“The train is about to leave”
Copyright C 1998 by J.A.Mcbean.
Library of Congress
Washington.D.C.20559
A man pursue a woman any where from three months to four years, just to get her. He has to work hard to get that first kiss, and even harder to get her in bed. Then after he accomplishes all that, he just get up and walk away? Then, people expect me to believe that all that was his fault alone?
Sometimes when you look at woman’s physical appearance, you have to wonder how a man could be in his right mind and walk away, leaving that woman behind! When a man chooses a woman to be his woman, in his mind, this is best woman there is. If he leaves her behind after moving in with her, something went wrong. He may share in the blame, but he is not completely at fault. This article is intended to give the women the tools to prevent the man from walking away.
The thing that women fail to realize is this: outward appearances will only bring the men but it has no power to keep the men. Physical appearances are only good for one-night-stands. Physical appearances are good for prostitutes who only use the men, collect her money, and keep going. If the prostitute is a smart person and wants to keep her clientele, she will have to develop some inner-qualities in addition to her physical attributes.
A woman will spent $400 US on her hairstyles, fingernails, and make up, still end up loosing the men. The truth is that men are impressed by all that glamour only on the first day.
A FOOLISH NOTION.
Women have this notion that the men must invite them out, the men must call them on the phone, and they must not call him nor invite him out. They must pretend they are not interested in him. Men sometimes see this attitude and think that the woman do not care about them and leave. Many women have an “in-demand” mentality; they are in demand but the men are not. However, the real truth is, women out-number men at a ratio of about seven to one in some places. That puts men in the “in-demand” status.
WOMEN PLAYED OTHER WOMEN FOR MONKEY:
One woman does not like to see when the other woman makes a large profit. In other words, women do not like to see when the other woman lands a good man. She will do every thing to take the man away from the monkey-brained woman. If she cannot entice the man away, she will poison the monkey-brained woman’s mind so she drives the man away.
WOMEN CONFIDE IN OTHER WOMEN WHO ARE ENVIOUS OF THEM.
One woman came over my house and befriended my wife, she told my wife to put me out of the home. Then she came and told me that she had a place to rent me in her home. Good trick, the problem is that my wife knew me from she was eighteen years old, and is not ready to give up a man that she has in the saddle for so long.
Sirach 42:13. “For just as moths come from garments, so harm to women comes from women.” The New American Bible. Page 812. Saint Joseph Edition.
You cannot just get up and do every thing that people tell you to do without considering why? Who is to benefit from all this?
Sirach 19:7 Tell nothing to a friend nor foe; if you have fault, reveal it not, for he who hears it will hold it against you, and in time became your enemy.
Sirach 37: 7 Every counselor points out a way, but some counsel ways of their own;
Sirach 37:8 Be on the alert when one proffers advice, find out first of all what he wants.
Sirach 37: 9 For he may be thinking of himself alone; why should the profit fall to him? The New American Bible. Saint Joseph Edition.
“AUTO-PART” THE RELATIONSHIP
What I mean by auto part the relationship is this: if you try to put a certain part on a car and if the part is not a match for that type of car it will not work. Likewise if you are trying to put the starter motor where the alternator is supposed to be it will never work. If you get a man that loves the woman on top during sex, and you the woman hate that kind of thing, the man is going to leave. If you the woman love to have your bread buttered, and whip cream, and the man hates that kind of things you are going to leave him as soon as another man turns up that is willing to do what he refuses. You just have to be realistic. There are no way you are going to keep a man if he is unsatisfied, or a man keep a woman who is unsatisfied.
They will hang around because of money or if the person is a church going person, they might stay because they are ashamed to divorce, but they will always have somebody on the side to give them what they are not getting at home.
MEN WANT WOMAN THAT THEY CAN DEPEND ON HER LOVING.
If he is at work and feels like he wants some loving, and comes home to her and if she is not sick, he does not want to be turned away. The same thing goes for women. Every body wants somebody who is available. Not all the cuteness in heaven or hell can take the place of availability. No matter how a good worker a person is, if they are not available, he or she will not have a job.
He or she may be a top class worker, but if the employer is never sure that that person is going to turn up for work, this person will still loose the job. Availability, sense-ability, sex ability. Sex ability is also important in a relationship. One man came over to one of our church and married off himself to the strongest woman in the church, and did not have any sex drive. I tried to counsel the twenty-eight year old black woman to stay with him. The woman shouted out, “I want my thing, sir! I asked him if it is ok for me to see other men since he cannot do the job and he say no.” She divorced him. The day in court, the man was asking the judge to prescribe counsel for them. Again, the women shouted out, “For what? That was what we did in the first place!”
MAKING TIME TO BE WITH HER HUSBAND.
Another reason why men leave is that the woman did not set time to be with him, this happens both ways. The couple must have a set time each week to go out, and time for lovemaking. If a man thinks that if when he comes home he is not going to get anything, he might take the offer that has presented itself. Contrary to popular belief that men love to womanize, men do not always do it. Womanizing is very expensive for most men. The man’s wife must get her Valentine’s Day gifts, and so must his girl friends. His mother needs to get her gifts, and so does his girlfriend’s mother. Then the man has to listen to a lot of complaining, and when these women find out about each other, he has a fight to deal with. And in most cases all those women still do not make one.
THE MAN FEEL LEFT OUT.
