How
to Keep Going Even When the Going Gets Tough
by Lea Brandenburg
Every now and then we may find ourselves
faced with a challenge - finishing a creative project, growing
a business, moving through a job or life transition, evolving
to the next level in a career. Each of us, at some point find
can ourselves stuck and wondering when we will get through
to the other side of a challenge. Here are a few ways for
you to keep going even when the going gets tough!
Have fun. Yes, this is a simple, yet
powerful, suggestion. When was the last time you had fun?
When was the last time you had a good solid laugh? Oftentimes,
when we are working on a project that is really important
to us and that has a deadline, we somehow misplace our sense
of humor. Things take on a serious tone because we are so
focused on moving forward. Take a moment to have fun and to
laugh. You may find that keeping things light will help you
reconnect to the big picture and you'll find yourself moving
forward on your journey.
Connect with your community. Tap into
other like-minded and positive people and be ready for a shift
in perspective. Make calls, write to an old friend, create
an advisory board or an R&D team for yourself and project.
There is no reason to do everything alone all the time. If
you are feeling drained, now might be a good time to connect
with your community and people that care about you.
Indulge yourself. Try being extra kind
to yourself those times you are stuck. Try giving yourself
a reward or bribe! Take yourself to a movie in the middle
of the day. Call in sick to work for the day so you can pamper
yourself and recharge your batteries. Schedule a massage.
Sometimes a change in environment or a different activity
is just the thing you need to jumpstart yourself.
Start a victory log. Anytime you receive
praise, put it somewhere or in a book you create specifically
for this purpose. Everyone needs a little "pick me up"
every now and then and reading about your accomplishments
and how people have praised you and your work is guaranteed
to make you feel better.
Make an accomplishment list for yourself.
You have accomplished lots in your life and work. When was
the last time you took the time to acknowledge yourself? Take
a moment to make a list of the things you are most proud of
accomplishing in your life. This simple gesture and reflection
may give you that extra boost of energy you need to move through
your current challenge.
Try an attitude of gratitude. Take
a moment to see what is going well about the project you are
working on. See what is in your life, rather than focusing
on what is missing or lacking. This can be like a breath of
fresh air when we are concentrated on getting a task completed.
Break down an overwhelming project
into bite-sized pieces. Select one action on a daily basis
that moves you forward. The Great American Novel gets written,
one page at a time. Pick something that you can do in a specific
time frame that has a definitive beginning, middle and end.
There is immense satisfaction in taking action that creates
a direct result. And when we are working on a long-term project,
simple linear actions can give us the sense of forward momentum
we may need.
Do something for someone else. Random
acts of kindness can not only help others, but can help you
too. The key here is to give with an open hand and heart and
not out of a sense of duty or "should". In being
of service to others, we gain perspective on the difficulties
we may currently be experiencing.
Focus on the process, not the end result.
You'll have a marvelous future if you live well in today.
What would like to create in YOUR today?
And one of my favorite ways of getting
unstuck comes from the comedian Milton Berle: If opportunity
doesn't knock build a door.
Because everyone can use a little inspiration
now and then, here are some examples of people who kept on
going, even when the going was tough. And many of us have
benefited from what they created with their gifts and talents:
The Beatles were turned down by ten
recording companies before Capitol took them on as clients.
They kept knocking on doors until the right one opened. Their
music has now touched billions of lives.
Albert Einstein did not speak until
he was four years old, and didn't read until he was seven.
His teacher described him as "mentally slow, unsociable,
and adrift forever in foolish dreams." Einstein reshaped
our perception of how the Universe operates. Time Magazine
named him the "Person of the 20th Century".
Before he was elected to the presidency,
Abraham Lincoln lost nine public elections, declared bankruptcy
twice, and weathered a nervous breakdown and the death of
a fiancée. He is quoting as saying: "You cannot
fail unless you quit."
Babe Ruth, famous for setting a home
run record, also holds the record for strikeouts.
Harrison Ford played a bellboy in his
first Columbia picture, 1966's "Dead Heat on a Merry-Go-Round,"
and a studio executive told him, "You ain't got it, kid,"
the "it" being star quality. Ford laughs at the
story now.
In the 1950's, one of the best ways
struggling new talent could start on the road to fame and
fortune was to appear on a nationally televised program called
the "Ted Mack Amateur Hour." A singer from Tennessee
tried out for the show, but failed the audition. Today few
people under 50 remember the "Ted Mack Amateur Hour"
or any of the "winners" of the audition the singer
failed, but every year the legend of the young man from Tennessee,
Elvis Presley, grows.
Thomas Edison tried two thousand different
materials in search of a filament for the light bulb. When
none of them worked out, his assistant complained, "All
our work is in vain. We have learned nothing." Edison
replied confidently, "Oh, we have come a long way and
we have learned a lot. We now know that there are two thousand
elements which we cannot use to make a good light bulb."
Walt Disney was fired by a newspaper
editor for his lack of ideas. He also went bankrupt several
times before he built Disneyland.
The popular "Chicken Soup for
the Soul" book was rejected by 140 publishers. One publisher
said "yes" and the successful Chicken Soup series
was born.
Lea Brandenburg is a Personal Development
and Business Coach who works with clients to create strategies
for extraordinary lives and careers. Her areas of expertise
and passion are interpersonal and business communication,
inner wisdom and creativity. She also leads teambuilding and
communication workshops for corporate clients. You can find
out more about her or subscribe to her free monthly newsletter
at Creating Strategies.
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