While online marriages now number in the tens of thousands, the divorce rate is also at an all-time high. Additionally, not everyone, but many of the people who use a computer to socialize leave themselves open to deception since you normally cannot see the other person. Photos are decieving and can be old and outdated. Remember, you never know who you are talking to, and there is no "government or police" on the internet, there is no place to report them, so its your responsibility to protect yourself and your children. Aside from this caution, remember, the internet can be a great place to chat with friends and family, make new ones and if we remember a few basic do's and don'ts then there is no reason that we cannot find the man or woman of our dreams.
Now I know that if we take every precaution that has been advised then that leaves little or know room for romance but I'm sorry to say that in the world that we live in today we need to take all the precautions that we can. "Better safe than sorry" is what my mother would have said to me, but I say to my kids "Better read than dead."
Don't give anyone online your real e.mail address,
last name, phone number, address or place of work during your early correspondence.
Stop communicating with anyone who tries to pressure you into giving this
information. Check with your ISP server and make sure that your Online Profile
does not give out more personal information than you are comfortable
Use e.mail redirection services - Listed below are free e.mail providers and forwarding services. Use these services to keep your main e.mail address anonymous.
AtlinkCommunications
- free email forward service and link service.
Bigfoot- free e-mail forwarding and
a huge selection of premium services, likefiltering,
spam-blocking,and auto-responders.
Email4Life- free email forwarding and
free pop3.
Hotmail- free web-based e.mail.
MailZone- free internet e-mail service
NetAddress- lifetime e-mail address
and free e-mail
NetForward- totally free email
service. incorporates mail forwarding technologies.
RocketMail- free Web-based, globally
accessible email service
.
Do not, under any circumstance reaveal any personally identifieable information
in your online dating profile, in your personal ads, or in your private
e-mails to singles.
Such information includes your real name, specifcs about where you live or any other info that could be used maliciously.
Your best option might be opening an entirely new free email account, to use just for your communications with singles you meet online.
From The Suzy Lamplugh Trust
The National Charity for Personal Safety
For more information on The Suzy Lamplugh Trust visit their website.
Hopefully at this point you both fall into each others arms and wonder how on Earth you managed to live without this person and you both live happily ever after. Back in the real world we know that this is rarely the case and as statistics show the odds of 'living happily ever after' are stacked against us somewhat.
And don't let a fear of lonliness drive
you into staying in a relationship that you know isn't for you. The world
is full of fascinating individuals, be discerning. I have witnessed first
hand my sister coming home with blacked eyes and cut lips, knowing that
her boyfriend loved her really, and the beatings were all her fault. If
this sounds like you, get out NOW!
You may be at risk if the person
you are dating or have dated in the past:
Is jealous and possessive toward you, won't let you have friends, checks
up on you, or won't accept breaking up.
Tries to control you by giving orders and making decisions. Doesn't take
your opinion seriously.
You worry about your partner's reactions to things you might say or do.
Threatens you, uses or owns weapons.
Is violent: has a history of fighting or loses temper quickly.
Pressures you for sex, or is forceful or threatening. (In a male, may treat
females as sex objects.)
Gets too serious about the relationship too fast.
Abuses drugs or alcohol and pressures you to use them, too.
Blames you for the mistreatment you get. Says you provoked the abuse or
"asked for it."
Your family and friends have warned you about the person or told you they
were worried about your safety.
If you are in an abusive relationship
or trying to get out of an abusive situation, here are some tips you might
think about to increase your safety:
Stay in touch with your friends and stay involved in activities that you
enjoy.
Consider telling your neighbours, friends or family members about what is
happening. They can help you screen telephone calls or visitors.
Try not to be alone. Let your friends know what is happening and have spend
time with you.
Change your routine.
Always keep extra change with you so you can make phone calls.
Make a list of phone numbers, including 999, crisis lines, and supportive
friends whom you can call when you are upset.
Try not to be alone with your dating partner. Don't go by yourself to an
isolated or deserted location.
Before leaving home to go somewhere, let other people know what your plans
are and where you'll be and when.
Trust your instincts. If you feel you are in danger, get help immediately.
Break up with your partner in a public place. Let other people know that
you plan to break up with your partner and let them know where you'll be
and when
Everyone has rights in a relationship.
You have the right:
To trust yourself and your instincts;
To be respected as a person;
To change your mind;
To express your feelings;
To refuse a date;
To not be physically, emotionally, or sexually abused;
To break up with someone who makes you feel bad;
To just say "No!"
If you are a teenager experiencing abuse in a dating relationship, you should
know that, violence in relationships is not just an adult problem. Abuse
occurs in more than a quarter of teen relationships. Dating violence is
when physical, emotional, and/or sexual force is used by one person to control
or dominate the other. If you or someone you know is a victim of dating
violence it is important to talk about it with someone, preferably an adult,
to get help. If the first person you tell doesn't help you, talk to someone
else.
If you are being abused by someone you are dating or have dated in the past, remember, you are not alone and it is not your fault. You may feel confused and scared about what is going on. But, you need to deal with it, because the abuse will likely get worse over time. It does not go away just because your partner or former partner says they will stop the abuse.
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