the stuff above?  Good.  Now you know why girls stress so much when you thought they had it easy.  We know it's hard for you to get up the courage to be possibly rejected, but you have no idea how much it means to a girl that you take the time to ask her out.  All of the single girl's I know complain they don't get asked out.  Just find a girl and go have fun.  Don't take it too seriously.  Make it a group date.  And they'll love it (well most will).  Unless you seriously just want to get married right now, ask out different girls.  Find a girl you normally wouldn't be interested in and see if she wants to go.  What will this do for you?  Well, it will help you decide what kind of girl you like.  Also you will get to know a lot of different girls.  Plus in group date settings you won't be pressured into awkward situations.  This also helps you to avoid putting too much pressure on your date, and gives you both the opportunity to get to know each other better.  So it just works really well.  Understanding this will help you understand girls.  Why?  Because girls really do think a lot like guys at times.  We want attention from you, and we enjoy it when you make us feel special.  But just like with guys sometimes we just aren't interested in being more than friends.  Respect that if you expect us to respect it from you.  Seriously though, it's pretty much the same.  Now what else confuses our fine young men?  The chivalry vs. feminism thing?  Honestly I don't understand it either.  I'd rather have the chivalry any day, but I do like it now and again when guys let me do something nice for them.   From my experience, sometimes you can serve others by letting them serve you.  As for other girls I don't know what to tell you.  It depends on the girl.  You'll just have to get to know them I suppose.  ^_^.  Not that that's a bad thing mind you.  It just takes time and patience.  See that's really the whole mystery to girls. You can't figure out what they want?  Well we can't figure out what you want.  Why?  Because people are different, we think differently, we do things differently.  But in general guys and girls have a tendency to complement one another.  If you don't understand why we do things, then try just appreciating that we do do them differently.  We have our reasons.  And unfortunately, I am most sad to say, sometimes girls can be jerks too.  Yeah.  Sad.  I'm sorry if you've been hurt by a girl, but remember that they are all different.  You don't give up eating apples because you had one bad one once.  You just be more careful in picking the apple you're going to eat.  So here's my advice in understanding girls: 1) Get to know them.  They are usually perfectly willing to talk to you and tell you about themselves.  2) Let them get to know you.  Yeah, sometimes we don't shut up, but make sure that when we do ask you about yourselves that you avoid one word answers and generalities.  Like who doesn't like music?  That's silly.  But if you like polka and clogging, tell us.  That's cool.  We want to know if we're interested too.  3) Learn to love the differences.  Heavenly Father made women different for a reason.  If it annoys you that we always want to talk, try to appreciate how amazingly women can communicate and how easily they make friends.  4) If you don't understand something, ask.  Sometimes if you want to know something it's easiest to just say, hey Susan (or whatever her name is) can I kiss you *blush*?  or Betty, I really don't know what I did wrong, but I'm sorry and if you help me understand then I can avoid doing it again.  Would that be okay?  Girls, especially if you are at BYU, are generally honest creatures when it comes to things like that.  5) And the number one way to understand girls (ok so it's number five, but it is a good way)  Give up.  Not on girls, just on stressing about us.  Sometimes we just do weird things, and you just won't understand why.  Don't take it personally.  Just accept that we have a reason, and decide what you want to do.  If you aren't sure what we want, then either resort to number four or ask someone else for advice.  If you have a specific question, then I might have an answer.  But I'm not an all knowing, all understanding being.  So you will just have to rely on your own judgement and try not to stress too much.  Remember, nothing easy is every really worth it.  It's the time you spend on a relationship that makes it beautiful, long-lasting, and worthwhile.  My love to you boys!  Keep it up!  You are amazing! ^_~
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