On Inner Parenting

The following is a post made by us on Mosaic Minds on the subject of inner parenting:

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Posted by MD on October 02, 2000 at 22:32:11:
In Reply to: do your littles view T as a parent? posted [...] on October 02, 2000 at 20:56:38:

We have very definite ideas about how our kids are allowed to relate to outside people, and vice versa. Our reason for setting these boundaries is (1) for us, the bigs, to take responsibility for nurturing the kids ourselves, and (2) to prevent unhealthy relationships with outsiders.

While everyone inside acknowledges the FOO as "the outside f*m*ly" (or whatever relative therein), we, the bigs of MD, are our kids' "parents." It is not the responsibility of outsiders to nurture our kids, or to nurture us older folks, for that matter. And we believe that a healthy relationship with an outside person must be on equal footing, so we do not permit anyone outside to be substitute parents to our kids. We're very adamant about this.

Good topic,

MD

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Posted by MD on October 02, 2000 at 22:58:55:
In Reply to: Yes, that's really good posted [....] October 02, 2000 at 22:40:57:

....in getting to that point.

For us, we present it as a non-negotiable safety rule, and the kids know that this means it's not up for debate. They know that we do certain things to protect them and keep them safe, and this is one of those things.

'Sides, inside parenthood has its rewards, just as outside parenthood does. :-)

MD

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