THE REAL VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
Bearer's of the mind sword.
AUTHOR: Rev J.A.McBean Sr
Copyright C 1998
Library of Congress
Washington.D.C.20559
N ot because you are madly in love with somebody, that does not mean that you and that person will ever be able to get along. Getting along take learning and sacrifice. Getting along take maturity and honesty. Getting alone is hard work, getting along depend on how you lay out and start a relationship. Domestic violence comes about because people cannot get along. They stayed together because somewhere in their soul they want the relationship to work, but getting along always getting in the way. This is where domestic violence came in. Domestic violence always comes about because of jealousy and fighting for control of the other. Domestic violence is one of the number one causes of female death all over the world. I would also want to think that many unsolved death of men has women behind it. The one that give the black eye and the big lip is always blame to be the cause of the trouble but sometime is he just fall into a set up.
In the book. “ Continuing Education for Florida Nurses 2006”. By CME Resource. On Page 16.
“In 2001, Governor Jeb Bush signed into law the " Protection Act." The act requires a 5-day mandate term for any crime of domestic battery in which the perpetrator deliberately injured the victim. The law also makes a second battery crime a felony offense, treating offenders as serious criminals. Additional legislation into law in 2002, includes Senate Bills 716 and 1974. i Bill 716 protects domestic violence victims by inc dating relationships of six months in the definit; domestic violence laws. Senate Bill 1974 requires juc inform victims of their rights, including the right to a be notified, seek restitution and make a victim-i statement. Governor Bush has also created the Vi( Free Florida campaign to increase public awareness of domestic violence issues”[17].
EVERY PIECE OF WRITING ON THE SUBJECT STIGMATIZED MEN AS THE OFENDERS.
For example a woman turns up at the police station with a big lip and a blacked eyed. She is not going to be ask “ What happen between you both that triggers off this respond? She is going to be ask, how were you hurt? Has this happen before? When did it happen first? How badly has you been hurt before? Was a weapon involved? Is there a weapon in the house? What kind of weapon.?
LOOK AT THE STIGMA.
Has (he) beaten or hurt other people? Has (he) threatened to kill you? Has (he) tried to kill you? if, so what did (he )do?
What was never asked is the cause that triggers off this reaction. When you get to the bottom of the truth, the woman grind up glass bottle and put it in the man’s porridge to cut up his intestine and one of the children tip off the father and that is why he punches her in the face for trying to murder him with stealth.
When we probe further and tries to find out what has the man done to her in the first place. You learn that the woman friend told her that she saw her husband’s car parking up at a motel. Did she ask her friend what day it was? What time of day it was,? Did you wrote down the tag on the car? Did you saw my husband are you only saw a car looking like his car? And when her husband came home from work, did she ask her husband when he came home as to what she heard? No. In trying to protect the identity of her friend she falls back into a griping mood. This goes on for three weeks finally it escalates into violence. Her friends just use her to messed up her own lives. Women do not like to see when another woman gets lucky with a man. The real victim is the man. Counselors, police, and judges need to probe into the reasons behind every domestic violence before handing down a sentence. This is my reason for doing this article.
Sirach 42: 13 “For just as moths come from garments, so harm to women comes from women”
The New American Bible. Saint Joseph Edition. Catholic book publishing company.
Women played this trick on women all the time. I worked in a garment factory for five years, on migrating to the USA I worked in the nursing field for some fifteen years. I had been in the lunch room with women all the times. They think I am minding my business but I am only writing down what they are saying, it is free information for my books. You hear what they did to men, and what they told naive women to do to their husbands and get away with it.
WOMEN PLAY THIS TRICK ON WOMEN ALL THE TIME.
A Certain couple who had their own business, their own house and was doing quite well. A woman that did not like the couple success, call their house phone and leave a messages for the husband, but this message was leave deliberately for the wife to intercept it and vacate the marriage base on the messages.
The message was. “You Jamaican men really know how to beat up a woman @3##@” The wife intercept the massage and say “ If her husband can be doing it on the side so can she” However, the husband do not know these people nor having any dealing with them. The marriage split and the husband never learn why at the same time he being totally innocent.
HAVING A GAME PLAN.
In the wild naïve animals are the first ones to die. Silly people, who believe every thing, ask no question, gobbled down every thing that came to them as truth. People with such a mentality and mule brain can never make it in this world. You and your mate have to have a game plan as to how to deal with hearsays. Do not give in to feelings, get the facts before you act.
