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H ow people behaved is influence by past experiences. Success, failures, meanness and quarrelsome are all part of a chain of events in their lives. Cannot get along with the upper sex. Cannot hold down a relationship. Cannot learn in school. All these if you trace them back have a link to some unpleasant event that happens in the person's life.
While driving down the road. I saw a certain woman I know weeping. I stop and ask her why is she weeping? She said her daughter just broke the bad news to her awhile ago. That she was being raped by her aunt’s husband from she was twelve year old up to seventeen. In addition, he is now the father of her child. Her daughter could not tell her because her aunt’s husband threatened to kill the mother if she told on him. Therefore, to protect her mother from being hurt she had to bear the abuses from twelve years old to seventeen.
Dr. Diane Langberg. In the book “Caring for God’s people God’s way” “Surviving sexual abuses: “On the threshold of Hope”
“Usually 1 of six boys and 1 of 4 girls will become victims of sexual abuse. Offenses usually occur between the ages of 6 and 12” “Usually repeated offenses are stored in a way the victim is unable to remember later in life”. “Abuses children learned that relationships are not safe, they are for hurting others”
“Usually 1 of six boys and 1 of 4 girls will become victims of sexual abuse. Offenses usually occur between the ages of 6 and 12” “Usually repeated offenses are stored in a way the victim is unable to remember later in life”. “Abuses children learned that relationships are not safe, they are for hurting others”
Children are always abuses by people closes to them.
Sexually abuses by father, step father, uncle and mother’s boy friend. In addition, the abuses continue down to the cousin, teachers and sometime pastors.
WOMEN THAT SUFFER ABUSES IN CHILDHOOD.
Women that suffer abuses in childhood cannot have good relationship, they are ruin. These have a hate burry deep down in there spirit for men. These women are of the opinion that. If the men in whom they look up to for protection were taking advantage of them. What will you and I do to them who barely know them? All men have to be the same.
THE FAMILY MEMBER WHO HURT THEM.
Are the ones that responsible to get them council and treatment before letting them cross the brink of childhood into adulthood. Sexually abuses by a girl’s father or step father will cause the girl to be frigid in life. These turn their feeling off so as not to feel guilty when the act is over. This follows them right into marriage. And prevent them from ever having a orgasm.
Abuses women are easily to spot.
Once a man looks in a woman’s direction and she find it offensive. This is a sign of childhood abuses. Abused women associate (that look) with what was going on in the home, and infer that the person who is now admiring her is planning to do the same thing what was done to her in the home as a child. That is the reason why it is best to always let a woman come flirting; instead of you the man went over flirting.
RIDDLED WITH GUILTS.
Not all the abuses was outright rape. The law forbid men to have sexual relationship with under age women. Girls begin to have urges at very early ages. Since the average men either scared of the law or scared of the girl’s parents. The girls flirt with men in the family who gladly take advantage of them. By the time she came of age and knows that, that relation was forbidden by law and by God. She is now riddled with guilt. This guilt will be taken out on the man that she married to, or shacking up with. This is the man that must pay for all her childhood troubles.
SHE IS NOW SET UP FOR A NEW LINE OF ABUSES.
A new line of abuses is now going to start. Because, this man do not understand her. She has not reveals her childhood abuses to him. Because, sometime children do not remember. The brain has a way to hide these unpleasant events, by creating a new folder and tucked it away some place in the subconscious mind. However, these unpleasant happening is still influencing her behaviors, her thinking and perceptions.
One of my country women stop me and ask me for help. She had to go to work and she run out of money. We chat for a while as I was about to leave she made the comment that. “That all me are dogs” She made it clear that she was not referring to me who is always kind to her. However, I took it personally. The causal friendship between us has broken. At her age, she still cannot manage men.
MANAGING MEN.
Managing men is a natural ability of women. A smart woman can lead a man to love. She can invite him over, and work him, sent him away and bring him back in for love making if she so desire. She can bring on his urges triggers off his hormones, uses him, and take his money all at once. She can lead him into serious relationship as well as a booty call relationship. Managing men is a natural skill of women. In addition, when you see a woman keep complaining about what men does to women. Is a defiantly sign of the breakdown of he (infer structure) as a child that prevent her from adopting these skills.
WHAT SHOULD THESE PEOPLE DO.
You know that you were abused as a child; you should get healing before you start out in a relationship with any man. That relationship is domed from the start. That is a divorce waiting to happen. The man in your life is not responsible for those abuses. We cannot blame all our troubles on every person of the same sex that happen to come our way.
