The Masculine, Feminine Emotional Dynamic
Before actually moving on to the masculine, feminine emotional dynamic and how the
masculine of us are basically left hemisphere thinkers and the feminine are right hemisphere
thinkers, I want to site a good real life example of how the two modes of thought
compliment each other. The left hemisphere is sometimes referred to as the dominant
hemisphere, however this example brings out the value of the feminine point of view in
problem solving, it involves the game of chess.
When someone is contemplating a move in chess, the person is, while holding the entire
board in his mind, contemplating many different variations of possible moves. The game of
chess is particularly suited to analysis by a computer, it being very linear and logical, as a
result many programs have been written to "play" the game and challenge human chess
players. The human can, to pick a number, analyze maybe twenty moves each second, the
computer on the other hand, can analyze maybe twenty million moves each second. Yet the
difficulty in getting a computer to beat a good chess player is well known, why? It comes
down to the person's use of the right hemisphere or access to the strengths of the feminine
nature. The computer may be able to "in it's mind" make twenty million moves each second,
it however has no concept of the big picture. It wastes endless time contemplating
combinations of moves that have no hope of leading anywhere. The human chess player on
the other hand sees the big picture and makes good use of its twenty moves each second.
The two hemispheres work together, each bringing to the task its different point of view to
arrive at an enlightened decision, just as in a functional masculine, feminine partnership.
Women, at least the ones expressing the feminine nature, are well know for having a
greater emotional sense of the world around them, interestingly this means, since emotion
and not matter is the reality, women have a greater sense of reality then men. This means, if
you properly define intelligence as the measure of ones perception of reality, women are
more intelligent then men.
Note, I am talking about feminine women here.
However, since matter is not reality, the above statement does not necessarily mean that
women know best. Women are not as conscious of matter and as a result have a poorer sense
of its workings. This is most clearly seen in how women are not as involved in the
development and maintenance of our material technologies.
There are a lot of people that would like to see society be sexually hydrogenous. They
don't like the idea of men and women being different. That is to say they don't like one sex
being better or more capable then another in a particular area. In their view there should be
just as many men at home raising children as there are women, and just as many women
who are engineers as there are men. While I don't wish to delve into that subject at this point
I do wish to say that I strongly support the masculine, feminine polarization idea. If women
feel or have been made to feel like the lesser sex it is only the result of a lack of
understanding in this society of the true nature of matter.
The masculine, feminine polarization idea has a lot to offer, most notably sexual love,
which is a means of intense, direct, emotional communication.
In this society what we basically have is this. Half the population, the men, are tied into
matter on a conscious level while the other half, the women, are more conscious of the
emotional reality behind matter. As emotional beings we each have a certain level or
capacity for consciousness, that is to say we can each "bring under one roof" a certain
amount of awareness, the amount depends on our age as an emotional being. Men are
emotional beings who choose to devote a larger percentage of that consciousness, to matter,
which is a symbolic expression of an aspect of the reality. Women on the other hand devote
a larger percentage to emotional reality in its raw form.
Another way to look at it would be as follows.
If you were to hold your hand out in front of your face and focus on it, you would find that
the background is out of focus. If you were to then focus on the background, your hand
would become out of focus. If you let the near objects represent matter and the distant ones
the greater emotional reality, those males expressing the masculine nature, are focusing on
the near objects, while those females expressing the feminine nature, are focusing on the
background.
In short each partner in a masculine, feminine relationship brings to the table a strength in a
particular area, they achieve that strength at the expense of abilities in another area.
Accompanying this difference in focus is a difference in emotional pursuit, that is to say
men are more interested in the structure and nature of emotional reality, women are more
interested in experiencing the different emotions reality has to offer.....
[That is the end of what I have it, that is more or less in its final form. The below are
extracts from stuff that is still in its ruff draft]
What does it mean for an emotional being to feel emotion?
I suspect that it is somewhat like the way a column of air in an organ pipe or flute, resonates
in certain way, different emotions corresponding to different modes of resonance or modes
of osculation. Given that the universe is an expression of emotional reality it is reasonable to
assume that emotion has the same nature or characteristics as that of matter. On it's most
fundamental level matter has both a wave and particle nature, in physics its called the
wave-particle duality. Matter itself, on one level can be described as a series of waves, these
waves are described mathematically using "wave functions", we will simply call them
matter waves. We'll be treating emotion as a wave even though it likely it also has particle
characteristics. Being a wave means that emotion should have specific cycle rates and cycle
times and generate what are called standing wave patterns. Also if we are emotional beings
then we would be a collection of these standing wave patterns. We will be speaking quite a
bit about waves in the future.
Emotion being a wave it is likely no coincidence that the pure sounds generated by flutes,
pianos and guitars can cause us to feel emotion, we as emotional beings, resonate
sympathetically in the same manner that a second instrument just, sitting by the first, might
lightly begin to resonate. If you were to call loudly into the open lid of a piano or the sound
hole of a guitar, you would find that strings start to resonate. They would resonate
sympathetically, and the vibrations would somewhat match the sound that you called out. As
an emotional being, listening to pure instrumental music, the sensual emotions, are causing
an aspect of your emotional being to resonate sympathetically. Also note when listening to a
song with lyrics, each word of the song, is an "instruction" for you to imagine something,
imagined images are a kind of self stimulation, stimulation itself being this sympathetic
resonance process.......