Once a woman feeling is upset, nothing will work well between she and the person she is upset with from that moment un word. She will never even be able to have a good conversation.
People will hear you and I tone of voice, and miss out on the message. When people feelings are upset it shows ups in their tone of voice, which only upset the other person feelings. To protect your relationship from being brought down by others with malicious intend. The couple must have a game plan. Hide nothing from each other. If you told your mate not to read your letters, they will hide and read it any way. That is why they fall into traps, because when the gold fish letter came intended for the wife to read it, when she read it she hides it. A certain woman wrote a love letter to one of my pastor the letter is intended for his wife to intercept it then get upset. However, being a well train person she gave the letter to her husband who read it then give it to her to read it. They read it, push it aside and never even spoke about it again. Because they were mature enough to see what Satan was trying to do to their marriage
Women done the same thing with letters, faking to know the man and are writing him love letters, hoping that the wife will intercept the letter and get upset. Now she is not going to tell her husband why she is being upset since she intercept his letter. Which was not really his letter, but was intend for her to get. “ This is call a gold fish” She swallowed a gold fish. Many of them that is how they lost their marriage and many a man that is how they lost their live, because the wife swallowed a gold fish.
Any time communication between you and a woman fall to the ground stop talking, when she stop talking. If she will not say what is bothering her leave the home. One domestic violence put you back in the job market.
Some men get rat poison to eat. His whole nervous system gets messed up. His sex life whent down hill. One woman told she take out $10000 out of his account. The men are the real victims. The children are the real victims. But since the judges, and counselors are in most case women, the real reasons for the domestic violence never probe into.
THE FIRST DANGER SIGN.
Genesis 37:4 (KJV) And when his brethren saw that their father loved him more than all his brethren, they hated him, and could not speak peaceably unto him.
Any time the people you live with cannot speak with you peaceable, it is because something is there eating them up. Something about you bothering them. The reason why they do not confront you with it is because they know it is their fault. A mate might not like you going to school, you job might not like you going to school. One of my friends asks me. Why are you learning so many things? But why not learn it if I think I need it? Any time people cannot talk with you peaceable, every conversation crash in one minutes, they pretend not to understand, are cannot understand you accent.
Amos 3:3 (KJV) Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
Two cannot walk except they agree, and agreement come through conversation, and if you cannot talk then it make no sense bothering with the person. If you cannot give me a good conversation I will never talk to you, unless I had to.
HOW TO PROTECT YOURSELF AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
Never tell your self that you own the woman. Once you can convince yourself that, you do not own the woman that you live with you got the edge. Her support group owns her. The state owns her. You do not. If she displayed a suspicious behaviors and you ask her about it and she behave like you has no right to ask her that. Then she has changed you marital status to a legal prostitute. Now, since you are her legal prostitute, you have two choices, move out on her are stay there and enjoy the woman when she feel like giving you some. But if you are her in house prostitutes you must remember to know your place, do not question her actions or tries to direct and correct her in any way Just play the fool, and enjoy that woman until somebody better came along, then you kick her to the curve. You cannot jump off the ship until you see another ship in sight which will pick you up. You might just drown yourself are be eaten by sharks. Just remember you cannot make your own woman out of board. Ha
HAVE A PLACE OF REFUAGE.
If you do not have one try work on it. Once the woman fall into a griping mood and will not say what is causing her to be like that. Leave temporally, go way and stay with friends for two weeks, but stay in touch. Do not return in there with her until she is ready to sit down and say what the problem are. Above all never eat from a griping woman. When she stops washing your clothing stop eating her food. Try not to get into an argument, if you too cannot sit down a brainstorm a problem without falling back into an argument start making plan to get out.
THINGS SMART MEN DO NOT DO.
Never make a woman think that you would do any thing and every thing to get some vagina. Never make a woman think that you are hard up. Tell her you desire her. Tell her you would die for her, but do not say it in a way that she thinks you are talking about her genital organs. Women thinks that their face, color, long hair, vagina and big backside can lead every man astray and you have to prove them wrong. You will need to act like they/she is not the only fish in the sea, because they/she is acting like you are not the only man out there either. Women outnumbered men. Remember that. So men have the advantage of landing a woman quicker than how a woman can land a man. Protect yourself against domestic violence. A domestic battery charge can put you out of most jobs market.
THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT WOMEN.
Women do not like smart men, men who knows what they are up to. You have to be so smart to make them think you are a fool.
