"HOW TO ACCESS WHAT YOU WANT FROM A MAN"
“The train is about to leave”
Copyright C 1998 by J.A.Mcbean. Library of Congress Washington.D.C.20559
A lot of females especially the religious ones; find it difficult to communicate their needs to men. They do not know how to access what they want from a man. Some of them do not know how to access what they want from God either. I have seen woman praying that they want a husband, and then get up acting like a man is the lost thing on their list of things.
This article is prepared to show the shy ones how to say what they want without really saying it. How to access what they want from a man and most of all how to hold down a relationship.
For example, a woman wanting to invite a man over to her house but do not really want to say “I am inviting you over” She can say, come over and help me move my refrigerator around a little bit. If she wants to be touch, she can ask for a neck rub or a foot massage.
A lady friend ask me to help her bring some grocery over to her house, when I was leaving she say to me “When a woman make you on offer you must take it for you do not have what she is giving you so take it” It was ten years after I get the offer that I really find out what she been trying to say to me. Men are not as smart as how we look; we miss out on our chances every time. The woman has to be smart with her signals, to really get into a man’s head.
A lady friend ask me to help her done some work at her house, after doing some of the work, she went to lie down for a while. She then asks me to bring the cornflakes that are on her refrigerator to her. I could not find it so I return to her. Still lying down she use one of her foot to point and show me the corn flakes on top of the refrigerator. Now I saw the corn flakes that she is talking about.
Some think that they are throwing themselves to man and that they are above doing that. It does not matter how pretty a woman face may look if no body is seeing it but her little brother how is she going to get a man? If a man look hard on a woman today the man pick up sexual harassment charges, men are very careful today to make the first move. Also men know that women outnumbered them, which made our chance of landing a woman even quicker than how a woman can land a man.
BEFORE YOU GO HUNTING.
There is something women need to know about men. Men need clean woman. Clean dress, and clean hair and clean mouth. Not necessarily expensive but clean. When a woman came beside a man he must not smell any odor. If the woman cannot keep up with the expensive hair styles, she can dread lacks the hair, wash it daily and that will do. If the church does not want you with your dreads find one that will take you with it. Soak your feet and anoint it with oil daily to make it soft. Most women do not know that men look at women feet, especially the heal back. If you think this is an insult you better think again, are ask daddy.
FIND A MAN THAT WANT YOU THE WAY YOU ARE.
Instead of putting yourself through a lot of pain to slim down and up, just find a man that crazy about you the way you are. When a woman slim down to get a man, when she put on weight again the man run. Find somebody that want you the way you are so you do not need to do any adjustment to you self. Any adjustment must be in the aria of education. Like advancement to your education, changes to your attitudes and manners. Work on your body for health purpose not to get and keep men.
BEWARE OF YOUR LOVE LANGUAGE.
A woman’s love language can turn off a man just like how a man’s approached can turn off a woman. A woman will tell you that she likes that man but the man does not have any approach. Which mean the man do not know how to approaches a woman. If your love language is upsetting to that man then you need to change it. Men do not love silly women, and women do not love headless men. You cannot be acting like you are on drugs and keep a man.
SMART WOMEN DO NOT NEED FRIENDS OPINION ON A MAN.
Sometime the same man that you win over you friends is secretly waiting for that man to discover her. Do you think another woman friend is going to tell you that man you get is good when it is the same man she is trying to get? “Excuse me, you mean XXM made love to you? Did you use protection? If it the same XXM that I know he is always sick with VD and God know what” “Coming in her boasting off your frog mouth, I got you good this time I bet she will never talk back to him”
CHOOSING A PERSON WHOM YOU HAVE THINGS IN COMMON.
Choose a man that you both can talk, talk without arguing. Choose a man that you want to get along with. You need somebody that are going somewhere in life and you can move up along with them, you do not want a looser. Choose a man that you will not find it hard to submit to.
Amos 3:3 (KJV) Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
COMPROMISING THE NAME OF THE GAME.
If you are trying to start a relationship, you must remember that you will have to make room in your life for the other person. Do not try to change people; what you see is what you get.
HOLDING DOWN THE MARRIAGE.