Sometime that man also was abused by step father and is very ashamed to say he was sodomizing as a child. One man wrote to the editor of a certain news paper and say. “I am my uncle’s sex slave”
COMING TO JESUS IS NOT ENOUGH.
The women must confront their abusers, if the abusers are still alive. The women must forgive, so their spirits can be free. The women must know that not because one apple from a tree has worm, that mean all the apply on the tree is full of worms. Not all men are the same. Coming to Jesus is good, but the women must present their case to him then follow his teaching as set out in the scriptures.
Matthew 11:28 (KJV) Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
Isaiah 61:1 (KJV) The Spirit of the Lord God is upon me; because the Lord hath anointed me to preach good tidings unto the meek; he hath sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to them that are bound;
Proverbs 18:14 (KJV) The spirit of a man will sustain his infirmity; but a wounded spirit who can bear?
Man's spirit will sustain him in his infirmities if it is not cast down and defeated by constant trials.
Proverbs 18:14 (KJV) The spirit of a man will sustain his infirmity; but a wounded spirit who can bear?
Man's spirit will sustain him in his infirmities if it is not cast down and defeated by constant trials.
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HOW DOES A PERSON BECOME A CHRISTIANS?
How does a person become a Christian, and are sure that he/she is save? First the person must know that he/she is a sinner and need deliverance from the lord.
Romans 3:23 (KJV) for all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;
Galatians 3:22 (KJV) But the scripture hath concluded all under sin, that the promise by faith of Jesus Christ might be given to them that believe.
THE SINNER MUST BELIEVE THAT THERE IS A GOD.
Hebrews 11:6 NKJV But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.
THE SINNER MUST BELIEVE THAT GOD IS READY TO FORGIVE HIM.
Isaiah 55:7 (KJV)Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the Lord, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
THE SINNER MUST BELIEVE THAT CHRIST DIED FOR HIM.
Romans 5:6 (KJV) For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly.
Romans 5:8 (KJV)But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
1 Cor. 15:3-8 (KJV) For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; [4] And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures: [5] And that he was seen of Cephas, then of the twelve: [6] After that, he was seen of above five hundred brethren at once; of whom the greater part remain unto this present, but some are fallen asleep. [7] After that, he was seen of James; then of all the apostles. [8] And last of all he was seen of me also, as of one born out of due time.
The sinner must believe that God can keep him save.
Ephes. 3:20 (KJV) Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us,
Jude 1:24 (KJV) Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy,
PERFECTING THE SAINTS IS A WORK OF GOD.
1 Peter 5:10 (KJV) But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, establish, strengthen, settle you.
THE SINNER MUST KNOW THAT ONLY JESUS CAN SAVE THEM.
Acts 4:12 (KJV) Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.
THE SINNER MUST MAKE A DECISION TODAY.
Isaiah 1:18 (KJV) Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool.
2 Cor. 6:2 (KJV) (For he saith, I have heard thee in a time accepted, and in the day of salvation have I succoured thee: behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.)
BOW YOUR HEAD AND PRAY THIS PRAYER.
Lord I am a sinner and need your salvation. Forgive all my sins. I accept your son Jesus as my savior today.
DROP ALL PRE-CONCEIVE IDEAS OF CHRISTIANITY.
Drop all preconceived ideas of Christianity because these conflict with the reality of Christianity. The lord will live the life through you day by day. You do not drop things from your life on your own. The spirit of God will walk you out of sins in his own time.
FIRST HUMBLING YOU.
Ephes. 2:8-9 (KJV)For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: [9] Not of works, lest any man should boast.
If you stop sins and get holy before God’s timing you will begin to boast how it is your own magnetism got you so far, then you became a source of discouragement to others. Therefore, you are going to stuck upon a sin or two. The sin always getting the better of you. This will push you to always accept God’s grace, and to see your own frailness.
1 John 1:8 (KJV) If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.
TO CONTINUE GROWING IN GOD.
1 Peter 2:2 (KJV) As newborn babes, desire the sincere milk of the word, that ye may grow thereby:
2 Peter 1:5-10 (NKJV) But also for this very reason, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue, to virtue knowledge, 6 to knowledge self-control, to self-control perseverance, to perseverance godliness, 7 to godliness brotherly kindness, and to brotherly kindness love. 8 For if these things are yours and abound, you will be neither barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. 9 For he who lacks these things is shortsighted, even to blindness, and has forgotten that he was cleansed from his old sins. 10 Therefore, brethren, be even more diligent to make your call and election sure, for if you do these things you will never stumble.