Women are very manipulative. Women are believed by every body naturally and they know this. Women are very overconfidence. They manipulate the children into believing that the father is making trouble with them and is stressing them out. I sound like a woman hater do I? Well, I am not. I am a woman lover. But I have seen too many men lives goes down the gutter. Some of them do not even know what hit them. One man I know married to the woman that killed his darling wife; he lived with this woman for nearly some twenty years. Up on the woman’s death bed she confesses that it was she who kills his wife to get him. The man never had a clue. Not only that she had plans to put the killing on him had he refused to married her. A man wife knows his social security number, his bank book numbers and every thing about him. He has never seen her bank book or one of her cancel check. He has never seen one of his wife pay stubs. The reason for this is sometime the income saving ratio do not match up. She has $40000 in the account while her income is $20000. You see, in (some cases) she has several boy friends where the money is coming from. If it was an inheritance it would not have been so well guarded, or may be she are know her man to a theft who prey on women saving.
1 Peter 3:7 (KJV) Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
SOMETIME ONLY CHRIST CAN HELP US
Matthew 6:33-AV But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Isaiah 55:6-AV Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: Isaiah 55:7-AV Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
LOOK AT THE BENEFITS OF BECOMING A CHRISTIAN
How does a person become a Christian, and are sure that he/she is save? First the person must know that he/she is a sinner and need deliverance from the lord.
Romans 3:23 (KJV) for all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;
Galatians 3:22 (KJV) But the scripture hath concluded all under sin, that the promise by faith of Jesus Christ might be given to them that believe.
THE SINNER MUST BELIEVE THAT THERE IS A GOD.
Hebrews 11:6 NKJV But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.
THE SINNER MUST BELIEVE THAT GOD IS READY TO FORGIVE HIM.
Isaiah 55:7 (KJV)Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the Lord, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
THE SINNER MUST BELIEVE THAT CHRIST DIED FOR HIM.
Romans 5:6 (KJV) For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly.
Romans 5:8 (KJV)But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
1 Cor. 15:3-8 (KJV) For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; [4] And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures: [5] And that he was seen of Cephas, then of the twelve: [6] After that, he was seen of above five hundred brethren at once; of whom the greater part remain unto this present, but some are fallen asleep. [7] After that, he was seen of James; then of all the apostles. [8] And last of all he was seen of me also, as of one born out of due time.
MUST BELIEVE THAT GOD CAN KEEP HIM
Ephes. 3:20 (KJV) Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us,
Jude 1:24 (KJV) Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy,
PERFECTING THE SAINTS IS A WORK OF GOD.
1 Peter 5:10 (KJV) But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, establish, strengthen, settle you.
THE SINNER MUST KNOW THAT ONLY JESUS CAN SAVE THEM.
Acts 4:12 (KJV) Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.
THE SINNER MUST MAKE A DECISION TODAY.
Isaiah 1:18 (KJV) Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool.
2 Cor. 6:2 (KJV) (For he saith, I have heard thee in a time accepted, and in the day of salvation have I succoured thee: behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.)
BOW YOUR HEAD AND PRAY THIS PRAYER.
Lord I am a sinner and need your salvation. Forgive all my sins. I accept your son Jesus as my savior today.
We can sing with the song writer" I rise walk in heaven’s own light above the world and sin with heart made pure and garments white, and Christ en-throned with in. The cleansing stream I see I see I plunge, and O It cleans-eth me. O praise the Lord, it cleans-eth me, it cleans-eth me yes, cleans-eth me."
DROP ALL PRE-CONCEIVE IDEAS OF CHRISTIANITY.
Drop all preconceived ideas of Christianity because these conflict with the reality of Christianity. The lord will live the life through you day by day. You do not drop things from your life on your own. The spirit of God will walk you out of sins in his own time.
FIRST HUMBLING YOU.
Ephes. 2:8-9 (KJV)For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: [9] Not of works, lest any man should boast.
If you stop sins and get holy before God’s timing you will begin to boast how it is your own magnetism got you so far, then you became a source of discouragement to others. Therefore, you are going to stuck upon a sin or two. The sin always getting the better of you. This will push you to always accept God’s grace, and to see your own frailness.
1 John 1:8 (KJV) If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.
TO CONTINUE GROWING IN GOD.