We will now launch into a lengthy discussion concerning the physics of waves and so
forth with the intention of developing our emotional sense of these things.
It is my intention even after discussing the following physics and then getting back again to
the more metaphysical stuff, to begin again from the very start and develop our emotions
that are related to mathematics.
Again time and effort spent developing the emotions related to the physical universe is time
and effort well spent because the universe can be assumed to be modeling aspects of
emotional reality. A greater emotional sense of the physical universe results in a greater
emotional sense of reality. For example we will see that even the atom plays out, to some
extent, the masculine-feminine emotional dynamic.
Concerning the physics of waves, imagine holding a long rope with the other end tided to a
post. If you move the end of the rope, up then down once quickly, a pulse will travel down
the rope, bounce off the post and come back. If you move the end of the rope up the down
repeatedly in a smooth way, a long train of pulses called a wave will travel down the rope. If
a ribbon was tied somewhere along the rope, as the wave passed by, it would move up and
down at a certain rate or frequency, that is it would move up and down a certain number of
times each second. Instead of the term frequency I will be using the term cycle rate, it is
more descriptive. So again, the cycle rate is the number of times something goes through its
cycle in a given unit of time. When a string on a guitar is plucked a sound wave is generated
which travels through the air. When a sound wave is traveling through the air the density and
pressure of the air at any given point in the air varies at certain cycle rate, just as the ribbon
a string goes up and down.... Another common term is period, the period of a wave is the
time it takes for the wave to go through one complete cycle. For example if the time it took,
for the ribbon to go from its uppermost position, to its lowermost position and back again to
its uppermost position, was half a second, the period of that wave would be half a second. I
will also be calling the period of a wave the cycle time, that is, the cycle time is the time
for something to go through one complete cycle......
I don't know the mechanism by which sensual emotions, excite these different modes of
oscillations in us, but it might be somewhat like the way resonances are set up in wind instruments.
When playing a flute one directs a stream of air at a sharp edge, one side of the edge leads
into the flute and the other doesn't. The stream of air is somewhat unstable in that it first
streams over one side of the edge and then flips to pass over the other side, and continues to
alternate back and forth. One can control, somewhat, the rate at which it does this by
varying, first, the thickness of the air stream and second by varying the speed of its flow.
Now I mentioned that getting the air column up and running in a specific mode of resonance
involves a kind of positive feedback action,.......
Introduce the imagination.
The ability to imagine a specific thing seems to be connected to ones true understanding of
the subject, ones emotional sense of it. I equate true understanding with having an
emotional sense of something. Someone that can rattle off a series of reasoned steps or run
through a logical argument, may, but does not necessarily have an understanding of the give
subject. Understanding seems to be associated with a kind of emotional awareness, the
individual seems to have the whole thing laid out before him or her. That being said,
emotional conviction, is not a good measure.
Interestingly, one's emotions being seems to be more strongly connected to ones personal
imagination than to the sensual construct matter. An example would be strippers, when a
stripper comes out on to the stage, she does not just take off her clothes, and display her
body. Her goal is to emotionally arouse the men and she does this by only quickly flashing
her breasts or such. She gives them a peak but then covers up causing the men to imagine, in
imagining they end up stirring their emotional being to a greater degree.
Another good example is that any successful director of horror films will tell you, that to
generate that maximum amount of fear in the viewer one should leave the viewer to imagine
the horror, you don't necessarily want to show them the blood and guts.
The interaction between our emotional being our imagination and matter is a constant in
our waking state of consciousness. It would seem to be matter's role to constantly feed our
imagination. That being said it would seem the greatest or deepest emotion changes in us
occurs when we generate the images ourselves. It would seem the ability to generate these
images is a measure of one's emotional development in the particular area. Musicians who,
as emotional beings, are well developed with regards to sound, can "hear the music in their
head" to a far greater degree than others....
..... This brings us to, without a doubt, our greatest folly, we confuse constantly these guiding
sensational emotions with the heart felt ones. We often don't even make a distinction
between the two. Again the best place to see this in the bedroom, that's what the working
title of this web site, "Make Love Not Sex", is all about. Men more than women, make the
sensual emotions the target of their pursuit, instead of seeing past them and trying to
emotionally connect directly, emotional being to emotional being, with their partner....
.... When all is said and done, the sun and earth are a team, without the sun, the earth would
be a frozen rock, without the earth, the sun would be a pointless star. It is not so extreme for
men and women but the idea is the same.
Two emotional beings one resonating more predominately in masculine modes the other in
the feminine, work together to mine and experience emotion. Working together, often
involves the two people doing different tasks, as when doing dishes, one washes the other dries......