To my friend these are just experiences from me to you all..be smart,
as engineer, manager etc..    " Emotional intelligence" refers to the
capacity for recognizing our own feelings and those of others, for
motivating ourselves, and for managing emotions well in ourselves and in
our relationships. It describes abilities distinct from, but complementary
to, academic intelligence, the purely cognitive capacities measured by IQ.
Many people who are book smart but lack emotional intelligence end up
working for people who have lower IQs than they but who excel in emotional
intelligence skills.
Friends..these two different kinds of intelligence-intellectual and
emotional-express the xtvt of different parts of the brain. The intellect
is based solely on the workings of the NEOCORTEX, the more recently evolved
layers at the top of the brain. The emotional centers are lower in the
brain, in the more ancient subcortex; emotional intelligence involves these
emotional centers at work, in concert with the intellectual centers. Among
the most influential theorist of intelligence to point out the distinction
between intellectual and emotional capacities. Two personal varieties "
knowing onee's inner world and social adeptness".
Oklahh all valuable friends..these were I listed out 5 basic emotional and social
competencies:

• Self-awareness : knowing what we are feeling in the moment and using those preferences to guide our decision making; having a realistic assessment of our own abilities and well-grounded sense of self-confidence.
• Self-regulation: handling our emotions so that they facilitate rather than interfere with the task at hand; being conscientious and delaying gratification to pursue goals; recovering well from emotional distress.
• Motivation: using our deepest preferences to move and guide us toward our goals to help us take initiative and strive to improve and to persevere in the face of setbacks and frustactions.
• Empathy: sensing what people are feeling being able to take their perspective and cultivating rapport and attunement with a broad diversity of people.
• Social skills: handling emotions in relationships well and accurately reading social situations and networks; interacting smoothly; using these skills to persuade and lead , negotiate and settle disputes for cooperation and teawork.