There is no way any woman is going to hold down a marriage without basing their relationship on the principles mentions in the scriptures below. Titus 2:3-5 There is no way she is going to keep that relationship together, without paying attention to these verses.
Titus 2:3 (NASB-U) Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good,
Titus 2:4 (NASB-U) so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children,
Titus 2:5 (NASB-U) to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.
IF THE WOMAN IS NOT PLEASING SHE CAN FORGET THAT MAN.
1 Cor. 7:34 (NASB-U) ----; but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
SOMETIME ONLY CHRIST JESUS CAN HELP US:
Matthew 6:33-AV But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Isaiah 55:6-AV Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: Isaiah 55:7-AV Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
LOOK AT THE BENEFITS OF BECOMING A CHRISTIAN:
How does a person become a Christian, and are sure that he/she is save? First the person must know that he/she is a sinner and need deliverance from the lord.
Romans 3:23 (KJV) for all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;
Galatians 3:22 (KJV) But the scripture hath concluded all under sin, that the promise by faith of Jesus Christ might be given to them that believe.
THE SINNER MUST BELIEVE THAT THERE IS A GOD:
Hebrews 11:6 NKJV But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.
THE SINNER MUST BELIEVE THAT GOD IS READY TO FORGIVE HIM:
Isaiah 55:7 (KJV)Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the Lord, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
THE SINNER MUST BELIEVE THAT CHRIST DIED FOR HIM:
Romans 5:6 (KJV) For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly.
Romans 5:8 (KJV)But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
1 Cor. 15:3-8 (KJV) For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; [4] And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures: [5] And that he was seen of Cephas, then of the twelve: [6] After that, he was seen of above five hundred brethren at once; of whom the greater part remain unto this present, but some are fallen asleep. [7] After that, he was seen of James; then of all the apostles. [8] And last of all he was seen of me also, as of one born out of due time.
MUST BELIEVE THAT GOD CAN KEEP HIM:
Ephes. 3:20 (KJV) Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us,
Jude 1:24 (KJV) Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy,
PERFECTING THE SAINTS IS A WORK OF GOD:
1 Peter 5:10 (KJV) But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, establish, strengthen, settle you.
THE SINNER MUST KNOW THAT ONLY JESUS CAN SAVE THEM:
Acts 4:12 (KJV) Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.
THE SINNER MUST MAKE A DECISION TODAY:
Isaiah 1:18 (KJV) Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool.
2 Cor. 6:2 (KJV) (For he saith, I have heard thee in a time accepted, and in the day of salvation have I succoured thee: behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.)
BOW YOUR HEAD AND PRAY THIS PRAYER:
Lord I am a sinner and need your salvation. Forgive all my sins. I accept your son Jesus as my savior today.
We can sing with the song writer" I rise walk in heaven’s own light above the world and sin with heart made pure and garments white, and Christ en-throned with in. The cleansing stream I see I see I plunge, and O It cleans-eth me. O praise the Lord, it cleans-eth me, it cleans-eth me yes, cleans-eth me."
DROP ALL PRE-CONCEIVE IDEAS OF CHRISTIANITY:
Drop all preconceived ideas of Christianity because these conflict with the reality of Christianity. The lord will live the life through you day by day. You do not drop things from your life on your own. The spirit of God will walk you out of sins in his own time.
FIRST HUMBLING YOU:
Ephes. 2:8-9 (KJV)For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: [9] Not of works, lest any man should boast.
If you stop sins and get holy before God’s timing you will begin to boast how it is your own magnetism got you so far, then you became a source of discouragement to others. Therefore, you are going to stuck upon a sin or two. The sin always getting the better of you. This will push you to always accept God’s grace, and to see your own frailness.
1 John 1:8 (KJV) If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.
TO CONTINUE GROWING IN GOD:
1 Peter 2:2 (KJV) As newborn babes, desire the sincere milk of the word, that ye may grow thereby:
2 Peter 1:5-10 (NKJV) But also for this very reason, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue, to virtue knowledge, 6 to knowledge self-control, to self-control perseverance, to perseverance godliness, 7 to godliness brotherly kindness, and to brotherly kindness love. 8 For if these things are yours and abound, you will be neither barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. 9 For he who lacks these things is shortsighted, even to blindness, and has forgotten that he was cleansed from his old sins. 10 Therefore, brethren, be even more diligent to make your call and election sure, for if you do these things you will never stumble.
