They Don't Put Oil In Their Rice


The sun was shining in its wintry-warm fashion.
It was just the day for a trip to Magalim,
Magalim that lies between Netivot and Kibbutz Saad.
A place like any other place in the Negev?
Perhaps
But not to me.
Shiri is there!
Just eighteen.
Serving her country.
It sounds big
It sounds important.
And it is.
Perhaps bigger and more important than her
Bechinot Bagrut
For her, the dreary end
Of a long series of dreary years
Her narrow world made up of
Walking the same streets daily
Meeting the same people daily,
The same challenges
The same pattern of life
Changes so gradual
That by her hardly noticed at all.

A new chapter had begun
With what words to start it?
How shall she dress?
Pleated skirt would be too childish.
High heels would be too silly, false.
How should she address her class?
What should her first words be?
Simply "Shalom" seemed not enough,
A speech of welcome too formal.
What about discipline?
Subject matter that's she's not too sure of?
Who are the people she will be working with?
Will they help her?
Will they like her?
Will she like them?
And I had a few questions of my own.
Eighteen and on her own
What if she falls in love with the "wrong boy"?

We pounced on her that first Shabbat that she camehome.
"How was it?" we asked
Meaning a million things
Feeling we were too uxorious parents
Too citified
Too secure
Too doting
Too protective.
"That's hardly a description,"
We answered, nettled.
How does your day go?
How did you start?
"I get up in the morning
Like I do at home
I get dressed, daven, eat breakfast
Like I do at home."
Patiently and slowly, too slowly
Surely she knew that wasn't what we wanted to hear.

"What's your room like?"
"Where do you sleep?
"A room like any room
On a bed like any bed.
She was exasperating.
"Is your roommate nice?
"Alright -- she doesn't snore."
"And the children in your classes?"
"What can I know in one week?
They're children like any children."
"Any discipline problems?
"I haven't sent anyone to the principal yet."
"What kind of a person is he?"
"So far, I've hardly seen him."
"Strange, doesn't he want to see how you're doing?"
She shrugged.
It was no use.
But why?
Why so unresponsive?
Why so uncommunicative?-- almost to the point of rudeness --
Not like her
Not like her at all
Not like her a week ago,
Fire and fury for the idea
Eager and anxious for the experience
Nervous a bit by the prospect
Thrilled at the idea of earning some money
Excited and uncertain about the whole adventure.
Why now - so unsharing?

That Sunday morning
After I had said, "Goodbye" to her
A stranger in one week.
I washed the dishes
I made the beds
My mind was off with her
Not that she was in any danger
Like being at the battle front
Not that I suspected any imminent harm
But why were we so out of step?
Still
In a way
What could she tell me?
The walls are yellow
The floors are stone
The room is three by four
A room like any room
A bed like any bed.

I would go to Magalim.
Magalim is tucked away
In the bright sunlight
Of the Northern Negev,
The school center of four Yishuvim around
People from Tunis, Morocco, Algeria
Send their children here,
The raw material of the nation of Israel.

"Teacher Shiri's mother is here!"
The news spread like wildfire!
The children looked at me
From distant points of curiosity
"Are you really teacher Shiri's mother?"
One finally dared to ask.
"Yes." I answered,
"I am Shiri's mother,
Even teachers sometimes have mothers"
I added indulgently.
The child paused, puzzled
Teacher Shiri's other world
Had never occurred to her.
And then she ran off
To tell the others.
"She is so teacher Shiri's mother
She told me so, herself,"
Shiri here is an important personality
Shiri here has position
Shiri here is not just somebody's little girl.

It was Shiri's roommate
Who first paid me any adult attention.
"You must be Shiri's mother."
She took me under her wing
And I went gladly.
"Come into my classroom." she invited
"I am the domestic science teacher
We've just finished making rice."
"It looks nice. How does it taste?"
"Taste mine!"
"Taste mine!"
"Taste mine!"
From all corners of the room,
"How did you make it?"
I asked the girls
Stalling a bit
Aghast at the idea of tasting
Fifteen different plates of rice
And so early in the day.
They told me in great detail.
"Is that the way you make it at home?" I asked.
"No," they said,
"We don't put any oil in it!
"It's perfectly good
With no oil in it.
Why do I need to add oil
To perfectly good rice without it?"
Why? indeed?

I guess that Shiri was right
She lives in a room
Like any other room
She davens, eats breakfast, goes to school.
How could she explain to me
That they don't put oil in their rice?
Her days like any other days
The children like any other children.

The soul of Magalim is in the living Magalim.

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