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FINDING OUT YOUR CALLING
When I was newly save, the believers always, ask me if I know the will of God for my life! I never really know what they were talking about. Every person that was saved had a mission and a gift. However, because you are just a babe in Christ you do not know any of these. As you go on with the lord his will for you will unfolds day bay day. Do not run off and make any big commitment. Your mate has to be tailor made for you by God. You are now a citizen of heaven. Heaven does not rule by democracy. You cannot serve God with democratic mind set.
WHAT YOU MUST DROP OFF.
Hebrews 12:1 (Living Bible) Since we have such a huge crowd of men of faith watching us from the grandstands, let us strip off anything that slows us down or holds us back, and especially those sins that wrap themselves so tightly around our feet and trip us up; and let us run with patience the particular race that God has set before us.
Ephes. 4:31 (Living Bible) Stop being mean, bad-tempered, and angry. Quarreling, harsh words, and dislike of others should have no place in your lives.
Col. 3:8 (Living Bible) but now is the time to cast off and throw away all these rotten garments of anger, hatred, cursing, and dirty language.
GET A GOOD BIBLE, FIND A GOOD CHURCH.
One of the best Bibles out there is the New King James Version. Dake’s annotated Bible is very good. Next, you need a living bible to make some thing simple.
Hebrews 10:25 (Living Bible) Let us not neglect our church meetings, as some people do, but encourage and warn each other, especially now that the day of his coming back again is drawing near.
DROP THE BAD HABITS.
Drop the smoking, even though we cannot prove it to be a sin. You are going to be sitting down beside other church going people; they do not want to be smelling the odor from smoking on you.
PROTECTING YOURSELF FROM BEING SPOILED BY MAN.
Col. 2:8 (KJV)Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ.
Hebrews 13:9 (KJV) Be not carried about with divers and strange doctrines. For it is a good thing that the heart be established with grace; not with meats, which have not profited them that have been occupied therein.
Seven Ways that People Can Spoil Christians:
1. Through philosophy (Col. 2:8)
2. Through vain deceit (Col. 2:4,8,18-19)
3. Through human traditions (Col. 2:8)
4. Through human religion and world principles contrary to the gospel (Col. 2:8,14-23; note, §Galatians 4:3)
5. Through circumcision (Col. 2:11-13; Acts 15:1; Romans 4:9-16; Galatians 5:1-11)
6. Through the law of Moses, demanding observance of the laws on meats, drinks, holy days, new moons, feasts, and sabbaths (Col. 2:14-17)
7. Through cults that puff up and imitate the gospel (Col. 2:18-23)
By all these means, unsuspecting souls are being carried off as plunder and booty by false teachers. The founders of false religions and human philosophies which pamper the flesh and give their victims elated feelings of importance make an appeal to them.
Christianity is loaded down with some false concept. Some little believe system, which are spread by false believers. One of such teaching is that you must “Look like Christians” How does Christians look? Genuine Christianity is not an external thing but of the heart and spirit.
Micah 6:8 (KJV)He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the Lord require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?
When cults capture a newly converted Christians, the cult first job on that new believer is to close their mind. Preventing the new believer from reading any material from other churches. So that new believer will never get out of their trap.
YOUR HORMONE DOES NOT STOP WORKING WITH CHRISTIANITY.
Philip. 3:20-21 (KJV)For our conversation is in heaven; from whence also we look for the Saviour, the Lord Jesus Christ: [21] Who shall change our vile body, that it may be fashioned like unto his glorious body, according to the working whereby he is able even to subdue all things unto himself.
Romans 8:23 (KJV) And not only they, but ourselves also, which have the firstfruits of the Spirit, even we ourselves groan within ourselves, waiting for the adoption, to wit, the redemption of our body.
Our bodies were not save at conversion. The work of redemption took place in your spirit man. Our body will be redeemed at the return of our lord. We are still waiting for the redemption of our body. According to Philip 3:20-21 and Romans 8:23. You are still going to have urges. You have to present your body to the lord as a living sacrifice. Not dead one. Living sacrifice give trouble, you will have trouble keeping that body tied to the altar. However, as you and I grow in the lord what seem impossible will be quite possible.
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The author of this article.
Rev. James McBean. Sr Was born in Jamaica west Indies. Bachelor In Theology. Masters in Christians counseling.
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