The Rules, what happens, and how to conduct yourselves!
What do you wear?
The essential dress code for the evening is neat, clean, relaxed and casual!
Guests generally wear neat casual attire to the party but then many get adventurous sometime after arrival. There is no limit to how revealing it is or how little you wear!
Dress advice is available from one of the coordinators if you are in any doubt!
What we Supply!
An excellent venue
With a possibility of an energetic night, we offer you some nibbles and light supper to provide you with the stamina to keep it up (the energetic night that is. What were you thinking we meant?)
For something other than the drinks you may have brought with you, we do supply tea and coffee. We also supply any bits and pieces that you may need on the night should you decide to get adventurous, such as party hats as we call them (condoms for those of you that can't figure out what party hats are!), lubricants etc.
What do you need to bring?
Your own towels if you plan to enjoy our spa or have a shower.
A bag in which to place your clothes, etc. once you get changed so that you belongings are secure for the evening. We accept no responsibility for personal effects and belongings.
Whatever you wish to drink on the night (in moderation). Note: We do supply tea and coffee.
Your entry fee for the evening.
If you are lucky enough to look quite young, please bring proof of age (drivers license or photo ID) as this is an adults only function, and we would hate to have to refuse you entry, which could prove to be rather embarrassing for you, and maybe a wasted trip also.
What not to bring!
Too much alcohol, (or drink too much before the party).
This is definitely the quickest way to win the most unpopular person contest at a swinger's party!
Cameras! The only cameras permitted are those authorised by sweet little ME!
Any bad behaviour, (usually caused by the above).
Any form of illegal substance (drugs), (definitely a no-no!).
Please note the above, as any guests ignoring this will be asked to leave, or refused entry in the first place! Sorry for the harsh words folks, but we would like to make this clear now rather than risk someone's potential embarrassment at a party or the annoyance to other guests that could be caused as a result!
Party and Function Ettequite
If it's your first time at a swinger's party, treat it as a social night, as there is definitely no obligation to participate in anything, it is usually best to get to know people, watch how it all works, and if then you wish to take things a little further with them, just ask politely. To ask is the best policy, if you don't ask, or try to dive right on in, you will most likely get a knock back, or worse. Keep in mind every swinger was a first-timer at some stage so the more experienced one's should know how you feel. All people are different, so if you find they are not interested at the time, don't be offended, it might not be you, they might be shy or not yet ready or they might not feel well or they might not feel the right chemistry with you.
If you are a single, or a couple, and would like to get to know one partner out of another couple, it would be best if you tried to get to know them both, and not to single out just one of them. Some might even be quite offended that you approach them separately as many couples ONLY play as a couple. I think you will find most couples fairly comfortable with the fact that others have approached them both, and not trying to go behind one's back, as they say, to get to the other partner. I think I could safely say that most couple's and single's at swinger's parties are quite approachable if done in a polite and respectful fashion, at the worst you will probably achieve a least a decent conversation if you are not quite their type, and at best, well, you know the answer to that, in other word's don't go up to someone and say, would you like to go to a room, or nice tits, can I swing off them, as your opening line of a conversation!
Also remember that if they say no, it means NO! Do not persist, as it would be considered to be a bit pushy, if not harassing. Keep in mind, you are out to have fun, most come for much the same reason in one way or another, so be nice, please! Always ask before getting involved in something you see happening, do not assume its OK to just dive on in, no matter how full on it might look. There are many ways to ask to join in, whilst still being discrete to save embarrassment, obviously having at least talked to people beforehand would help. No-one usually mind's if people ask quietly, do you mind if I join you and also if someone asks you this, answer them if you don't want them to, as no reply at all could be taken as yes, join in!
At our parties, we have two different types of play area's, Open area's of which people may enter and use other parts of that area to play, or watch any activities that might be developing and even ask to join in. Then there are private area's which means just that. Not everyone is an exhibitionist, or some may need a little intimacy to get it happening, so do not disturb!
When it comes to alcohol, most of us do not mind a drink or two, especially to calm the nerves. That's fine by us, but in moderation. When you are walking around in a place that is not familiar to you, not wearing very much at all and moving in a suggestive sort of way, the last thing you want is for some drunken idiot spoiling your night. There are many other unwritten general rules of swinger's party etiquette, but I have probably bored you enough with these, in short, be polite, be pleasant and if you are going to misbehave and play up, do it in a nice way because after all, that's what you come for, isn't it?
