Not cool:
The typical Western idea of "falling in love".
I don't intend to "fall in love" with my parnter because I'm sure that after I got over the initial euphoria I'd probably feel trapped in a relationship with someone who is emotionally dependent on me.
I fear this trapped feeling.
My definition of Love is primanily a series of actions - not a feeling. The 'feeling' or sense of emotional attachment comes later as a result of conscious actions.
When I'm ready to love, I will choose a man based on a combination of his intellectual and physical appeal and personality. I will consciously cultivate a relationship with him through actions that express my interest. Over time, if he's a match, an emotional bond will develop. If he's not a match, it won't. I would not tell a man that I "love" him in the typical romantic sense until I feel this emotional attachment.