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learned - I've learned - that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them. I've learned - that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back. I've learned - that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it. I've learned - that it's not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts. I've learned - that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you'd better know something. I've learned - that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do but to the best you can do. I've learned - that it's not what happens to people that's important. It's what they do about it. I've learned - that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life. I've learned - that no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides. I've learned - that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be. I've learned - that it's a lot easier to react than it is to think. I've learned - that you should always leave loved ones withloving words. It may be the last time you see them. I've learned - that you can keep going long after you think you can't. I've learned - that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel. I've learned - that either you control your attitude or it controls you. I've learned - that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place. I've learned - that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences. I've learned - that learning to forgive takes practice. I've learned - that there are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it. I've learned - that money is a lousy way of keeping score. I've learned - that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time. I've learned - that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up. I've learned - that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel. I've learned - that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love. I've learned that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. I've learned - that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated. I've learned _ that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it. I've learned - that your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological. I've learned - that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that. I've learned - that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself. I've learned - that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief. I've learned - that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become. I've learned - that sometimes when my friends fight, I'm forced to choose sides even when I don't want to. I've learned - that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do. I've learned - that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions. I've learned - that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change. I've learned - that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever. I've learned - that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different. I've learned - that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process. I've learned - that there are many ways of falling and staying in love. I've learned - that no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves get farther in life. I've learned - that no matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most. I've learned - that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you. I've learned - that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help. I've learned - that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains. I've learned - that the paradigm we live in is not all that is offered to us. I've learned - that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being. I've learned - that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon. I've learned - that although the word "love" can have many different meanings, it loses value when overly used. I've learned - that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you believe. copyrights to: Kathy Kane Hansen |
我學會 我學會了， 不能強迫別人愛你； 可以做的，只是讓自己變得可愛； 其餘的，便由他人去罷。 我學會了， 無論我是多麼的關懷別人， 有些人是永遠不懂得回報。 我學會了， 用了多年時間所建立的信任， 可於在數秒間完全摧毀。 我學會了， 生命中擁有甚麼物，不足為傲， 生命中擁有甚麼人，才是彌足珍貴。 我學會了， 能以外表擢取，只是短暫的時間， 在這以後，所憑藉的只是實力。 我學會了， 不應該把自己與別人的最佳績比較， 應該與自己能做到的最佳績比較。 我學會了， 在別人身上， 發生了甚麼事情不是重要， 重要是，他們做了甚麼令事情發生。 我學會了， 一瞬間倉促而做的事， 可能會令你終生苦惱。 我學會了， 無論你把它切得如何的纖薄， 它總是有兩面的。 我學會了， 這是需要用一段很長的時間， 去成就自己成為自己理想的人。 我學會了， 反應往往比思考更容易。 我學會了， 應該把愛的說話告訴你所愛的人， 因為這可能是你們一生中 最後的共處。 我學會了， 每每你還能堅持一段很多的時間， 即使你想你已經不能夠繼續了。 我學會了， 我們一定要為自已所做的負責， 無論自己個人的感受如何。 我學會了， 若你不能控制你的情緒及行為， 它就會反過來控制了你。 我學會了， 一段關係， 無論開始時是如何的熾熱， 激情過後， 總會有別的可以替代。 我學會了， 「英雄」就是那些人， 在必需要的時候， 做需要做的事情， 而不計較其後果。 我學會了， 寬恕是需要實踐的。 我學會了， 有些人是深深的愛著你， 只是不懂得如何表達。 我學會了， 財富是最壞的方法，去衡量你的成就。 我學會了， 與好朋友相處時，即使做任何事情， 都會是最好的時光。 我學會了， 有些人，你認為他會對你落井下石， 但往往會在你需要時幫你一把。 我學會了， 在憤怒時，我們有權利去憤怒， 可是我們沒有權利去殘忍。 我學會了， 真正的友誼，即使遠離，仍會維繫， 這如同真愛。 我學會了， 有些人， 只是不用你期待的形式去愛你， 但並不表示他們不愛你。 我學會了， 成長，是在於你走過的經歷， 及所學到的經驗， 而不在於你慶祝了幾個生辰。 我學會了， 莫說小孩的夢不可思議， 有些現實的事， 往往比之更是可悲可恥。 我學會了， 家人可能不會常常與你一起， 但往往一些跟你沒有血緣的人， 卻對你關懷愛護， 讓你學會信任別人。 「親人」不一定有血緣。 我學會了， 不論如何要好的朋友， 即使偶然傷害到你， 亦應該予以原諒。 我學會了， 不單只需要原諒他人， 還需要學會原諒自己。 我學會了， 無論你如何心碎， 世界仍不會因此而停頓。 我學會了， 背景及環境可能對我們有所影響， 但我們仍要為自己所作所為負責任。 我學會了， 當有朋友不和時， 我們會被逼去選擇一方， 即是不願意去選。 我學會了， 兩個人吵架， 不代表他們不愛對方， 而兩個人不吵架， 不代表他們彼此愛著。 我學會了， 有時，我們需要先觀其人， 後觀其行。 我學會了， 有時，我們不需要轉換朋友， 若我們明白到朋友的改變。 我學會了， 不應該太熱心於尋找秘密， 因為它可能會影響你的一生。 我學會了， 兩個人同時在看一件事時， 可能有完全不同的看法。 我學會了， 即使你如何保護你的小孩， 他們也有被傷害的時侯， 而你亦有可能在過程中受到傷害。 我學會了， 在很多方法，可以溶入愛情。 我學會了， 無論結果如何，對自己忠誠的人， 生活總是會較長遠。 我學會了， 無論你有多少朋友， 若你是朋友間的支柱， 每當你最需要他們時， 你總是會感到孤單及迷失。 我學會了， 你的一生可能在一小時間， 被毫不相干的人改變了。 我學會了， 即是你感到已沒有能力可以付出， 但當一個朋友向你哭訴時， 你總會生出能量去幫助他。 我學會了， 書寫及傾談，可以洗擦情緒上的痛。 我學會了， 現時所寄居之處的一切， 並非全是我們的。 我學會了， 一紙學歷， 並不可以代表你是一個得體的人類。 我學會了， 你一生中最關懷的人， 可能就是你對他付出最多的人。 我學會了， 「愛」字可能有很多不同的意義， 但它可能會失去價值，若被濫用。 我學會了， 在「做好人」， 「不傷害別人的感受」， 和 「為自己的信念而勇敢面對」間， 很難去劃定一條線。 - 主內的小寶 誠譯 - |
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