Most time a man feel left out, and since he is left out he just say out. When things going very good with a woman, her friend’s increases in numbers, and the family is growing and advancing, she tend to grab all the credit and push the man in the rear. Since he know that he is the wind behind her wings, like a little child that feel jealous, he back out and stay out.
DIFFERENT KINDS OF RELATIONSHIPS.
There are different kinds of relationships. The woman must decide on what kind of relationship she wants and what kind of relationship is available. She might want a marriage relationship from a man, but all he can give is a booty call kind of relationship. Getting certain kinds of relationships has an age factor, a money factor, and a looks factor. After passing a certain age, a marriage relationship might not be available without money, looks and sex ability. Try to find out what kind of relationship the man wants. If all a man wants is a booty call kind of relationship and if that is not what you the woman want, then leave him be.
WHAT THE BIBLE HAS TO SAY ABOUT FINDING THE RIGHT MAN.
Many people, as they hear the word “Bible” they run to the toilet, but it should not be like this. All this fear of the Bible is what is causing all these problems. The first sign that the Bible gives to us to know a good person is called sober-mindedness. Titus 2:6 Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded.
YOUNG MEN MUST BE SOBER-MINDED.
“Sober minded,” means one who understands the seriousness of life. “Sober-minded” is much more that putting on a condom. Any monkey can hall on a condom, but what happens when it comes off by accident? Does he have a trade or a job? One person came over to my house to see one of my daughters. I asked him what skill he has, he said he is a “A rapper.” The first thing that came to my mind was I wonder if he is talking about rapping cod fish in the supermarket! If a man does not have a trade, how is he going to take care of women and children? The FBI knows all the young drug dealers in the street, it is just a matter of time before thy pick them up.
BISHOPS MUST BE SOBERMINDED:
1 Tim. 3:2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;
WIVES MUST BE SOBERMINDED:
1 Tim. 3:11 Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things. Titus 1:8 (KJV) But a lover of hospitality, a lover of good men, sober, just, holy, temperate;
OLD MEN MUST BE SOBERMINDED.
Titus 2:2 (KJV) That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience.
THE OLD WOMEN MUST BE SOBER MINDED:
Titus 2:3-4 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; [4] That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
YOUNG WOMEN MUST BE SOBERMINDED.
Titus 2:4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, Titus 2:4 [young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children]
Eight commands to young women:
1.To be sober (note, §1 Tim. 2:9).
2.To love their husbands.
3.To love their children.
4.To be discreet. Greek, sophron (, of sound mind; prudent; moderate; self-controlled. Translated sober (Titus 2:8; 1 Tim. 3:2); temperate (Titus 2:2); discreet (Titus 2:5).
5.To be chaste. Greek, hagnos (. Here; 2 Cor. 7:11; 2 Cor. 11:2; Phil. 4:8; 1 Tim. 5:22; James 3:17; 1 Peter 3:2; 1 John 3:3.
6.To be homemakers. Greek, oikourgos (, caring for and working at home. Only here.
7.To be good. Greek, agathas , virtuous (Titus 2:5).
8.To be obedient to their husbands (Ephes. 5:22,33; Col. 3:18; 1 Peter 3:1-6). 1 Tim. 2:9 a[In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel] Women also should pray to God in like manner as the men (1 Tim. 2:8), being properly attired and modest in appearance. b[adorn] Greek: kosmeo ), to order, arrange, deck, adorn, or embellish. Translated "adorn" (1 Tim. 2:9; Luke 21:5; Titus 2:10; 1 Peter 3:5; Rev. 21:2); "to trim" (Matthew 25:7); and "garnish" (Matthew 12:44; Matthew 23:29; Luke 11:25; Rev. 21:19). c[modest] Greek: kosmios (, well ordered, moderate, regular, or well behaved. Translated "modest" (1 Tim. 2:9) and "of good behavior" (1 Tim. 3:2). d[apparel] Greek: katastole (, apparel, equipment, dress, or clothing. Only here. e[shamefacedness] Greek: aidos ), sense of honor; regard for others; respect; reverence; self-restraint, modesty or bashfulness toward men; not being bold or forward. Translated "reverence" in Hebrews 12:28. f[sobriety] Greek: sophrosune (, discretion; self-control; chastity; temperance. Translated "soberness" and "sobriety" (1 Tim. 2:9,15; Acts 26:25; cp. 2 Tim. 1:7; Titus 2:4,12).
ALL CHRISTIANS MUST BE SOBERMINDED.
1 Peter 5:8 (KJV) Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour: [Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded]
Four commands to young men:
1.To be sober minded. Greek, sophroneo ). sober in mind (Titus 2:6; Mark 5:15; Luke 8:35; 2 Cor. 5:13; Romans 12:3; 1 Peter 4:7). 2.To be a pattern of good works. Greek, tupos ), note, §Phil. 3:17. 3.To be uncorrupt, grave, and sincere in teaching (Titus 2:7). 4.To have sound speech that cannot be condemned. Greek, hugies (, sound (Titus 2:8) and whole (Matthew 12:13; Matthew 15:31; Mark 3:5; Mark 5:34; Luke 6:10; John 5:4-15; John 7:23; Acts 4:10). It means healing words-the gospel of healing, not only spiritual, but physical (Matthew 8:17; 1 Peter 2:24; James 5:14
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