calmer

A little calmer, but still Dangrus...

This is addressed to the Free. To those who think they are somehow "helping" a slave when they come crying, "Look what that mean, horrible man did to me!" To those who offer a slave "protection." To those who take the word of one whining slave and accuse a free person of abuse. To those who encourage a slave to change her name and hide to "escape" that horrible monster in some misguided attempt to "save" the poor delicate flower from mistreatment. To those who allow their slaves to misbehave and then follow meekly behind them, apologizing for their behavior. To those who accept half-assed, sloppy serves without a correction and take offense when anyone else corrects.

I know you think you are being kind. I believe that you are good people who truly believe you are helping. However, you are NOT.

When you listen to a slave cry about abuse and then go storming off to defend her, you are allowing that slave to manipulate you. How many of us watched as a slave accused one after another free person of attacking her or otherwise "abusing" her.Her owner, (who seemed to have his brains rattling around in his "little master") put one after another free person on Ignore while he stood firmly behind (and to the left) of his "precious beloved Domme/subbie/slave." Only after he had 3/4 of the free men in Gor on his ignore list did it occur to him that he had been made a fool of. This is a computer, folks. And no matter how much someone tells you they have been raped, abused or otherwise "forced" to do something, that's just plain crap. This is ADULT chat and each person here is responsible for their own safety. Every one of us has that little "x" up in the corner of our screen. I don't care how "deeply submissive" you claim to be, this is consensual slavery here and you are an adult. If you are not grown up enough to deal with this, then you do not belong here.

To those who stand up and proclaim loudly, "this (uncollared) slave is under My protection! Hurt her and feel My wrath!"... Go back to the subbie room and play hero. This is Gor. The ONLY protection a slave has here is knowledge. Knowledge of Gor. Knowledge of what slavery entails. Knowledge of what to do in a given situation to protect herself or to avoid those situations entirely. Knowledge of how to be pleasing. And as a last resort, knowledge of how to beg for mercy.

It is not an easy task to train a slave. But lately, it has become easier for the free to protect a slave after she's screwed up rather than putting the actual effort into training her so that it would not happen to begin with. Does your slave know what to do if a free person commands her to do something you do not wish her to do? Does she know what to do if she is commanded to do something she is uncomfortable doing? Have you discussed every possible "what if" with her? Does she know how to greet properly and behave when in the presence of the free BEFORE she sets foot in a Gorean room?

If you do not have the time and energy to spend with the slave training her in private (yes, that is where much of the training takes place, it's not just for one-handed typing), then do NOT collar her. Do not ask another to train your slave for you. I can't count how many times I have watched an owner release a displeasing slave, simply because he was too LAZY to train her properly. Remember, when she is out there, with your steel around her neck, she is representing you. When she is insolent or lazy, she is not only saying, "I am a displeasing slave," she is telling everyone who witnesses her behavior, "My owner is too lazy to train me properly." Many seem to have the misguided notion that once they collar a slave she will magically transform into the perfect picture of submission without an ounce of effort on the part of the owner.

WRONG!!!

Slaves are TRAINED how to behave. They do not become slaves by osmosis. It is up to YOU, the owner to draw it out of them. To stoke that fire that burns within them. People live up to the standards set for them. If you expect perfection from your slave, and let her know that you will accept nothing less, she will strive to meet those expectations. If you tell her how wonderful and beautiful her mediocre serves are, she will stop trying to improve. Take a look around you. Take a close look at the slaves you enjoy watching. The ones who are pleasing. The ones who do not whine or complain. The ones who treat every person they meet with respect. Then take a long hard look at the men who own them. I guarantee you will not find a man who spends his time cuddling her and calling her "precious." You will find strong, stern men who demand nothing less than 100% from their property. And that is exactly what they get.

To those of you who encourage a "mistreated" slave to change her name and hide from her owner. You are giving them an easy out. You are setting a dangerous precedent. You are not teaching her to protect herself, you are teaching her "selective slavery." That she need only be pleasing as long as it feels good. And each time it gets a little uncomfortable for her, it will be that much easier to cut and run.

I know your intentions are good. But you are doing these girls a disservice in allowing them to think that slavery is easy. It is not. It is more work than any can imagine. For both owner and slave. But the rewards are more than worth the effort. There are no shortcuts. There are no free rides.

There is NO easy way... if there were... it wouldn't be Gor.

I wish you well,

Dangrus