MEMO FROM A CHILD TO: PARENTS
1~Don't spoil me. I know Quite well that I ought not
to have all I ask for. I'm only testing you
2~Don`t be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it, it makes
me feel secure.
3~Don't let me form bad habits. I have to rely on you
to dectect them in a early stage.
4~Don`t make me feel smaller then I am.
It only makes me behave stupidly "big".
5~Don`t correct me in front of people,
if you can help it. I`ll take much
more notice if you talk quietly with me in private.
6~Don`t make me feel that my mistakes are sins.
It upsets my sense of values.
7~Don`t protect me from consequences.
I need to learn the painful way sometimes.
8~Don`t be too upset when i say "I hate you".
Sometimes it isn't you I hate but your power
thwart to me.
9~Don`t take too much notice of my ailments.
Sometimes they get me attention I don't need.
10~Don`t nag. If you do, I shall have to protect
myself by being deaf.
11~Don`t forget that I cannot explain myself as well
as I should like. That`s why I am not always
accurate.
12~Don`t put me off when I ask questions.
If you do you`ll find that I stop asking and
seek my information elsewhere.
13~Don`t be inconsistent. That completely
confuses me and makes me lose
faith in you.
14~Don`t tell me my fears are silly.
They are terribly real and and can do
much to reassure me if you try to understand.
15~Don`t ever suggest that you are perfect
or infallible. It gives me too great a shock
when I discover that your neither.
16~Don`t ever think that it is beneath
your dignity to apologize to me.
An honest apology makes me surprisingly
warm towards you.
17~Don`forget I love experimenting.
I couldn`t get along without it, so
please put up with it.
18~Don`t forget how quickly I am growing up.
It must be difficult for you to keep pace
with me,but please try to.
19~Don`t forget that I don`t thrive
without lots of love and understanding,
but I don`t need to tell you that do I?
20~ Please keep yourself fit and
healthy.I need you.