FINDING OUT YOUR CALLING:
When I was newly save, the believers always, ask me if I know the will of God for my life! I never really know what they were talking about. Every person that was saved had a mission and a gift. However, because you are just a babe in Christ you do not know any of these. As you go on with the lord his will for you will unfolds day bay day. Do not run off and make any big commitment. Your mate has to be tailor made for you by God. You are now a citizen of heaven. Heaven does not rule by democracy. You cannot serve God with democratic mind set.
WHAT YOU MUST DROP OFF:
Hebrews 12:1 (Living Bible) Since we have such a huge crowd of men of faith watching us from the grandstands, let us strip off anything that slows us down or holds us back, and especially those sins that wrap themselves so tightly around our feet and trip us up; and let us run with patience the particular race that God has set before us.
Ephes. 4:31 (Living Bible) Stop being mean, bad-tempered, and angry. Quarreling, harsh words, and dislike of others should have no place in your lives.
Col. 3:8 (Living Bible) but now is the time to cast off and throw away all these rotten garments of anger, hatred, cursing, and dirty language.
GET A GOOD BIBLE, AND FIND A GOOD CHURCH:
One of the best Bibles out there is the New King James Version. Dake’s annotated Bible is very good. Next, you need a living bible to make some thing simple.
Hebrews 10:25 (Living Bible) Let us not neglect our church meetings, as some people do, but encourage and warn each other, especially now that the day of his coming back again is drawing near.
PROTECTING YOURSELF FROM BEING SPOILED BY MAN:
Col. 2:8 (KJV)Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ.
Hebrews 13:9 (KJV) Be not carried about with divers and strange doctrines. For it is a good thing that the heart be established with grace; not with meats, which have not profited them that have been occupied therein.
Seven Ways that People Can Spoil Christians:
1. Through philosophy (Col. 2:8)
2. Through vain deceit (Col. 2:4,8,18-19)
3. Through human traditions (Col. 2:8)
4. Through human religion and world principles contrary to the gospel (Col. 2:8,14-23; note, §Galatians 4:3)
5. Through circumcision (Col. 2:11-13; Acts 15:1; Romans 4:9-16; Galatians 5:1-11)
6. Through the law of Moses, demanding observance of the laws on meats, drinks, holy days, new moons, feasts, and sabbaths (Col. 2:14-17)
7. Through cults that puff up and imitate the gospel (Col. 2:18-23)
By all these means, unsuspecting souls are being carried off as plunder and booty by false teachers. The founders of false religions and human philosophies which pamper the flesh and give their victims elated feelings of importance make an appeal to them.
Christianity is loaded down with some false concept. Some little believe system, which are spread by false believers. One of such teaching is that you must “Look like Christians” How does Christians look? Genuine Christianity is not an external thing but of the heart and spirit.
Micah 6:8 (KJV)He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the Lord require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?
When cults capture a newly converted Christians, the cult first job on that new believer is to close their mind. Preventing the new believer from reading any material from other churches. So that new believer will never get out of their trap.
YOUR HORMONE DOES NOT STOP WORKING WITH CHRISTIANITY:
Philip. 3:20-21 (KJV)For our conversation is in heaven; from whence also we look for the Saviour, the Lord Jesus Christ: [21] Who shall change our vile body, that it may be fashioned like unto his glorious body, according to the working whereby he is able even to subdue all things unto himself.
Romans 8:23 (KJV) And not only they, but ourselves also, which have the firstfruits of the Spirit, even we ourselves groan within ourselves, waiting for the adoption, to wit, the redemption of our body.
Our bodies were not save at conversion. The work of redemption took place in your spirit man. Our body will be redeemed at the return of our lord. We are still waiting for the redemption of our body.
According to Philip 3:20-21 and Romans 8:23. You are still going to have urges. You have to present your body to the lord as a living sacrifice. Not dead one. Living sacrifice give trouble, you will have trouble keeping that body tied to the altar. However, as you and I grow in the lord what seem impossible will be quite possible.
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