So, when a expectation breaks, the pain is real bad and is to such an extent that we try to forget the incident; instead of learning from it & thus may again do the same mistake & again bear the pain. But when a hope breaks, we suffer only minor dissapointment which goes of quickly. And we learn from the incident & become thankful for it cause the new lesson we learned helps us in becoming more cautious in our future considerations.

        5. I believe that the Expectation is advantageous when we've it only from ourselves. Since, we know & can be fully sure of only ourselves & the circumstances we are in ; we should expect things from self. And also, there should be 'limited expectation' among lifepartners. This is, I guess, necessary for them to get that feeling of having 'Exclusive & Special ' devotion of the partner. But the expectation should be very limited, otherwise, if expectation is very high then they may start treating their partner as a perfect being instead of a human. And if this happens, then even the minor fault/mistake of the partner may look as a major flaw/blunder leading to trouble in their relationship.
                I would say that Hope should be always there in every relationship. We should always have hope from the concerned people . So, the right place of hope is 'with others', since we can't know the other person completely & so can't be sure about that person or the circumstance he/she is in.
       A Word of Caution: Never Bring Expectaion In Any Relationship If You Want That Relationship To Be Happy &/or Fruitful &/or Sweet &/or Memorable.

         6. Emotional Choking means that we are completely under the control of our emotions so much so that we lose the sense of judgement & end up feeling confused . At this point, we are not even able to figure out what to think & even how to think. It's like nothing makes sense & we totally lose even ourselves.
             But, even under such a situation, we must remember that we are the only ones that are always with ourselves. And only we can help/control ourselves. It's our battle & we'll have to fight it out & try our Best to Succeed . Others can only try to help (or be with) us, but then too, we've to be open for help.
               All it takes to overcome this Emotional Choking is a little rememberance that we are not alone ; we are still with ourselves.