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We, women, tend to think with our hearts, while they, the men, tend to feel with their heads. The reality is that they may just be as good at relationships as us; they simply handle things differently.

Look back in days when I had just fallen in love, I thought about him all day long. That was so very silly of me! I am lucky enough though, I have some girl friends even cut classes just to spend hours with their boyfriends. And as a good friend of them, I had started to think their love life was seriously interfering with their studies way too much. Well, it seems that most of us just cannot live normally or rationally when in love.

On the other hand, my heart-breaker was getting on with his studies or career. Sure, he did love me too, but he did not let one part of his life run or ruin the other. He did think about me (well… at least he said so), but his focus was usually directed at what was in front of him. He did not daydream about the good times over his computer games or working desk.

Now, I have learned that I should not juggle my emotions and work at once. Instead, I should segregate my love life from what are more important to my future. Guys are very keen on compartmentalizing the two different issues and do not let them interfere with each other. Well, this is one wise thing that I must copy from them.

One more thing, if he does not call me on time, I think that: Oh, what happened to our relationship? Is he no longer in love with me? Am I not important to him now? Does he not care about me anymore? Unfortunately, for them, it is just as simple as that: Sorry, I forgot to call you, because I was at work.

If I do not call him, he is not likely to be just sitting at home worrying and waiting for his phone to ring. Instead, he would pick up the phone and dial the most frequently dialed number in his call log. Not only boyfriends, but most of the guys. This is unfair, but I have to accept it. And I have learned not to put it on hold indefinitely.

Experiences make me grow; now I do not go crazy over love anymore. Not that I do not believe in guys, I just do not wish to be irrational again. I would not wait for the person I like to ring me up, I would not stay up late for him just to catch him on the Instant Messengers, I would not be upset when I get no sweet words from him today. I would study harder, sing louder, smile brighter, and live happier when he is out of reach at the moment. I know girls are more tantalizing when being busy and less available. Stories from other girls tell me that calling obssesively and hanging up on him are definitely wrong and immature tactics especially when he is capable of seeing your number on his caller ID.

However, this is also a clear sign of getting dumb when he does not call us (back) as "eagerly" or "passionately" as he did before. It is a more obvious signal if we are given an "I need space" or "I am really extremely tired and busy now" speech. Therefore, as requested, let go of them. When we are no longer the queens in their hearts, then every single thing we do is just useless and unmagic to them. Do not let them block our ways, nor do we block theirs. We should keep upgrading ourselves physically and mentally as to make ourselves more attractive.

Okay, how can you tell if a guy is in love with you? Easy, he finds all the ways he can to contact you. He gazes gently or deeply at you. He cares for you (helping you out with your Algebra assignment, lifting heavy things and opening door for you do not count). He rushes to meet you after he gets off from work or during his breaks. He may delay or reschedule but never cut the appointment you set with him. He does all the things, usually making silly faces or buying you flowers, just to see you smile again. He talks or asks more than you do. He gives you anything you like even though he is broke. He does not show you his griefs but explains to you his difficulties. Every little thing he says and does just show!

However, beware of the promises they make, they may not come true. If you take them seriously, you will just get hurt. What are those promises, you ask? Haha... They can be as small as giving you a call or as big as buying you a diamond ring.

Finally, how to attract guys? Sorry to tell you the truth, but accept it please... First off, have a pretty or cute (or at least, pleasant) face. Kidding~ Actually, be nice, be approachable! Be polite, be considerate, be understanding! Smile, giggle, grin, and laugh!! ^^ Guys like girls who look happy and easy going. Tears and frowns would just scare them away. Our vulnerability can be lovable too, so be weak occasionally. Then, talk, walk, dress, smell, act like a girl! Be a girl! Be a sweet girl!! Be true, be genuine, be natural, be yourself! Love youself! ;D Have brain! Intelligent girls are interesting and so much fun to talk to. Be smart and confident, but never conceited and dominant.

So, what is the greatest thing that the guys have taught met? BEING A GIRL IS COOL!

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