vanity

Vanity!

"The destruction of the mind, heart, and sole".

Vanity...we all have it...

..to be vain about ones looks... is this a sickness, or a desire to please ones self, or someone else?
We should not try to improve our looks just to make someone else happy or to impress other people. We should be happy with the way we look. To improve ones looks for someone else is only causing ourselves to be unhappy with our own appearance. This in turn is not healthy, models are is this vicious circle. They have to remain thin in order to keep their jobs as models. This is sending the wrong signals to the younger women of today. They feel that in order to be excepted they too have to be thin. There has been many a young woman end up in the hospital trying to achieve this goal, and to what means? Are they happy....are they truly happy?

Vanity...

..many a marriage has been destroyed over it. A woman sees her husband looking at a younger woman, she in turn feels she is unattractive to him and tries to make herself look younger in an attempt to keep his attention. Her fight to remain youthful is a loosing battle, they can not stop time, or the aging process. There is no magic cure. If their husband really loved them, and I mean "Really Loved Them" for who they are, he would not put them in that position. This is not a healthy way to live, it not only effects their mind, and also plays a part in the destruction of their marriage.

Vanity...

...what do we do about it? We accept our selves for who we are. We accept the fact that we are over weight, thin, or getting old. These are all facts of live. The men we married or the boys we date....did they want us for our looks or for who we are? Did the boss hire us for our skills, or for our looks? We still have our skills, so it had better not be for our looks, there are other places that could use our skills. We do not change our appearance to keep other people happy. If we change our apperance it will be because of, our health, or our self esteem.

What is time? The shadow on a dial, the striking of the clock, the running of the sand, day and night, summer and winter.... these are but the arbitrary and outward signs.... the measure of time, is not time itself. Time is the life of the soul.

I do not profess to be any kind of doctor, this is only my opinion and observations. It seems to me that the women of today are being put in this position more and more. Either to make their boyfriend happy, their husband, or their boss. I feel that the only person they should try to make sure is happy is themselves.....but I guess that only happens in a perfect world, and God only knows we are a long way from that.

If you should happen to find yourself in this position, please contact someone to help. Their are lots of good programs to aid in this problem.