Hypnotic Submission definitely does not involve being 'made' to submit through hypnosis. Rather, it allows those who are already submissives, to submit more deeply than they can in a normal conscious waking state of mind.

Where there is power exchange, this is what separates D/s from abuse, and nothing, I mean NOTHING else. The first and foremost principle is: Consensuality! Consensuality! Consensuality!

Remember, to give consent, you MUST know in advance what you are getting into, exactly what and how much you want to happen. Be completely certain that you want it to happen. You are not safe deciding 'on the fly', especially where hypnosis is concerned! Deep regrets, physical harm, emotional harm, or even death may result from a lack of understanding and planning. Hypnosis (or 'subspace' ...all altered states are forms of hypnosis) can present special concerns. It can be much harder, or even impossible to SET boundaries in the state of Hypnosis. You need to carefully arrange them beforehand. Stick to your original  limits, until you the submissive are ready, and you decide to establish new ones, based on a relationship built on trust and understanding. Then just think about it for a day or two as well. Work to build your self-esteem. "Pushing limits" by a Dominant is dangerous. It is not for your Dominant to decide. It is your choice and your responsibility. Be strong!

If the Dom/me is great...they will wait!

Do you want a trance tonight, this week, this month? Do you first want to wait and check out this Dominant more thoroughly, before you give her control of my mind? Do you want that trance to be sexual in nature right now, soon, or would it be better to wait a while? Please know the answer to at LEAST these questions before playing around with an Hypnotic Dominant. I highly suggest you don't 'trance around', but find a Dominant who will work with you to build a trusting relationship first. Trust takes time to build. After all this IS a form of mind control.

WARNING: You can be hypnotized without your knowledge or consent. By way of demonstration, or to experiment in order to gain a truer understanding of the craft of Hypnotic Submission, I have been able to put subs in a deep hypnotic state  without their consent, and give them nonconsensual suggestions that they could not later recall. It can happen to you, no matter how long you have been involved in this fetish! You actually become a better subject (going deeper more easily and recalling less) the more you are hypnotized! I have been a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist for over a decade. I know the tool of hypnosis well. I know how to recognize when a subject is going under without my trying to put him there, and how to take advantage of the situation, if I wanted. If I can do it, other skilled hypnotists can do it too. Many believe nonconsensual hypnosis is impossible. They say that "all hypnosis is self hypnosis." I know for a fact this is untrue. So does anyone who has studied the history and techniques of brainwashing. Please, learn how to recognize the subtle signs of trancing. Know when you are going under. Know when someone is trying to put you there.

A word about nonconsensual trances. There are those who's fantasy it is to submit nonconsensually, to be 'taken'. This especially, but not always, applies to male subs. *grin* You can give prior consent and still have the feeling of being 'taken'. The nature of 'shock inductions' or sneaky flowing conversational inductions is such that you will still feel all the wonder of that kind of hypnotic control. Post-hypnotic suggestions to re-enter the hypnotic state can also put you under again in less than a second also creating the feeling of "being taken."  There are those who think nonconsensual hypnosis is 'cute', or not very powerful, or who disrespect what a great subject you might already be, or are becoming. They may really not know the depth of your hypnotic state or how deeply you are being influenced. They may just be inexperienced or misinformed hypnotists. 

Visual or verbal verification of your hypnotic state is the crucial determining factor, that can make this wonderful fetish safe or not! An hypnotic Dominant needs to understand right away how important it is to verifying the depth and state of mind of the subject! This is especially true when hypnosis occurs without the Dominant being able to view the submissive, by phone or online, as opposed to it's occurring in person. This can be as simple as asking you to answer 'yes Mistress' to each suggestion. You should also immediately be given the suggestion to come out of trance if your phone or network connection fails. You should also be given the suggestion that you automatically come out of the trance state without hesitation, and to reestablish connection as soon as possible with the Dom/me. This is to verify that you are indeed out of the trance state, and are all right. The hypnotic complications of Domination are more serious without the face to face component. Also in real-time Hypnotic D/s play with hot wax, highly constrictive bondage, suffocation modalities etc., you may have suppressed pain or other sensations because if the hypnotic state. Extreme caution must be exercised at all times.

Unfortunately there are also those who simply enjoy sadistic nonconsensual abuse. These people only masquerade as true Dominants. They are actually predators. A word to male hypnotic submissives. There are very many of you compared to the number of Hypnotic Dommes. Don't let that cloud your judgment about the danger of the wrong Domme. Be especially careful about commercial Dommes. They have ulterior motives, purposes (i.e. generating revenue) other than love, kink, & fun!. Never assume that someone isn't a predator because they are 'lifestyle' either! Truly, one of the most outrageous ones I am aware of was a 'lifestyle' Domme. She is  a true (nonconsensual) hypnotic predator that claims to be 'vanilla,' refusing to admit that guided meditation is hypnosis proper, even though she is a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and knows better!

Know the difference too between harmless fun kinky humiliation, and the kind that works against your self esteem! You need that self-esteem to keep boundaries strong, and to know when you are in trouble. Healthy self esteem keeps you away from consciously or unconsciously wishing to abuse yourself by allowing a predator (nonconsensual 'dominant') to be abusive, even in a kinky way. It might feel good, but the cost can be very high, especially where hypnosis is involved!

Lack of firm boundaries (this is your responsibility), misunderstandings between partners (both of you are responsible for this one), ANY form of nonconsensual kink IS abuse...when you let that happen, yes, you DO abuse yourself. If you find that you set firm boundaries, and cannot stick to them. Then, in my opinion, you are in BIG trouble> Please seek a kink friendly professional for help! Coming to grips with this problem now, may save your life, your happiness, or your sanity later. It could literally cost you your life one day, to continue to ignore the boundaries you set for  yourself.

A word about sex. Did you know that I can easily give a submission trance, or Dominate a sub, without any reference to anything sexual at all? I understand that the activity probably turns you on anyway, (that's as it should be), but that should not persuade you to change your mind about what you are willing to do that night. Take a day at least to consider any change in your limits (boundaries). A nonsexual starter session or sessions (hypnotic or otherwise) may provide you with a more complete filter, through which a predator (an nonconsensual 'dominant') may not pass. This might be a great thing to ask a new Dominant for, in the first trance or D/s play session. Female subs understand this more instinctively. But male subs, regardless of the ratio of male subs to HypnoDommes, are equally at risk.