1 Peter 2:2 (KJV) As newborn babes, desire the sincere milk of the word, that ye may grow thereby:
2 Peter 1:5-10 (NKJV) But also for this very reason, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue, to virtue knowledge, 6 to knowledge self-control, to self-control perseverance, to perseverance godliness, 7 to godliness brotherly kindness, and to brotherly kindness love. 8 For if these things are yours and abound, you will be neither barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. 9 For he who lacks these things is shortsighted, even to blindness, and has forgotten that he was cleansed from his old sins. 10 Therefore, brethren, be even more diligent to make your call and election sure, for if you do these things you will never stumble.
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FINDING OUT YOUR CALLING
When I was newly save, the believers always, ask me if I know the will of God for my life! I never really know what they were talking about. Every person that was saved had a mission and a gift. However, because you are just a babe in Christ you do not know any of these. As you go on with the lord his will for you will unfolds day bay day. Do not run off and make any big commitment. Your mate has to be tailor made for you by God. You are now a citizen of heaven. Heaven does not rule by democracy. You cannot serve God with democratic mind set.
WHAT YOU MUST DROP OFF.
Hebrews 12:1 (Living Bible) Since we have such a huge crowd of men of faith watching us from the grandstands, let us strip off anything that slows us down or holds us back, and especially those sins that wrap themselves so tightly around our feet and trip us up; and let us run with patience the particular race that God has set before us.
Ephes. 4:31 (Living Bible) Stop being mean, bad-tempered, and angry. Quarreling, harsh words, and dislike of others should have no place in your lives.
Col. 3:8 (Living Bible) but now is the time to cast off and throw away all these rotten garments of anger, hatred, cursing, and dirty language.
GET A GOOD BIBLE, FIND A GOOD CHURCH.
One of the best Bibles out there is the New King James Version. Dake’s annotated Bible is very good. Next, you need a living bible to make some thing simple.
Hebrews 10:25 (Living Bible) Let us not neglect our church meetings, as some people do, but encourage and warn each other, especially now that the day of his coming back again is drawing near.
PROTECTING YOURSELF FROM BEING SPOILED BY MAN.
Col. 2:8 (KJV)Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ.
Hebrews 13:9 (KJV) Be not carried about with divers and strange doctrines. For it is a good thing that the heart be established with grace; not with meats, which have not profited them that have been occupied therein.
Seven Ways that People Can Spoil Christians:
1. Through philosophy (Col. 2:8)
2. Through vain deceit (Col. 2:4,8,18-19)
3. Through human traditions (Col. 2:8)
4. Through human religion and world principles contrary to the gospel (Col. 2:8,14-23; note, §Galatians 4:3)
5. Through circumcision (Col. 2:11-13; Acts 15:1; Romans 4:9-16; Galatians 5:1-11)
6. Through the law of Moses, demanding observance of the laws on meats, drinks, holy days, new moons, feasts, and sabbaths (Col. 2:14-17)
7. Through cults that puff up and imitate the gospel (Col. 2:18-23)
By all these means, unsuspecting souls are being carried off as plunder and booty by false teachers. The founders of false religions and human philosophies which pamper the flesh and give their victims elated feelings of importance make an appeal to them.
Christianity is loaded down with some false concept. Some little believe system, which are spread by false believers. One of such teaching is that you must “Look like Christians” How does Christians look? Genuine Christianity is not an external thing but of the heart and spirit.
Micah 6:8 (KJV)He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the Lord require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?
When cults capture a newly converted Christians, the cult first job on that new believer is to close their mind. Preventing the new believer from reading any material from other churches. So that new believer will never get out of their trap.
YOUR HORMONE DOES NOT STOP WORKING WITH CHRISTIANITY.
Philip. 3:20-21 (KJV)For our conversation is in heaven; from whence also we look for the Saviour, the Lord Jesus Christ: [21] Who shall change our vile body, that it may be fashioned like unto his glorious body, according to the working whereby he is able even to subdue all things unto himself.
Romans 8:23 (KJV) And not only they, but ourselves also, which have the firstfruits of the Spirit, even we ourselves groan within ourselves, waiting for the adoption, to wit, the redemption of our body.
Our bodies were not save at conversion. The work of redemption took place in your spirit man. Our body will be redeemed at the return of our lord. We are still waiting for the redemption of our body.
According to Philip 3:20-21 and Romans 8:23. You are still going to have urges. You have to present your body to the lord as a living sacrifice. Not dead one. Living sacrifice give trouble, you will have trouble keeping that body tied to the altar. However, as you and I grow in the lord what seem impossible will be quite possible.
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Rev. James McBean. Sr Was born in Jamaica west Indies. Bachelor In Theology. Masters in Christians counseling.
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