Weeks 6, 7:
Habits 1, 2, 3, 4
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People,
By Stephen Covey
An
Introduction
Purpose:
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Change
from the inside out
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Take
steps to encourage life-long fulfillment, happiness
Put
things in perspective
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Maintain
HIGH QUALITY relationships
Expectations
per Covey:
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Improved
self confidence and self esteem
YOU
are in control
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Improved
relationships
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Capacity
to influence and motivate others will be enhanced
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Spirit
of adventure, zest, joy
Key
concepts, Chapter 1
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Personality
Ethic
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Character
Ethic
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Paradigm
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Paradigm
Shift
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Principle-Centered
Paradigm
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Inside-out
change
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7
Habits
Personality
vs. Character Ethic
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Personality
Ethic.
Success
is a function of:
Personality,
Public image,
Attitudes and
behaviors,
Skills and
techniques, that lubricate the processes of human interaction.
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Secondary
Trait
Social
recognition of talent.
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Character
Ethic.
Success
depends on:
Integrity,
Humility,
Fidelity,
Temperance,
Courage,
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Primary
Trait
Goodness
of character.
Paradigm
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Paradigm
A
model, theory, perception, assumption, or frame of reference.
The
way we see the world
Perceiving,
understanding, interpreting.
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Paradigm
Categories:
Realities
= the way things are
Values
= the way things should be.
Character
Ethic and Principles
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Based on idea that principles
govern human effectiveness.
Natural
laws accepted as RIGHT
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Examples of Principles:
Fairness
Integrity/honesty
Human
dignity
Quality/excellence
A
New Level of Thinking
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Habits of Highly Effective People is a
Principle-centered
Character-based
Inside-out
approach to personal and interpersonal effectiveness.
Effectiveness
& Production Capability
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Effectiveness
= a function of (P), (PC)
P
symbolizes production of desired results.
PC
symbolizes production capacity.
Effectiveness
is the focus on both P and PC, balancing the two or optimizing P by optimizing
PC.
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Organizational PC
Always
treat your employees exactly as you want them to treat your best customers.
Habit
1: Be Proactive
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The Social Mirror can be a trap
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(3)
theories of determinism:
Genetic
determinism
: you inherit your personal
tendencies and character.
Psychic
determinism
: your upbringing and childhood
experiences mold you.
Environmental
determinism
environmental factors are responsible for who you are.
Proactivity
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As
human beings we are responsible for our own lives.
Reactive
people are driven by feelings, circumstances,
conditions, the environment.
Proactive
people are driven by carefully considered,
selected and internalized values.
Taking
the Initiative
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Does
not mean being:
pushy,
obnoxious,
aggressive.
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It
does mean recognizing our responsibility to make things
happen.
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WHAT
principle is involved in Habit 1?
Proactivity
vs. Reactivity
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I am responsible for my life
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My choices control my behavior
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Factors beyond my control create my
life
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My conditions, conditioning, and
feelings control my behavior
Disowning
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Theres
not enough time in the day
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I
was never very good at public speaking
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I
lost my temper
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Find
out what the prof wants and do it
Owning
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Ive overscheduled myself
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Ive
avoided public speaking because Im uncomfortable with it
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I
gave way to my feelings
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I
decide whats needed & get the system working on it
Circle
of Concern/
Circle of Influence
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Where
do you focus your time and energy?
Proactive
people focus their efforts in the Circle of Influence.
Reactive
people focus their efforts in the Circle of Concern.
Direct,
Indirect, and No Control
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Problems
fall in one of three areas:
Direct
control:
problems involving
our own behavior.
Indirect
control:
problems involving
the behavior of others.
No
control:
problems we can do
nothing about, e.g., our past.
Key
to changing habits:
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Changing
our habits,
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Changing
our methods of influence,
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Changing
the way we see our no control problems
Are
all within our Circle of Influence.
Self-Test
Web Sites:
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http://www.usaweekend.com/respond/covey_urgency_quiz.html
Week
7 continued . . .
Habit 2
Begin
with the End in Mind
Habit 2 of
The Seven
Habits of Highly Effective People
Toward
what end are you working?
What are you doing each day that is
really important to you?
What really matters to you?
Do you allow external influences to
write your life script?
Chapter
2 thesis:
We may be busy, we may be efficient,
but
We
will only be effective if we begin with the end in mind.
All
things are created twice:
A mental or first creation, and a
physical or second creation
Most endeavors fail with the first
creation.
We are either the second creation of
our own proactive creation, or,
We are the second creation of other
people's agendas, of circumstances, or of past habits.
Leadership
& Management
Leadership is the first creation.
= doing the right things.
Management is the second creation.
= doing things right
People
try to manage before they clarify values.
Rescripting:
Becoming
Your Own First Creator
Proactivity is based on the endowment
of self-awareness.
Two other endowments allow us to expand
proactivity and exercise personal leadership in our lives:
Imagination
allows to visualize potential
Conscience
allows us to develop our talents within the context of principles and personal
guidelines.
At
the Center
Whatever is at the center of our life
will be the source of:
Security,
Guidance,
Wisdom, and
Power.
What is at the center of your life?
Life
Centers
People often act as if some combination
of centers were the basis of their actions
None of these centers (or combinations)
is complete in itself
Spouse
Family
Work
Money/Possession
Friend/Enemy
Church
Self
Pleasure
An
alternative:
Principle-centeredness
Not reactive
Most effective decision
Consistent with your ultimate values
Allows one to be interdependent
Can feel comfortable with decision--not
ambivalent
Principle
Center
Our lives need to be centered on
correct principles -- deep, fundamental truths, classic truths, generic common
denominators.
As a principle centered person, you try
stand apart from the emotions of situations and from other factors to evaluate
options.
Your
Mission Statement
The key to the ability to change is a
changeless sense of who you are, what you are about, and what you value.
A mission gives you the essence of your
own proactivity.
The vision and values that direct your
life.
The basic direction from which you set
your goals.
Your
Personal Mission Statement
What you want to be
What you want to do
Values and principles that guide what
you are and do
Starting
your mission statement
List two values that you admire
Start keeping a list of notes, quotes,
and ideas, which may be helpful to you in formulating what you stand for.
Upcoming
classes:
Covey, Habits 3, 4, 5
BPS:
Action oriented speeches
Learning log due soon on Covey