Handling a Woman's Bad Behavior

Women need to be disciplined for their bad behavior right away, otherwise their bad behavior quickly becomes a matter of habit.

If you verbally point out the flaws or bad behavior in your woman, it will most likely cause a polarity response from her. She will feel attacked and alone and disagree with whatever you’re saying. She may even come to feel self-righteous about her bad behavior against you.

Do not grow angry, lose your temper, or attempt to punish her. Then you are BOTH out of control. That will only make matters worse.

When she behaves in a way that you don’t like, withdraw your attention from her. Emotionally freeze her out. Look away. Move away. Do not smile. Do not touch or hug her. Create space.

For example, if she’s talking again about that new car she wants that you already told her was too expensive, emotionally freeze her out.

The emotional freeze out doesn’t have to last long. It can be subtle.

But it should be enough for her to feel your emotional withdrawal, enough so that she feels she acted wrongly. She should feel that sinking feeling when she’s lost your approval and you’re disappointed in her.

This way, she’ll eventually learn to eliminate and weed out her bad behaviors from her good ones.

And because you’re not directly confronting her verbally, you’re not engaging her rational mind that would otherwise try to fight with you.

You may feel guilty freezing her out, but remember your job is not to make her “happy” by indulging her every whim. Show her that you're not about to get bent out of shape to make her happy when she’s being bad and she'll soon realize that her manipulations won't work on you.

If she does something really atrocious, like make a joke about your sexual performance to her friends in front of you, do a more extreme freeze out. Turn your back on her and walk away. If you do, she’ll come to the realization that what she did was wrong and insulting. If you don’t, she knows that she has you pussy-whipped and will hate you for it.

After the freeze out, tickle her and wrestle her and be playful. Don’t dwell on what happened. Contrast the emotional freeze out with fun and emotional openness.

By acting early and often, and constantly rewarding her good behaviors and emotionally freezing out her bad behaviors, she’ll quickly become dependent on earning your approval and avoiding your disapproval.

[edited] Make her Feel Sexy

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Make your woman feel like the sexiest woman in the world, not a “buddy”. [edited out]

Treat her like you would a forbidden mistress.

Throw her down on the bed and [edited] love her to pieces.

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[edited] Find out her dreams and speak it back to her.

Let her be a “bad” girl.

Expand the limits and reaches of her [edited] dreams.

[edited] Act out your dreams. If your dream is whatever, than make it happen.

Always keep seducing her.

And never plead or ask for sex. [edited out]

Get a Life and Have a Purpose

If you spend your days watching wrestling on television, reading sports magazines, gambling, or playing videogames, your woman will see the pointlessness of your life. If you always complain and procrastinate and live in the past, your woman will see the emptiness of your existence.

If you lack a direction or purpose, your woman will begin directing your life for you, nag you, and hassle you. She will attempt to give you direction since you lack it.

You are responsible for casting aside your own laziness, addictions, and vagueness. You are responsive for finding a purpose, a vision, and a direction.

Don’t live in a safe, comforting fantasy. Live in the fullness of the real world and live your life as an adventure.

Have Social Value

Your woman has to know that you can have any woman you want. Your woman has to know that you could walk away from her and find another woman – perhaps even a better woman than she.

In other words, you need to have social value in her eyes.

This doesn’t mean you have to be able to pick up chicks with just a smile. And it doesn’t mean that you attempt to openly seduce other women right in front of her.

It does mean however that you are able to talk with anyone in a social situation and get rapport quickly with them. It does mean that you know how to have fun with or without her. It does mean that you can be playful and talkative and not always serious.

If she knows that you are desirable to other women, if she knows that you have other options, if she knows that although you desire her, you don’t need her, she will work hard with good behavior to keep you happy.

Handling her Bad Moods

If your woman is moody about something, don’t coldly analyze her like a therapist.

Don’t just sit there listening, tolerating it, and wondering why she has to be this way.

Don’t get upset or flustered. Don’t let her emotional state lead yours.

Instead, be playful with her. Twirl her around. Dance with her. Lift her into the air and toss her on the bed. Whack her with a pillow. Look deeply into her eyes and smile. Light some candles. Slap her butt. Connect with her physically and playfully. Laugh. Roll her. Tickle her.

Break her out of her moody state.

Once she’s had a “state break” where you’ve knocked some playfulness and fun into her, then her bad mood may evaporate all on its own. When she feels connection and trust with you, she’ll relax.

Or she may now open up to you and talk rationally about her problem with some emotional distance. In that case, just let her talk without feeling you have to solve it right then and there. Sometimes when a woman talks things out, she gets an emotional release and her moodiness will go away on its own.

If you are at fault and you accidentally hurt her feelings, then apologize and take full responsibility for your blunder. Suggest to her how it will never happen again. Apologizing for a mistake you made is not being pussy-whipped; it’s taking responsibility for your actions.

She Will Always Test You

When you first set the rules of the relationship, your woman may test you mercilessly.

She’ll test if your words are more than just empty stands, but that you mean them with action and discipline.

She’ll test if she can get away with her bad behavior if she pleas and pouts.

She’ll test if you’re a strong man who won’t just kiss her ass or always look for her permission.

She is challenging you because she wants to feel your strength and manhood and stability.

Don’t react with anger or frustration at her testing. Instead, stand firm and continue to reward her good behavior while emotionally ignoring her when she behaves badly.

And don’t cave in to her tests. If you do, you flunk. She will lose respect for you.

But if you remain strong, your woman will realize that your happiness is not dependent on her response. She will know that you are strong and stand up for what you believe in. She will know that you are the dominant MAN in the relationship.

With time, she will test you less and less.

But she will always test you once in a while.

Just use her tests as golden opportunities to set the tone and frame of the relationship.

It’s YOUR Responsibility to make it Happen!

My friend married a beautiful ex-model who is sweet, beautiful, helps around the house, is down to earth, non-materialistic, affectionate, keeps in shape, eats right, happy, and an emotionally stable woman – to many men’s consideration, the perfect wife.

However, she didn’t always used to be that way. Being so beautiful, her previous boyfriends spoiled and warped her, taking some of her humanity away from her.

Remember, YOU have to set the frame.

YOU have to set the rules for good behavior.

YOU need to be the man to bring out the best in your woman.

Deep inside, she really wants you to be that way.

Assume responsibility for the relationships in your life. Take responsibility for your woman’s transformation. When it comes to your relationships with women, everything that happens to you is your own doing.

And expect the best from your woman. Have respect for yourself and expect to be treated with respect.

Otherwise, you’ll just be another pussy-whipped pushover that lets women walk all over him for his money and attention.

Don’t be one of the millions of poor guys stuck in a bad relationship, trapped in a relationship with a woman that they don’t really want.

Don’t be one of the millions of poor guys who have a woman who doesn’t respect him and just uses him.

Use the knowledge in the last few reports in conjunction with Legendary Lover and The Art of Sexy Talk to learn how to make love to your woman and ravish her.

Use Nonverbal Sexual Cuing and Situation Opener Technology to learn how to build your social value in front of your woman’s eyes so that she values you more.

And most of all, take back your relationships.

Regards,

Derek Vitalio

http://www.seductionscience.com