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Dear Guinan -- I'm confused and trying to find myself. I know that I'm beautiful and intelligent and have many talents, yet I can't seem to make any friends. My female acquaintances steer clear of me and seem jealous of my all the time, and men, while they appear to almost idolize me, back off when I try to be friendly. What am I doing wrong?
--- Baffled ex-Borg

Dear Baffled,
I wonder what the problem could be? I know when I consider making a friend, I always look for a person who's overly confident of her assets, and if all my male acquaintances idolize her – all the better. I'm thinking that maybe there could be something you are overlooking, something that is obviously in front of everyone else, to the point they fear of being poked in the eye! Do you project an artificial barrier, maybe unconsciously that keeps people beyond arm’s length? As for men, evidently you are dealing with creatures those far beneath your intellect; either that or possibly they fear being assimilated into a lifestyle they aren't ready for.

My advice is to seek out male companionship with someone who's unique, someone whose intellect is comparable to yours, or at least he thinks he knows it all. Maybe someone in the Medical profession?
Q:)


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Dear Guinan --
Several years ago, I made a serious error that involved many people ending up lost. I've made every effort to make things right, and they support all my actions, but I still have this cloud of gloom that's eating away at me. Even my best friends tell me that I'm obsessed with my goals and that I spend far too much time brooding over the past. What do you say? --- Sticking to My Guns in the Delta Quadrant

Dear Sticking Guns,
You sound depressed, and depression always goes hand-in-hand with an eating disorder. Together the two rob a person of their happiness and self-worth, and easily wreak havoc on innocent lives. Tell me -- do you often skip meals, supplementing with large amounts of stimulants such as coffee? Have you cut yourself off from friends due to these feelings of guilt or by some other miss-guided idea to make things right all by yourself?

That's what I thought.

Listen to your friends. They know what they are talking about, and assuming that probably half of your people are male, they would never admit to being lost in the first place and therefore would support you as long as you say "you know where you're going".

Take my advice, Sticking – use your support system! Surely there is someone who shares the burden of command that you can lean on? Someone who would welcome being able to be more than the preverbal "yes ma'am" man? I'm sure if you did that the outcome would be a very happy resolution.
Q:)


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Dear Guinan --
There's this woman that I love -- I've been in love with her for seven years -- yet she won't give me the time of day. I once thought she was interested -- we even spent some time together on a secluded planet -- but now she treats me like her lap dog. Should I give up trying? -- Just Warming the Chair Next to Her

Dear Just Warming,
We women are a fickle bunch. We tell our men that we want them to be warm and sensitive to our needs and wants, always giving in to our superior judgment. However in reality, those are the men we tend to dump on. We always gravitate to the "bad boy” – you know, the bad seed who in our hearts we know will turn on us in the end for his own gain. Either that or the shiftless no account whose idea of a dream date is a game of darts and sharing a pint. Actually what she really wants is an Angry Warrior, a man who knows what is right, and what he wants and won't cave when someone pulls rank. Stop being her lap dog, start being TOP dog, and show her who has the bollocks!

If that fails, hide all the coffee for a week then lure her to your cabin with the promise of a double cafe espresso and seduce her.
Q:)


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Dear Guinan --
Soon I'm going to have to face my father whom I haven't seen in over seven years. He's never approved of me and what I've done with my life, and now I'm going to spring a wife and kid on him. Any suggestions on how I can do this? -- Turned Over a New Leaf

Dear New Leaf,
The relationship between parent and child is often complicated, and that of fathers and sons sometimes more so. I think that you will find that your father missed you and is as ready for reconciliation as you are.

Be sure to present your new family right away to your parents – your father's interest in you will be totally replaced by his new grandchild! You will become the non-entity that happens to be raising *his* grandchild, all its accomplishments will be due to his influence and it's failures will be your doing. Yes, presenting him with a grandchild, especially if it is the first, will be the key to a smooth start to a new relationship with your dad.

Of course, if your new wife is docile and has a sweet agreeable disposition, that would definitely ensure a happy ever after. Q:)

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