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There were several confrontations between he and her and myself over the next two months. She never really knew that there was anything but friendship between the two of us but she suspected. I know that we went about our relationship wrong but you will not believe what this woman did to him. On October 27, 1997, Gerald met Sandra and her lover, friend at a local pool hall. They played pool and drank until approximately 2:00am. After returning home, her friend wanted to go four wheeling. Gerald was tired and didn’t want to go. He wanted to go to sleep. He and Sandra had not gotten along through out the evening and he just wanted to go to bed. The friend left and Gerald laid down on the futon tin the living room. Sandra was upset that Gerald wouldn’t go four wheeling but she decided that instead of fighting, she would try to get them to have sex and “kiss and makeup”. She climbed onto him and strattled his stomach. They began to kiss and then she took off her shirt. At this point, she made the comment. “To bad my breasts are not as big as Andrea.” At this, Gerald told her to get off and leave him alone. She refused and continued to grope him and attempt to kiss him and made several advances towards him. Gerald wanted no part of it. He told her several times to get off of him and she refused. Then he pushed her off. She fell back onto the floor. They then began to argue. He attempted to leave the residence. She became violent and tried to keep him from leaving. She stood in the door way and he had to push past her to go. She threatened to call the police if he left. She said she would say he hit her. This was a trick she had played many times in the past when he left an argument. She has had him arrested at least three other times for “hitting her”, after she sobered up though, she always admitted to the police that she had lied and all charges had been dropped. Gerald then managed to leave and he decided that since he had the next two or three days off that he would go visit his parents in Kansas. On his way out of town, he received a call from an El Paso County Police Officer. The officer asked him to return home but Gerald knew that they would only arrest him. He also knew that Sandra would get his car again and so he called me and explained to me what had happened. I met him and we dropped off his car. We then called the police and told them that we would meet them at the Criminal Justice Center (the county jail). Gerald explained the he knew he was going to be arrested and that we would just go there. They insisted that we meet them so we met them at a 7-11 down the street from Sandra’s home. When we got there they immediately took him into custody. At that time they noticed Gerald had scratches on his neck. Gerald was asked where they came from and he explained that Sandra had scratched him while he was trying to get her off of him. They then sent officers over to arrest Sandra. I followed the police car to the station and called the bail bonds man on my cell phone. We placed the bond and began the long wait. Several hours later I asked what was going on. I was at the window and I heard Sandra screaming in the back room. She was saying something about me and how I had bailed him out. A few more hours passed and then an officer said that things had changed and that more charges had been added. I was confused and so was the bail bonds man. We were then told that the bond had been raised from $800.00 to $10,000.00. The original charge was 3rd degree assault domestic violence to 2nd degree assault and 1st degree attempted sexual assault. I was in shock. Sandra found out from the deputy that I was bailing him out and she suddenly said that Gerald tried to rape her and when she wouldn’t let him have sex, he tried to kill her by means strangulation. Gerald was interrogated and his clothes were taken and his fingernails were clipped to the quick and they took hair samples. Gerald was scared and confused. Finally a few hours later, after I had to strip in the car and have my sister bring him in my shirt and shorts to wear so he could leave, Gerald was released. Life went on. Gerald was not allowed to see his children because of the restraining order issued by the court. Sandra went to a hearing on November 11, 1997. She was granted the order. It became permanent. Gerald was devastated. He missed his children very much and even though he did love me, he still loved Sandra. He was hoping that the two of them could at least be friends. He knew he didn’t dare contact her but he still felt he needed to talk to her. She then went to a hearing on November 19, 1997 in this hearing, she, Sandra, admitted that she lied about everything and what her motivation was in lying. Sandra called our house after these hearings and asked Gerald to meet her. He was nervous but he agreed. Bobby, Geralds brother went with him. They met at a resterant and talked for a couple of hours. Sandra was very upset about all the trouble she had gotten Gerald into. She asked him what she could do. |
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