Party Hygiene
It can be quite surprising that not all are in touch with common hygiene practices, which usually are part of everyday life, but can seem to be sometimes overlooked at swinger's parties; the types of things that most of us are taught at childhood, and then expanded upon as we develop into teenagers becoming sexually aware. We're not trying to say that some are dirty buggers, nor do we intend to give some of you folks a lecture here, although to avoid confusion, I think we should point out at least a few of the aspects that are relevant to this type of party, as most of us swingers tend to get ourselves in rather tight situations, many sharing more than just simple conversation.
The following are just a few examples:
Showering before the party: - Most of us can be a little self conscious when it comes to smelling fresh when turning up to a party, but occasionally time runs away from us and next thing we know, oops, not enough time, or we were held back at work. It happens, but unfortunately when at a party where the dress code is very little, there's not much hiding you from the aftermath of a hard days work. What we are saying here is, if you didn't have time before the party, our place does have a shower, so use it!
Using someone else's towel: - Are you sure you know which bits of themselves they wiped, or what they wiped off, or even what they may have cleaned up with it? In other words, BYO towel, and keep it to yourself!
"The Spa!" Sex in the spa:- We all can get a bit exited groping around in a big bath filled with a bunch of hot and horny bodies, but it's usually a good idea to take the "thar she blows" bit, and the lead up to it, to a dry place; - not everyone in there wants to share your bodily fluids!
Fingernails: - Yes they can be fun, but they can also scratch those delicate bits in vulnerable areas, and I am sure we would hate to be told, "I'm too sore to play any more tonight", so guys please trim them before turning up at a party, and girls, please be gentle!
You lucky girls that blow big time: - You ladies know what it is, as there is nothing wrong with it and fun when it happens, but do the next ones using that spot on the mattress know what that wet patch is? Bringing a spare towel wouldn't hurt! And don't forget to brush your teeth before bed kids! "Yes mummy!"
Who is welcome
We welcome invited adults; - couples, and single girls on most Saturday nights. We request that you "book in" with our coordinators first so we do not get overwhelmed by
numbers.
Some nights we may change things a little in relation to who can attend on particular evenings such as theme nights for example. Nights are generally open to registered couples and single women only. Some times parties may be open only to those who would be suited to a particular style of evening such as a night for bi-sexual or BDSM people only.
Please feel free to ask when you book in for a particular evening.
The age of our guests that attend our parties can vary from 18 years old to 50ish years young. Guests in the younger age bracket requiring entry may be asked for proof of age. We welcome persons of all nationalities. We do not consider size, shape, looks, etc. to be of importance. We believe that each person is an individual and has a personality of his or her own, which is the main priority.
Note: Elysium Adult Parties is a private function and not open to the general public. Entry is by way of Invitation Only by the proprietors of The Elysium Adult Parties. We reserve the right to refuse entry to, or ask to leave our premises, any persons that we decide to be not suitable by way of, behaviour, attitude, intoxication, consumers of illegal substances, or
for any other reason that we may deem to be applicable at the time.
Entry to any party or event run by Elysium Adult Parties indemnifies Elysium Adult Parties its staff, volunteers and any venue against any liability for any accident, incident, injury or perceived offence whatsoever which may occur as a result of any person attending such an event. Entry to such an Event indicates full knowledge and consent to the activities which may occur at an event or party coordinated by Elysium Adult Parties and indemnifies the owners and organizers and other attendees from any action arising from the attendance at a party or event by any individual or group.
Bookings can be made by telephone only on any day during the week (within reasonable hours of course) prior to a Saturday night's party, although we may ask you to give us a courtesy call on the day of the party, just so we know that you haven't forgotten, as occasionally some do. Also, it's generally not a good idea to leave booking to the last possible moment so as to try to find out exactlyhow many others are coming before you make up your own mind whether to attend. You could end up being told by that time that, sorry, we are booked out! We do like to control the maximum number of people (which we vary often), and also limit numbers due to controlling the ratio of girls to guys, and various other reasons.
In other words don't ring us every hour or so on the day of the party and ask us how many people are booked in for that night, then tell us you will call us to check again later. If everyone did that we would never know how many we were catering for! When we take bookings, we try our hardest for your purposes to get the right numbers and ratio for an evening, so please help us help you! I hope we are not sounding a bit over the top here, but we do need to get this point across, (it's not the amount of people that makes a good party, its the people themselves or rather the personality of the people that counts the most).
Guests can pay their admission (entry fee) for the evening at the door on arrival or they may choose to prepay if they wish if it makes it easier for you. We only accept cash.
Note: The entry fee only covers entry to our premises, the use of the facilities that we provide and any refreshments or consumable that we may also provide. Sorry, the entry fee does not cover, nor do we provide any form of service, promise or guarantee of anything other than the entry coverage as mentioned above.
